My son lived with him last year for 3 months and that was enough. our son hasnt been back down there since(the boys 13) he has friends up here and not there he doesnt want to go to dads except when he wants to. and im getting the blame from his father saying its my fault. i feel the boys old enough to make his own decsion on this issue(am i wrong) ?
2006-10-06 06:07:20 · 8 answers · asked by rocs 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Since when is a 13 year old kid old enough to make that type of decision.Its up to both you and your ex to make decisions on the overall welfare of the child.His input is important but dont let it be the deciding factor.Yor son needs his father just as much as he needs you.If he stayed at his fathers place longer maybe he could make friends there as well.I am an adult but as a child I was in a similar situation and in the end my parents had the final say so and at that time i didnt agree with it but in retrospect it was the right decision.Your ex has a point as well because even if your son doesnt want to go to his dads you should make him because your son will be more balanced as an adult with the input of both of you guys in his life.I am living proof of how important a father is to a young man,to answer your question you are wrong a 13 year old is not old enough to make that type of decision and you would be ill advised to allow a 13 year old to make adult decisions he is just a child.So as long as his father his handling his financial responsibilty there is no reason why he should be kept out your sons life or to go visit him when he's ready.
2006-10-06 06:35:54 · answer #1 · answered by bigchief 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think he's old enough to decide whether or not to go to his father's but I also think the reason he doesn't want to go is because he's mad at his dad for some reason or other. Now thats his father already, he might as well have a good relationship with him. So you and your x-hubby need to talk and find your son some help dealing with his issues so you can get to the root of the problem. As for x-hubby, tell him to get off your back.
2006-10-06 06:15:43 · answer #2 · answered by Carrie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a double edged sword. You had been a person whore and cheated on her. She cheated correct again. Thats lifestyles. You achieve what you sow. You men must paintings this out in a mature method. Which way no combating, no bickering, no insulting the opposite, and also you must attention on what's well in your kids., Joint custody is a well factor. I dont suppose you or her deserve sole custody What makes you suppose that you're any larger than her. You BOTH cheated so you don't have any correct to get pissy along with her approximately potentially dishonest on you. How lengthy did it take for you new woman to transport in. Probably lovely rattling rapid. Pretty a lot except you could have a ton of evidence that she is an not worthy mother, she could pop out forward in courtroom. Its no longer continuously reasonable however judges have a tendency to rule within the mothers desire in circumstances like this. She has a role now and the courts wont relatively care how she acquired the process. They simplest care that she maintains the process. You must take the joint custody present. Or you're going to grow to be hanging your kids through authorized hell. Dont try for complete custody simply seeing that you're pissed at her. Its no longer doing any well for any individual worried.
2016-08-29 06:58:37 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as dad isnt neglecting him or being abusive you should make him go. As long as those things arent happening, Dad has every right to see his boy even if his son doesnt like the location that he lives in.
2006-10-06 06:28:26 · answer #4 · answered by teenypurplebinky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, your son is still a child. Do not let him control the situation. If you feel he is not getting taken care of with his father. DON'T SENT HIM. If he is just being a kid and wants to say with his friend. SEND HIM. He need his father. Even though his is young and does not realize it.
2006-10-06 06:23:15 · answer #5 · answered by Cali Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should make them see their dad. Kids at that age are stubborn and are definitely not old enough to make that decision. I'd say, let them decide that when they are 18, that way they won't ruin their relationship with their father.
2006-10-06 06:11:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did the court order say about visitations? If you don't like the way it is set up .. get a lawyer and go back to court. Good Luck! :)
2006-10-06 06:11:11 · answer #7 · answered by tysavage2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I LIVE IN MISSOURI AND HAD THE SAME PROBLEM WITH MY SON AND HE DIDNT WANT TO GO WE CULD NOT FIGURE OUT WHY AND HIS DAD ENDED UP GOING TO JAIL BECAUSE OF WHAT HE DID TO MY SON .YOUR SON S OLD ENUFF THAT HE CAN CHOOSE SO YOUR IN THE RIGHT
2006-10-06 06:12:38 · answer #8 · answered by nikkitillott_1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋