We're a young couple in our early twenties with a HUGE problem. He feels that I keep alot of my feelings in and don't tell him anything. I feel like I tell him how I feel but he says he knows there's things I hold in. What kinds of things do you guys want to know? He feels like he doesn't really know everything about me but I'm completely puzzled on what he wants to know. I ask him what it is I don't tell him, but he says that I should think about it. He says this relationship will end if I can't communicate clearly which breaks me up inside because I love him to death. Because of my poor communication problems he feels he can't trust me because if I can't tell him something as small as " how I feeel about my fathre" then I am probably not telling him other things. People please help me on what he might want to hear...we have a baby on the way and this stress is killing me. I just wish I knew how to talk better...
2006-10-06 07:31:45 · 7 answers · asked by Tara A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's our nature to want to help women with their problems. We typically try to fix everything. It sounds like he is a very sensitive guy who wants to be there for you, it's just that you aren't willing to give him what he wants. Which is telling him how you feel about things, hence there is a trust issue with him. Men need to feel like the provider, like they are there to fix everything. Unfortunately in most cases, women just want someone to listen to them. I would just be honest with him about how you feel and tell him that I know you want to be there for me. Just try to make an effort to communicate with him, the more you do, the more he'll trust you. Good luck!
2006-10-06 07:52:17 · answer #1 · answered by Rogodogo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless he can tell you specifically what he's talking about, I'd say HE has the problem with communication. His response to you is like saying "If you don't know , I'm not going to tell you" It's idiotic and juvenile. This isn't YOUR problem it's his, and if you can't see that, maybe you do need counseling so this jerk can't continue to play these mind games with you. You and your baby will be fine, with or without him, and probably much healthier mentally, if he's not in the picture, with the way things are now, anyway. Good luck.
2006-10-06 07:42:29 · answer #2 · answered by N0_white_flag 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should sit down with him and tell him how you feel. Ask HIM what he feels he doesn't know about you and then go from there. You seemed to have communicated on here effectively, so I just think it's a matter of "what" to communicate, which coming from him would be your best bet.
Try not to stress, it's unfortunate he would consider leaving you while you're carrying his child!
Hope everything works well for all of you.
2006-10-06 07:38:51 · answer #3 · answered by Chanel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what you "feel about your father" is your own business.
Communicating about "feelings" is a bullsh*t way of not dealing with the present. I've known a lot of people that come out of a therapist's office and all of a sudden your the one that is "NOT communicating" It's crap plain and simple. Tell him "YOU ARE NOT A THERAPIST You are my boyfriend.." Inform him it is not important for you to psychoanalyze every little detail of your life.
2006-10-06 07:36:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
this sound like a man looking for a way out of your relationship. or he doesn't no how to talk to you to get the answer he need to make him feel wonted. what i would do is ask him to wright ever thing that he wont's to no about you and you wright everything you wont to learn about him and hope you to can find each other in the middle.. good luck
2006-10-06 07:41:45 · answer #5 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend has a bit of of the identical predicament... sit down him down and speak to him approximately it... do not location blame you must see it from his aspect too, possibly hes no longer used to a truly girl who demands to listen to from her guy. simply permit him recognize that you just might admire a choice simply to peer how your doing suggestion the day or simply an replace in your plans for the night time. are not making it an issue only a dialogue.... then the following time it occurs you'll be able to take it a bit of extra and categorical that you would be able to no longer be capable to manage the loss of verbal exchange.
2016-08-29 06:55:25 · answer #6 · answered by rentschler 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is comparing you to other women who works with him who do communicate better than you. Maybe he wishes deep down you could be like those other women that he sees at work everyday. Good luck.
2006-10-06 07:37:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋