Ok, so I was looking for a health section but I really couldnt find one in here.
I have a serious question.
I am turning 18 next month and I am really looking forward to loosing my virginity.
I just have five questions.
Will it really hurt the first time?
If so, what can I do to prepare for it where it wont hurt.
If it does hurt, how many times do I have to do it before it starts to feel good.
Does a man's penis size really matter?
And finally what does it feel like when a man ejaculates inside you.
(Please be very specific, this is the part that I am looking forward to the most and I want to know if you can barely feel it or if when it happens its like the best part of sex)
These are serious questions to be answered by LADIES ONLY!
I am too embarassed to talk to anyone in person about this and need honest answers.
I can only lose my virginity once so PLEASE HELP.
And before you ask the man I plan on losing my virginity to is also a virgin I'll use Pill
2006-10-06 06:46:07 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
I doubt it will hurt for you. I read one of your past questions that was similar to this and you said
"I know that things will be a little different for me because I am a virgin but I have masturbated A LOT and my vagina is kind of used to having large dildo's inside it."
If you are use to a dildo, then an actual man probably won't hurt you, especially not the first few times since it won't last that long.
2006-10-06 06:56:27 · answer #1 · answered by Sharon 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yes it hurts and there is no getting around that because your hymen rips apart. You will bleed after. I bled several times after the first. But when it starts to feel good, you will definitely know. Yes size matters. Women who say it doesn't are lying....big time. Size matters because you want to feel it plus the ridges on a penis (at the head) helps to stimulate you so you can climax. That will take practice though, the first time I had an orgasm I thought I was going to pee all over the guy but then it is this warm explosion and your whole body shakes. It is awesome. When a guy comes in you, sometimes you can feel it and sometimes you can't. However, you should be using a condom so you won't feel it!! Different positions will feel different for different women. You should experiment. Make sure you are comfortable with the other person and don't think you have to prove you love a guy just by doing it. If a guy really loves you, he will wait until you are ready. Well, good luck, don't be pressured, and I can't stress enough to use protection to avoid pregnancy and STD's.
2006-10-06 07:28:54 · answer #2 · answered by l'il mama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may or may not hurt... It depends on your anatomy and that of your partner. For me, it felt like a mild cramp, and then I felt a "pop", and then absolute bliss. I hardly bled at all.
Best bet is to have lots of foreplay, which will naturally loosen the vagina and provide lubrication. Also make sure that you stimulate the clitoris well, to create orgasm bwefore he enters you, which will also help you to relax. Try not to be too nervous about it, b/c that will cause you to tighten up your muscles and cause pain. If you both are gentle, and take your time, it should feel good the FIRST time.
From what I remeber of high school, a lot of girls I knew had very uncomfortable "first times" because the boy rushed into penetration before the girl was adequately stimulated, and that's what causes the unnecessary discomfort.
The boy's anatomy and yours will work together; a very large penis or an exceptionally tough hymen will cause excess discomfort for the first few times, but you can work together to minimize this. Until the hymen is completely broken you will have discomfort, so if this is a major problem for you you can see the dr to have it "finished". Unfortunately, you won't know until you've tried a few times and that can be discouraging. But most girls won't have this problem if they take their time, have fun, have lots of foreplay to (for the girl) orgasm, and relax!
2006-10-06 07:08:42 · answer #3 · answered by Angela M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It didn't hurt my first time but everybody is different. Make sure you are good and lubed up first and if you have a lot of fore play you will do much better. The more turned on you are and the more wet you are and so on the more open you will be. If you just go right into the sex then you will be tight and it will hurt more. For me, like I said it didn't hurt at all but everyone is different. If he's a virgin too that is good, just make sure you two take care and go slow. It shouldn't be too bad. The first guy I was with was really big, and it still didn't hurt. But it depends on you and him. You shouldn't really be able to feel it when they ejaculate. But if you know what to look for you can kinda tell cuz you can feel their muscles spazzing so to speak. You will learn to know. But it is different with every guy as well. I like it when my husband get's off because I know he has been as satisfied as I have been. Don't look at your first time to be something so sexually satisfying. Look at it as a learning experience. Sex isn't always great in the beginning like anything it takes practice and patience and both of you willing to learn what the other likes. I commend you for making it to 18 I was 16 when I lost mine. Now a days and 18 yr old virgin is rare. I don't think it's anything to be ashamed of, both my husband and I were not virgins when we got together and it made for a better sex life because we both had experience. Good luck!
This is to the people who have been answering this... Come on people she is not asking for your permission she has obviously made up her mind. She wants advice not preaching. I am glad she made it as far as she did. She was not asking for your comments on whether or not she should do it but rather she wants to know how.
2006-10-06 07:02:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want it to hurt the first time? See if your doctor will surgically break your hymen for you. Do use a good lubricant it can really enhance your pleasure. As to when you will start to enjoy intercourse it is really dependent on a partner who will listen to you and what you like, good foreplay is important. Penis size can matter, too big can hurt and too small can feel like nothing at all. What does it feel like when a man ejaculates inside you? Like something pulsing inside your vagina, and no it's not the best part of sex. The little squirt at the end is not the point of love making. Good Luck, I hope you do enjoy it.
2006-10-06 07:08:56 · answer #5 · answered by sffan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't hurt(except for the first two blows)----a man's penis in your virgina feels good (you can feel it though) the size of the penis does matter when it enters the virgina because the bigger the more the pain is(only the first couple blows) the smaller is not as fun though. But you should be looking forward to having sex though---i did and i had a blast---just make sure that you wear something realy sexy and the rest of the times you have sex---the blows wont hurt.
2006-10-06 08:49:39 · answer #6 · answered by leesh!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is not anything unsuitable with you. My brothers draw in the loopy ladies too and for a few purpose I draw in all the loopy men :). There quite is not any bloodless rough fact the one factor I can let you know is to take a look at to get to understand the woman first and if want be then ask round approximately her then make your selection on in the event you wish to head out on a date or no longer. After one or 2 dates then quite come to a decision if she is a well lady or a whack process. Note: if she will get to clingy or possessive within the first few dates or says she loves you then you definately must run intent there might be disorders afterward down the road Good good fortune hun!!!!
2016-08-29 06:56:34 · answer #7 · answered by rentschler 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, I'm not a girl but I will tell you if you have used a dildo it will not hurt you as you are only technically a virgin.You have had size in your vagina so the only way it could hurt is if you do not wait to get lubricated. Does size matter, to a point I guess but not in general as a girl is only as tight as the muscle control she has ( the same muscles you use to hold your pee, so practice) and if she can squeeze it properly she can find the same feeling in virtually any penis of reasonable size.
2006-10-06 09:40:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone female is different, it didn't hurt me, lots say it does.
Make sure he takes his time with lots of foreplay and he needs to be gentle. With him being a virgin expect the first time to go very fast:) Penis size really doesn't matter, if he takes his time and gives you all the attention you need first.
If you are attuned and feel it when he ejaculates you can feeling him getting even harder and it does feel good, sometimes this might even push you over the edge if you are about there.
2006-10-06 06:56:56 · answer #9 · answered by sweetsmile 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As an individual you may react differently I mean I know for some people it didn't hurt and for some it did. Yes you will bleed and if it is painful only your body will be able to decide when it wants to get use to it. Make sure the person know u are a virgin so that he don't go in trying to rip your **** cause there are some beast out there.
You should use a condom for real, the pill is not going to protect you from HIV, HERPES, CHLAMYDIA, GONORRHEA, CRABS, SYPHILIS UHHHGGG!!!!!!!!
So don't worry about how sperm feel like until you are ready for marriage.
2006-10-06 07:00:10 · answer #10 · answered by redbone_lds 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋