I went to a party last night and I drank a lot. I was with my female friend only. The next morning I was really sore. I smelled wierd stuff on me also. I asked my female friend what happened but she didn't remember also. After 1.5 month, I found out that I am pregnant, How should I tell my parents? How should I tell my boyfriend that I got raped and got pregnant?
2006-10-06 06:29:42 · 17 answers · asked by Amy T. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
just tell your boyfriend you got pregnant
2006-10-07 02:49:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well you can't be that far along if you just went to the party last night. Something in your story isn't right anyway. And your boyfriend isn't the father of the baby? How do you know? Did you not have sex that entire time period? You shouldn't have been that drunk in the first place. Your story sounds a little fishy though. Good luck on that but I wouldn't accuse someone of rape if it never happened. You don't even know if you were. You can say yes even if you are drunk. It's not the guys responsibility to make sure you aren't so drunk you won't remember it in the morning. That was your job. Good luck with the baby, I guess.
2006-10-06 13:36:17 · answer #2 · answered by Baby girl 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
yeah i agree, pray and pray to got its your boyfriends baby. Are you sure you were raped, I mean if you were drunk and went AA long with it that's one thing but being raped is hella serious. Like beat your *** and send someone to jail serious. Look this is why I ask. I was raped a while back and I yelled " no "several times, he was in his twenties I was 18 and still to this day I hate him and he nows he ****** up. Then years later my little sister came home drunk and cried she was raped well my brother got his homies and messed up these guys that were involved. I mean messed them up and my parents called the cops because she was13. well come to find out she got trained along with other girls at a ditch party and they all were in it together. So yes I am ashamed of her. So, honey, you gotta now what exactley happen. Then someone needs to be notifed. ~k~ Rape is a big deal and now your gonna be a mama. Babys having babys. I hope your parents understand. I'll totally pray for you..Good luck honey.
2006-10-06 14:11:33 · answer #3 · answered by Sissy Girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you need to talk to your Mom or another adult you can trust. Now don't wait. Try to remember who all was there & get your friend to help you & make a list of names. Find out if you can from someone else at the party if they seen you with any male. But this is rape dear. Someone needs to pay for what has happen to you. The only mistake you made was drinking way to much.Good Luck.
2006-10-06 13:36:38 · answer #4 · answered by smiley 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't care what anyone else says.......if you had sex while under the influence of alcohol or drugs, you were UNABLE to give knowing consent........and that makes this rape.
Go to your parents. I know, you think they will be mad for your drinking....but they HAVE to know, sweetie. As for your boyfriend, if he really cares about you, he will stand beside you through this. If he doesn't, then you didn't need him in the first place.
Get tested for STD's immediately. Since you don't know who the perpetrator of this was, you have to know if you are well. I would also recommend being retested after about 6 months, just for safety. You can get the testing done free at most clinics.
Hang in there, sweetie.....and keep your head up. You didn't do anything wrong beyond showing lack of judgement for the drinking, and no one has the right to blame you for anything else.
2006-10-06 13:37:29 · answer #5 · answered by Critter Lady 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ok wait...
You said you went to party last and this happened or did you mean you went to a party one night and this happened?
if this happened last night and your 1 and half months pregnant, it would have to your boyfriends baby not as a result of last night.
please clarify and good luck.
2006-10-06 13:42:35 · answer #6 · answered by duder 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a serious problem. First you need to get tested for every STD out there--go to planned parenthood where they should be free. You should just explain to your loved ones what happened and if they love you they will be there for you. Good luck!
2006-10-06 13:32:55 · answer #7 · answered by slow-n-sexy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know your parents better than any of us. They need to know,no matter what!! Are you sure that the baby isn't your boyfriends? I don't believe in abortion. But you could find a couple that what to adopt.
2006-10-06 13:35:27 · answer #8 · answered by whataboutme 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to a cousler or something and maybe they can help you tell your parents.
That is sad that guys would do this to someone
DO you kow anyone from that party that may know who did this to you??
also I would call the cops, they need to be punished they could be doing this to more girls
2006-10-06 13:34:06 · answer #9 · answered by jenettpurvis 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont know if its to late or not but perhaps get in contact with the police about what happend.
Its possible this person may be going around and doing this to other people as well.
2006-10-06 13:36:31 · answer #10 · answered by Dynamo 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1) do you have money? 2) do you believe in abortion? you still have time. If you have money, then you can get an abortion without anyone knowing. Your boyfriend will dump you, unless he is madly in love with you. Sorry to hear about your situation. But if you want to keep your boyfriend and not lose the respect of your parents, get an abortion and they will never find out. And if you don't believe in abortion, we'll adoption.
2006-10-06 13:33:41 · answer #11 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋