I am having a hard time moving on from a high school sweetheart. You would think after nine years I would stop thinking about him. But above that I am married (and I have to say happily) and he is married. He is going to graduate from medical school soon. I cant determine if it is the fact that he has moved on to bigger and better things in his life and I feel left behind or the loss of my innocence with a first love still wont let me move on. I think my life would be better if after we broke up (which I was the heart breaker) I never heard anyhting mopre about him. But I still bump into his mom every couple of years and I talk to his cousin. Can some help me with an answer before I lose my mind!
2006-10-06 07:42:09 · 2 answers · asked by J Richling 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hey, you're not alone. I've been thinking about a woman I used to work with for 20 years and counting. We met in 1986. We become VERY close friends. Then I fell in love with her, but she "didn't feel that way about me." Needless to say the friendship ended quickly thereafter. I still think about her every day and dream about her almost every night. "better to have loved and lost..."
2006-10-06 07:49:08 · answer #1 · answered by jim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's a long time. You may want to consider seeing a therapist, only because it's been 9 years. You know, we always think in our minds "what if..." And we create these fantasy worlds in our minds. But, in reality, it probably wouldn't be anything like we imagined. He's not the same person as you knew him 9 years ago. Are you the same person you were 9 years ago? You really need to move on and let him go.
2006-10-06 07:49:21 · answer #2 · answered by ☆skyblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋