My husband and I separated for 6 months last year. I left him because he was strung out on crystal meth. We have two girls together ages 7 and 8. While we were apart he was seeing a girl who was also hooked on meth. She partied with him and ended up staying at his family's house for about four months. When my husband decided he was ready to get sober and wanted to come home, she wouldn't leave his sister's house. She said she had no where to go. What finally got rid of her is she got busted with meth and went to jail. Now she's out awaiting indictment evidently living with her ex husbands family(by the number on the caller ID) and won't quit calling my husband's mom and sister, going by our friends houses,etc. I just want her to go away. My in laws tell me they have told her to go away. My husband and I have been back together 8 months. He's sober and treating me and the girls well, but I feel hurt that this girl is still around. Should I? How do I get her to go away?
2006-10-06 05:32:17 · 21 answers · asked by Roni 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My mother in law said she wouldn't change the number because the girl would just end up getting it again. They did change it when she went to jail because she kept trying to call collect. My friend said I should just call the number the girl is calling from and let her husband/in laws know what she is doing? I'm tempted but afraid it will make it worse. Going to court for a restraining order would be too much attention for this girl. SHE WOULD LOVE IT. Playing by the rules doesn't seem to be working.
2006-10-06 06:18:29 · update #1
You should not say anything at all. Don't get me wrong babe, buy your husband should be the one to tell her to get lost and stop bothering his entire family. She is still bothering cause of him, so this is reason he needs to tell her, hearing this from him will make her notice he is no longer like her and is getting help. I f she still refuses, you and husband can get a restraining order from local court house that she will also receive stating she needs to stop bothering, calling, visiting you all and needs to stay 100 or more yards from you all. Check it out and good luck babe.
2006-10-06 05:56:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be hurt by her presence. I would be too. Make sure that he expresses to her that he has moved on and wants nothing to do with her. You can get a restraining order, or you can all just ignore her completely until she gets the hint. Be sure to be honest with your husband about how you feel. She reminds you of a very hard time in your life, and you don't want her around. Besides all of that, she has no reason to be there, she brings nothing good to you or your family.
2006-10-06 05:39:08 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa, That's me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start off by blocking the numbers she is calling from..the phone company can help you to do that. Then keep a journal of all the times she's harrassed you and after it shows a pattern take it to the police, and charge her with stalking.
That would be the mature, right way to go about things.
You could always just beat the crap outta that crack whore....which is what my firsat instict would be....lmao
Good luck, and congrats to ur man for getting sober..
2006-10-06 05:38:04 · answer #3 · answered by Sharlala 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you need a restraining order. You know it is not going to stop. At least she can go to jail everything she botehrs you. That will make her think twice. also. Be sure of what his family is telling you. How hard is it not to answer the phone? When it is her all they have to do is hang up. If that is really what they want. No one has to talkt to her. But, be upset at your husband that let he in your lives. I know he is doing better, but you got to let him know this is his problem NOT YOURS. If he wants you then he needs to take care of it with out causeing you and your girls grief!!!!! I know. I went the the same thing when I separated from my husband.
P.S. If your getting mad over this...Then she got what she wanted!
2006-10-06 05:39:10 · answer #4 · answered by Cali Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Block the number on the phone, and record the times and dates everytime she calls. Take the list of times and dates to the police, and get her in trouble for harrassment. I bet if she's awaiting indictment, she won't be looking for anymore trouble from the police.
2006-10-06 05:35:33 · answer #5 · answered by Holly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put her on caller block! I had the same problem with my husband's ex. She even went to having her kids call and ask for him....I ripped her ***....havent heard from her since. I also put a sender block on my husband's email so she couldnt get around me....i am still smiling---three years later!
2006-10-06 05:38:37 · answer #6 · answered by Kimberly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same thing happened to me! I told the girl that I promised ( you can get into trouble if you threat but not if you promise) if she did not quit I was going to beat her so bad that her mom would not recognize her!
I also put my husband on the phone and listened to him tell her not to call back and she never did!
2006-10-06 05:36:33 · answer #7 · answered by ~♥~ *CHEEKY* ~♥~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is nothing but harmful to you, your girls, and your husband. change numbers, do what u gotta do. make sure no one answers her calls or anything, and hopefully eventually she will just go away. if she is a troubled person, a simple go away from you, your hub, or anyone else will make it worse. she will probably want to be spiteful. just avoid her at all costs. that includes your husbands family
2006-10-06 05:41:14 · answer #8 · answered by yankeesarethechamps 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow if he really kicked the habit then that impressive, but dont be too sure yet. As far as the ex girlfriend id say kick her as.s but if shes a junkie too then shes probably a real scrapper and might go psycho on you so your best bet is to curse the ****** out and mase her with indutsrial grade mase...
2006-10-06 05:37:45 · answer #9 · answered by 10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs to tell her to go away. If she does not, call the police. She is stalking you! That's against the law.
2006-10-06 05:36:02 · answer #10 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋