if your gf lied at u for more than 4 years, she told u she is married to someone else, and have kids, and she love u that she couldnt tell u the truth after having the relationship with u. would u forgive her under the name of love, and give her a chance to get divorce?
2006-10-06 05:47:09 · 16 answers · asked by The Wizard 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if your gf lied at u for more than 4 years, she told u she is married to someone else, and have kids, and she love u that she couldn’t tell u the truth after having the relationship with u. would u forgive her under the name of love, and give her a chance to get divorce?
plz, consider that u love her so much , and all humans did mistakes , and she is trying to have a new life after being no one.
2006-10-06 06:18:01 · update #1
her kids dont need her anymore , coz they are over 18 and everyone have his own life
2006-10-06 06:58:54 · update #2
her kids dont need her anymore , coz they are over 18 and everyone have his own life
2006-10-06 06:59:19 · update #3
It is more important if you think you can forgive her...
I think the most important question is after 4 years, how did it actually come out that she is married? Did she openly come out and tell you, or did you end up finding out somehow?
If she told you...then, i guess maybe she realized something, and i suppose in this case maybe you should go ahead with your decision to be with her.
If you found out, then i would really think about what i am getting myself into...If she was honest when you confronted her, or after denying it was honest, you should definitely think about why for 4 years you have been lied to.
Either way, i think you should forgive her, regardless of whether or not you want to get back together with her.
If you stay together, then you need to forgive her, and accept the fact that whatever happened, happened. That she is starting a new life with you...be trusting without doubting that she will do the same to you...because otherwise you will torment yourself.
No matter what you decide on, think it through as much as possible...have no regrets, and be positive!
It is definitely a tough choice...but you have the right to decide. You know her better than any of us, so it wouldn't be fair for us to choose for you...
Forgiveness is always important though, don't carry the anger with you.
2006-10-06 07:08:51 · answer #1 · answered by Patience 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself would you 4give her? You have doubts than.. u know the answer. Can you guarantee she isn't hiding other things from you. Liar is always a liar. .... Is hard to trust someone again after they lie to you over and over ...Espcially your lover. Is hard to let her go but is for ur own. good.. she shouldnt have done it in the first place. If she loves her family and her kids she shoulndt do such a thing
2006-10-06 13:14:17 · answer #2 · answered by ceci 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, because she won't divorce if she's had you hidden from her family for 4 years.
You're an idiot for not finding out in that long; if you're happy being single for life, then this arrangement will work for you - as long as her husband doesn't find out and kill you.
2006-10-06 12:50:52 · answer #3 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are thinking for her divorce then I am sure you do not love her. If you really love her then forgive her and try to help to help her to think strong and be with her family (Hubby, kids).
2006-10-06 13:49:19 · answer #4 · answered by Raj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not forgive her, because if she did it to you once she can do it twice! I have a friend of mine that was in almost the same situation, he forgave only to find out a year later that she was cheating on him with another guy...people do not change.
2006-10-06 12:55:56 · answer #5 · answered by Natalia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, if she cheated on her husband with you. What makes you think she will be faithful to you. She wont. She wasnt faithful to you. For 4 years she cheated on you with her husband. She had 4 years to get out of the marriage. There are better women out there for you.
2006-10-06 12:58:13 · answer #6 · answered by Kathy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way Jose... I would hit the road. I could NOT tolerate lies in a relationship, and if I stayed, there would be more - guaranteed.
2006-10-06 12:50:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO that is just wrong. Liars are always liars. They don't change. How do you know she is not keeping other things from you? You deserve better, I know you must love her, but she was wrong to do such a thing.
2006-10-06 12:49:50 · answer #8 · answered by celticaara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run dude, far and fast. At least you weren't in the claws of marriage yet :)
2006-10-06 12:51:54 · answer #9 · answered by roobs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think so. if she went 4!!! years lieing to you. thats a def. no on forgiving
2006-10-06 12:51:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋