im just wondering.because there a bunch of woman here complaining about their husband watching porn and im like is not like if they can f u c k the tv.so im just wondering.
2006-10-06 07:32:15 · 21 answers · asked by super girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think porn is cheating, but if it takes the place of a realtionship with your spouse then it is a problem. I don't think there is any reason you can't enjoy a movie or some form of porn together for fun. It is when the fantasy begins to REPLACE reality that it becomes an issue.
2006-10-06 07:34:19 · answer #1 · answered by Christina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think, "cheating" is defined differently by different people. I tend to feel it isn't just about "f*cking", i.e., an act of actual intercourse. I also don't think there's a clear black-and-white separation between "cheating" and "not cheating". It's a gradient, and different people's definitions fall somewhere on this gradient. I personally don't see intercourse as a big deal - but the feelings my husband could potentially develop for "the other woman" would definitely seem threatening to me. For the most part, I try to be realistic in my expectations; I don't expect my partner to never again look at, or fantacize about, other women; but I hope that the bond which he and I share he will not share with anyone else.
2006-10-06 14:46:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is such thing as emotional infidelity.....that's being close to another person other than your significant other. Sharing that openness, and giving your best, and being caring, attentive, and supportive of them......while your significant other is then treated like an 'outsider' or at best, just okay.....but no where near as special as the other person.
My husband even considered masterbation on my part to be infidelity. His opinion was that if it satisfies me, and therefore makes it so that I don't want him sexually......it is cheating him. So, it's cheating.
I guess if a guy would rather get off on his own, by watching a porno and his wife can't get so much as 'felt up' by him.......then it is a problem......and though there isn't an actual person to blame......it's infidelity in another form.
2006-10-06 14:42:32 · answer #3 · answered by lilac b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything that takes his eyes off of his woman in a sexual manner can be cheating. Sex is just cheating with his joint. Porn is cheating with his eyes. On line affairs is cheating with his heart. Anytime he desires a woman other than his wife is cheating. It's not the porn that a lot of women don't like. It's the fulfillment men get out of it. A man should be with his wife when he wants to be satisfied in that way.
2006-10-06 14:38:50 · answer #4 · answered by vitamin D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're married, you made a commitment to honor each other, and "foresake all others"- trashing your brain with porn is not honoring your vows because you are introducing other people (real or not) into the relationship. Regularly indulging in sexual fantasy about other people, whether in one’s mind, through reading magazines or watching films, is a form of infidelity. You have made a commitment to be sexually monogamous with your partner, and you break it by deliberately focusing your sexual attention on someone else. Intimacy is the shared experience of closeness and connection between two people. Sexual pornography destroys intimacy because, by definition, it introduces a third element into your relationship--the thought or picture or video of another person or sexual situation.
2006-10-06 14:37:18 · answer #5 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I define cheating as physically inserting, licking, touching, tasteing another person in such a way that brings sexual satisfaction of some sort to either person.
so.. watching porn? not cheating.
phone sex? not cheating
cybersex? not cheating
webcam sex? not cheating
friend disrobes, and you pleasure yourself to them, but there's never any touching? not cheating- Now... thats not to say a trust has been broken - that trust being that you will not get nakid or have someone else nakid in the same room with you during sexual activity - between you and your wife and she would have a right to be angry over that. I believe that generally when you are married it is an acceptable expectation that the only person that would get to see you sexually gratify yourself would be her and no one else.
Again....cheating is physically inserting, licking, touching, tasteing another person in such a way that brings sexual satisfaction of some sort to either person.
2006-10-06 14:40:43 · answer #6 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends what the partner is comforable with. I'm not a big consumer of porn but when i watch a movie or look at stuff on the net my wife knows and will actually comment on the girls looks. I guess the fact that it doesn't bother her doesn't make porn all that alluring. You see for me it's not a forbidden fruit.
2006-10-06 14:38:56 · answer #7 · answered by St.Anger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Kissing inappropriately (cheek is fine for friends)
2. Groping or touching another in a sexual way (private areas)
3. The obvious...f'king
4. Sometimes, flirting can go too far
5. Talking dirty to another who's not your mate (phone, online, at work)
6. They say having impure thought of another is considered cheating (I don't agree, but I think I've heard that somewhere)
2006-10-06 14:36:02 · answer #8 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well every womans opinion is different, but I think only intimacy with another is cheating. My husband can watch as much porn as he wants. If he even lays a finger on anyone else...bye bye hubby!
2006-10-06 14:34:53 · answer #9 · answered by heyheyhey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watching porn is not cheating. They're not physically there. There's no chance that your man will be having sex with any of those people. But there is emotional affairs. Anything that involves intimacy with another person is cheating, whether it's emotionally of physically.
2006-10-06 14:37:26 · answer #10 · answered by texas y'all! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋