My husband has a habit of watching porn behind my back. I don't depribe him of sex, and i don't think im ugly. Im not over weight, so why would he still be addicted to watching porn? Please tell me what im doing wrong?? = (
2006-10-06 05:53:16 · 23 answers · asked by tinkerbella 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I saw your yahoo 360 page, and your not ugly at all, your accually very prety, thats not the problem, accually thats not usually the problem anyway. It's usually any issue within them selves, men are allways looking for something different, they never seem to be happy with what they allready have. hang in there.
2006-10-06 07:14:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he really "addicted"? Or just watches it every once in a while? Addiction is not good, no matter if it's porn, drugs or anything else. But there's a difference between "addiction" and occasional indulgence. I'm a woman, and I look at porn every once in a while. It's even more common for guys. It doesn't reflect his feelings about you, or who you are as a woman. It's just the way guys (and women) have fun. But if he watches it so much that it interferes with the daily functioning, he needs to address his addiction - and get help.
2006-10-06 14:31:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He watches porn because it's exciting, stimulating, fun and possibly to get ideas to try out with you!! I have been married for 16 years, its still really great between us with regular sex and the occasional mind blowing session. I don't understand all the fuss, Porn is for women as much as for men you know. If you have a fairly decent marriage and are comfortable talking openly about sex then you should perhaps watch some with him sometimes, If you feel shy about it, then wait til you're in bed and then say, Honey, i wouldn't mind watching a naughty film for a bit and slip one into the vcr, trust me, he'll love that. act like its not that big of a deal and try to relax, it will make for some heated sessions afterwards!! If He sees that you can enjoy it, he will at least not do it so furtively behind your back. It's not as if he is cheating on you, it's surely not because he actually lusts after a slut in a 10 min clip, it's just the act he's enjoying and quite frankly, I'd rather my husband be at home watching some naughty sites while i'm out shopping than frequenting girly bars! Good luck :)
2006-10-06 13:18:52 · answer #3 · answered by laveranda1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-10-06 20:50:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Porn is fine. Just because he likes it does not mean he is addicted to it and it really is no reflection on you. With porn he can enjoy what he wants with no pressure or exertion, he can enjoy some things that he may not want to ask you for. It can also make him a better lover.
It shouldn't be something he should have to hide. Tell him you know he looks at it and it's okay with you and that maybe the two of you could watch it together.
2006-10-06 13:04:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't an issue of you being ugly or unattractive. For some men it is literally an addiction.
Keep in mind men are visual creatures.....so it fulfills him to watch. I have an idea.....why don't you and him make some movies......then he'll be watching YOU.
Don't get to upset though. It is another form of sexual release. I must admit, when I first got married I hated that my husband did the same. Once I sat down and asked him what he enjoyed about it. He said he couldn't explain.....he just liked it. So, I watched too. And I must admit.....I don't like having the actual videos around...(we have kids and I don't want them to stumble across one and see things that they are too young to see) but when we order a pay per view movie, or watch the adult channel, I enjoy watching it sometimes too.
It is stimulating in some ways. But don't get bent out of shape....it's not YOU. It's just arousing.....and if you work....I'm sure you can't be there every second to give him what he needs. But don't worry. It isn't personal. It's just how many guys are.
But still.....I suggest you start making some 'videos' with him, and maybe even of yourself.....and that will make sure that YOU are all he sees....and since you're his wife.......when you come home......he'll be all over his private porn star!!!
Good luck!
2006-10-06 13:34:25 · answer #6 · answered by lilac b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's lost interest in sex with you (as in, the porn has "replaced" you) then it's likely an addiction and you should definitely be concerned. If it hasn't impacted your sexual relationship, then it has nothing to do with you, your looks, your weight, your libido, or any other part of your marriage. If it makes you insecure you could always join him in watching it as a form of foreplay. If you can't deal with that for whatever reason, let him know that it makes you feel insecure and talk about how you can resolve the issue. In any case, you aren't doing anything wrong.
2006-10-06 13:09:24 · answer #7 · answered by kateh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you're doing wrong is, thinking you've done something wrong.
You are not responsible for his actions, he is. If he wants to watch porn 24/7, it has nothing to do with you. He has the addiction, so he has to be the one to go to counseling to get rid of it. He hasn't realized that he's got a perfectly good flesh and blood woman to make love to; instead he'd rather get off with images of women who don't even look like that in real life. Remind him of that every once in a while.
All you can do is support him in his removal of this addiction, or give him a choice, it's your relationship or the porn. Good luck.
2006-10-06 18:26:28 · answer #8 · answered by kellygirlaj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he likes porn doesn't mean something is wrong with you. ALL guys like porn, and if they tell you they don't they're lying. Have you ever watched one with him? Maybe if you did you'd realize that it's not such a big deal. Talk to him about it. But don't be jealous of people he's watching on tv.
2006-10-06 14:13:46 · answer #9 · answered by texas y'all! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not all men like porn. Usually it is a maturity thing (the lack of). A lot of men will not watch pron because it views women as whores. Men who watch porn have little respect for women or they would not waste their time on such trash. Also, be careful if your guy watches a lot of porn - it is addictive.
2006-10-06 13:23:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋