I live with my man who also is my baby daddy. We are having a issue about what time to come in the house at night. Do you feel that coming in late is disrespectful? If you do come in late is it disrespectful not to call? What is an appropriate time to come in the house at night? PLEASE HELP!!! This is stressful. am I being selfish to want him to come in at a certain time and call if he is going to stay out later than 2:30?
2006-10-06 05:30:24 · 12 answers · asked by Confused 1 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
i feel its disrespectful to unforunately there was nothing i could do but wait n now he usually stays home, goes out once n a while- wish i could give you some advice- maybe let him watch the baby and act like you just go n to the store and not come in till late - but that would be an argument- i will say this it doesnt mean he's cheating but it is disrespect if its hurting you wether he means to or not-
you could ask him to do what i asked my man to do - stay up with me all day and then go sleep at their houses- lol that way i get time and if the sleeping is considered time then your friends aint missin out either- but baby girl if thats the ONLY thing wrong then dont stress to much over it- go a week or two and act like you dont care see what happens- when we dont care they usually listenlol good luck
2006-10-06 05:35:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
permitme to tell you something if I may, Confused. When I was living alone it was a lot of fun but then I decided to live with a woman and boy did I get a lot of scoldings (during the first two months) that is and since since then I have been coming home on time and if I am running late I would call ahead so that she would not have to wait up for me.
to stay up until 2:30 a.m. is out of the question because now I sleep at a descent hour and I like it better.
try to maintain a fix hour like 9:00 p.m. so that you can go to bed afterwards otherwise your nite will be shot like hell.
2006-10-06 05:54:00 · answer #2 · answered by conde_c_b 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First...what is he doing out until 2:30 (I'm assuming am)?? My man and I live together with our little girl and it is absolutely disrespectful to not call if you are going to be late...it's really a common courtesy that should definitely extent to you!
We have our own routine as a family...so going out with the boys all night is not his first priority. I don't think your being selfish I think he is.
2006-10-06 05:38:15 · answer #3 · answered by rica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mean if you know he is going to a party or out to the club then you should expect him to come in late right? but at the same time he shouldn't be going to the club on the regular, so if he is out alot and stays out late then that is very disrespectful he needs to be at home with his family.
2006-10-06 07:12:00 · answer #4 · answered by redbone_lds 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure if "disrespectful" is the word I want to use, it may/not be disrespectful but it is nice to show some courtesy to the other person by letting them know you're okay. No. it's not selfish...the other party is inconsiderate...
2006-10-06 14:20:24 · answer #5 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not being selfish wanting him home, he is being selfish wanting to stay out so late and not call you. He should call you if he's going to stay out really late. I would say 1am, but that's up to you to choose a time.
2006-10-06 05:37:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My man and I would never presume to give each other a curfew, but if we stay out later than we said we would we would be expected to call the other to let them know. If one of us didn;t do that, the other would be pretty pissed (has happened, of course).Worrying about someone you love sucks. Why put each other through that when you can prevent it so easily?
So my answer is definitely: yes, very direspectful and hurtful.
2006-10-06 08:52:23 · answer #7 · answered by amandla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea it is. By not calling, your other have tends to worry and when you get home nomatter the time they will pick a fight or be mad at you in the morning. Its not a matter of being "WHIPPED" its just courtesy. If the shoe was on the other foot would you call them if you know you are going to be late??
2006-10-06 05:35:55 · answer #8 · answered by impala11419 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the thing is clear: if its his home,.then he has a right over u that u may call him before come,but f it ur house,where in the world.u need call for?its ur life common! try be true woman, and welcome to the 21 century,..but offcourse,there is thing,give to others what u want for the self.
2006-10-06 07:10:40 · answer #9 · answered by brasil_mulher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a man with a family should be home by 11:00pm and only every so often. Doesn't he eat with you?
2006-10-06 05:39:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋