Why the heck does my husband and all guys for that matter watch porn? Is there something wrong with me? What am I ugly or something??? what should I do to stop him?
2006-10-06 07:23:21 · 22 answers · asked by tinkerbella 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Look it's not that im insicure but ... everyone says that it's not cheating,, to me.. well... it feals that way cause those are accuall women he's looking at. And I tryed looking at it with him, but I still catch him looking by himself. So that makes me insucure, thats why im starting to wonder if it's me that is the problem. I ask him whats wrong with me and he says there is nothing wrong with me or my looks, but he will say that anyway, to shut me up.
2006-10-06 08:06:20 · update #1
You don't have a problem... so stop worrying about that... He has serious issues with porn addiction... Sure, a lot of guys watch it every now and then... but they can leave it alone and not become obsessed with it... They don't "need" to have it... I think having you watch something you aren't interest in and feel threatened by is a cruel and sad joke... He obviously doesn't respect your feelings or thoughts on the subject... He has to deal with his problem and consider your feelings more...
2006-10-09 05:05:38 · answer #1 · answered by deakjone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is, are you being satisfied. Does he watch porn instead of satisfying your sexual needs? Because if he would rather watch smut then be intimate with his living, breathing wife, there is a huge problem and I would recommend counseling or therapy.
But if your sex life is healthy, but he just likes to watch some porn from time to time when you are not around, you need to accept it. Being turned on sexually is different for every guy. The more you explore and experiment the more enjoyable sex can be.
It sounds like you are really hung up on this, but I would recommend watching it with him and get involved. Let him share his fantasies with you, accept him and all his flaws. He is probably afraid you will judge him for it or think he is a pervert, so he hides it. He won't share it with you unless he can trust you won't judge him. And it sounds like you already do judge him.
But if you require your husband to be someone that doesn't want or like porn, you don't really know him and you probably have deeper issues than porn.
2006-10-06 07:47:53 · answer #2 · answered by tightlies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know from personal experience and from friends. you can screw a guy 24/7 and while you sleep he will be up watching porn.
1. our sex drive is not even comparable to women's it doesn't ever turn off, i'm thinking about tities right now, and so is your husband.
2. men have a natrual curiousity with the world. when it comes to women's bodies we want to see them all. variety is in our nature. so rather than go find a girl and boink her your husband is doing the honorable thing and oogling them through a glass screen.
3. it's got nothing to do with you and it's not a bad thing. let him keep doing it. in fact watch them with him, you may get some ideas and you'll both be turned on and have some great sex. besides, if he can't watch porn he won't get the variety and may just go find a girl to boink behind your back. i'm not saying he;s unloyal, just saying you never know how many marrages are saved by porn until you take porn away.
porn is a good thing!
2006-10-06 07:30:27 · answer #3 · answered by nightmare_gorilla 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could be the sexiest woman. You could be the perfect woman. All men will still enjoy watching porn to some degree. All men are visual creatures and we look at other women even if we are very happy with our current situation.
Try not to take it personally. It has no reflection on the woman whatsoever. Talk to him and tell him how you feel and that you're trying to understand. Most likely he'll try to compromise in a certain way, because he still loves you regardless of his penchant to porn. Maybe you can watch with him. Could be very satisfying for the both of you.
2006-10-06 07:32:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you care why he/they look at porn? Feeling alittle insecure are we? Must be judging by your question. By the way...you aren't going to stop them. Complaining about it will only add fuel to the fire.
You people amaze me sometimes. Let me ask you this....would you rather have him looking at porn, which for all you know may heighten his sexual experience with you....or would you rather he be online hooking up with some broad who probably make you look so inadequate and frigid in bed that he starts screwing her on a daily basis and ignores you?
Never thought about that huh? Nooo...why would you.? It can always be worse. Oh..and just because it may be stimuli to both of your sex lives it DOES NOT mean that he's imagining that your someone else.
You have two choices....either sit down with him...see what he's looking at and maybe see if it's something you'd care to do/be involved with, etc. OR...you sit there...look at it and just say..."sorry dear...I've tried but I never have found this stuff to be stimulating" and let it go.
There are much more important things to conern yourself with other than being a crusader against porn.
2006-10-06 07:52:43 · answer #5 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are the chances that you will grow enormous boobs tomorrow? Will you have a three-way with him and his best friend? Will you make love to your sister and let your husband watch? Can you become Asian?
Porn is more than just the sex, but a woman who is uninhibited in what she is looking for in sex, things that you may not be able to give, things that you are unwilling to give (I haven't met a whole lot of women who do anal sex) and hot fantasies that you are not in a position to satisfy.
The problem with porn is its corrosive nature and men begin to think this is how all women act, when they don't.
Like a trip to the bar, once in a while is OK, but a steady diet is a recipe for disaster
2006-10-06 07:29:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 21:22:07 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with men looking at porn. It has no reflection at all on his respect or desire for you.
Men are visually stimulated. All men masturbate. It is purely natural and only fantasy for him to use pornography to masturbate.
You are extremely insecure if you think he should stop. Try sharing it with him instead.
As long as he is not cheating and he is still fulfilling your sexual needs, then there should be no problem. Again, purely fantasy and not a reflection of any lack of commitment to or desire for you.
Just let it go.
2006-10-06 07:28:57 · answer #8 · answered by jimvalentinojr 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with watching porn. Would you rather he was out screwing around? My girl watches porn with me occasionally. In fact, she says she'd watch more of it if the guys were better looking. So come on good looking guys! Get in front of the camera!
2006-10-06 07:27:16 · answer #9 · answered by Gene Rocks! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG I think I've just turned into a lesbian after reading these answers. I seriously don 't think I have the heart to be with a man anymore. They all lie to you when they are dating you and tell you what you want to hear. And then they "catch" you by marrying you, and then watch porn all day. Meanwhile you want SEX. Yes I am having a breakdown!
2006-10-06 07:39:29 · answer #10 · answered by jenlovely01 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋