3 years ago I was engaged to a wonderful man. We had been living to together for a few months. To make a long story short I moved out and never explained to him why I left. There were options that could have been worked out for us to be together. I freaked and ran instead of dealing with things. He was devistated and kept begging me to stay and explain what happened with us. I broke his heart and have always been very sorry. I am wondering if it's too late to apologize. He has been seeing someone for a while now and I don't want to cause trouble. Should I contact him to apologize or just leave him alone?
2006-10-06 07:23:18 · 19 answers · asked by laugheveryday 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Are you apologising to make you feel better or to genuinely apologise for your treatment of him? If it's to make you feel better then leave the poor guy to get on with re-building his life. You know that if you contact him he'll probably seize the chance to see you again if only to have questions answered that you left hanging.This might seem ok to you but it would be giving him false hope, and unless youre prepared to put yourself at his mercy in order to make a genuine go of things with him, don't hurt him again.. it would be unforgiveably cruel of you and might really hurt him more emotionally. If it's a bit of both then write him a letter explaining everthing but resist the temptation to put a contact address on it unless you're really prepared to treat him as he deserves..after all.. the only thing this poor guy's guilty of is loving you. Keep his best interests at heart and try not to put what you want above what would be best for this guy who loved you. Good Luck. x
2006-10-06 07:34:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's never too late to apologize. As long as that's all you are really going for, and it's evident that you are not trying to reconcile, things should go well. Giving him an explanation is a great gift you can give him - he may have developed issues that could hurt his new relationship because of what you did. Just explain what happened, give him your sincere apology and be on your way. You will feel better having that weight lifted, and he will finally have the answers he's been needing.
2006-10-06 07:30:13 · answer #2 · answered by stargirllll4311 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wouldn't hurt anything for you to get some closure (if nothing else) on the matter. All you can do is call him up, apologize for the cold feet, and let him know WHY (as I'm sure he's wondering). It's never too late for an apology, plus it'll make you both feel better. I hope everything works out okay.
2006-10-06 07:26:31 · answer #3 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So basically you screwed him over and now that he's seeinng someone for a while, you're wondering if you should pop over and explain yourself? No. Leave him alone. Why open old wounds and pour salt all over them? Not only that, why assume he cares or wants to hear or will even believe/accept your apology?
2006-10-06 07:27:10 · answer #4 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you left without a word and didn't explain anything, you might as well just leave him alone. Contacting him now might cause more heartache or bring back the heartache he had when you left. Let him be happy now.
2006-10-06 07:25:43 · answer #5 · answered by marypaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it would be horribly wrong to try and break them up since you blew him off. But if you want to apologize, I would send a well though out email letting him know you're not tryin to make him feel guilty being with her, or want him to dump her..u are just letting him know u are very sorry
2006-10-06 07:27:07 · answer #6 · answered by heyheyhey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's never to late to apologise, no matter how long it's been even if it's two years or if he's married, he will know why you left and see what he can do to fix it or he can watch out for it in the next relationship! Good Luck~
2006-10-06 07:27:31 · answer #7 · answered by S.D.V. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it makes you feel better, write him a letter and apologize for being immature and hurting him.
Make it clear that you will not attempt further contact out of respect for his current relationship; mean it.
2006-10-06 07:27:34 · answer #8 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not see him in person unless you are trying to get back together... i advice you that you just send a letter explaining pouring your heart about what happened,... i mean maybe he already has someone else
2006-10-06 07:28:31 · answer #9 · answered by My dreams are my sanity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really should let it be. If he is seeing someone then he was able to move on. I would have to question what are your motives for wanting to contact him now? That might be something you need to ask yourself. Good Luck.
2006-10-06 07:27:01 · answer #10 · answered by Christina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋