My daughter has taken ballet for the last 4 years and now she is not interested anymore, shld i let her quit?

Question

My daughter is 9 years old. The dance teacher is the principal of the school. They have won some awards. SHe is getting bored of performances. Dance teacher adviced her to stay because she has potential. Is it true that ballet helps the child to develop firm steps?

Answer 1

if you push her, she could end up hating it even more and will never want to do it again..... support her....

Answer 2

NO! It is true that pushing can cause problems but if you let her quit you'll teach her that its okay to quit everything. She may also regret it when she gets older. All kids want to quit sooner or later, and it could be a number of reasons. Maybe the work has gotten a bit harder and she is frustrated or embarrassed by not learning as fast, or maybe another girl has quit, who knows. I own a dance studio and we run into this problem several times a year. I suggest not letting her quit completely. Maybe take fewer classes per week, stop competing for a while, but never quit. When one child quits a class it effects the whole class. An empty spot, changing dance formations etc. Also if she wants to start again she will be behind in the technique and end up in a lower level than her friends. It's up to you what you think is best. Dance should be fun, but it's also a commitment! Hope she sticks with it!

Answer 3

All human being, with complete body faculties, when they were born have all the potential in the world. The difference why some people excell in somethings while others not, is because they have different influences, may it be environment, hereditary or social.

You need to have a serious talk with your daughter. although you're the adult (and parent), and there's a saying that parent's knows best, if you push her or force her to do something she really doesn't want, she's just gonna hate it and worst, she may hate you.

You should determine what is the cause of her boredom.Is boredom the real reason she wants to quit? If it is about the ballet curriculum the school is implementing, maybe you can talk to the teacher to give her variations and challenging activities to lessen her boredom...There are other factors that may affect her boredom. She's just nine years old... maybe the reason she wants to quit is because she may not get enough rest... or play... at her age, play is very important to the development of a child. She may also be experiencing some peer pressure or something.

If her boredom is unfounded and caused by just simple thing, you should encourage her... NOT force her... You can give her a reward or something from time to time if she continues... maybe in the long run, she will learn to love ballet...

If she really doesn't want to continue and its causing too much tension or provoking negative emotion to her, let her quit... don't despair...she's still young. Who knows, she may return to it someday or she may find another talent that she's really good at...

Answer 4

Let her chose what she wants. She might return to it later if she wants to. If you force her, she'll quit eventually anyway and will never return.

Yes, it is true that ballet helps the child to develop firm steps and many other good things. However, ballet is not the only way to do it. There are other ways. Make sure she's doing something meaningful, like swimming or gymnastics, not just hanging out doing nothing.

My mom let me quit music (that I was said to be talented at), I'm grateful that she understood that I lost my interest and grew to hate it and she stopped forcing me. The reason I couldn't stand doing music anymore is because of constant criticism from teacher and from my mom who's a good musician. You know, when you're practicing, you screw up sometimes. I was already embarrased by my screwing up, but they never failed to point it out. Instead, she put me into swimming which ended up being a better experience for me.

Answer 5

My cousin got tired of dance after a while...her parents didn't let her quit....now she LOVES dancing and her life revolves around it.Me on the other hand after 7 years I got bored, my parents let me quit. Here I am at 14 years old and I'm rejoining dance after taking 4 years off. On one hand I'm a little further behind then the other girls in my class but my teacher is confident I'll catch up quickly. And on the other hand, if I never quit, maybe I would never earn the passion for it as my cousin did even though she never quit. I was ten when I quit....not many 10 year old want to take time to practice or stay committed because most of the time they aren't sure what they like yet. Ask her if she has another hobby or something else she's interested in. Or maybe she just doesn't like the type of dance shes taking. try her out for hip hop, tap, jazz, or ballet (which ever ones she's not taking) talk to her about it then ask her teacher if you could come in with her and watch a class of students (preferably her age) dancing a different typ of dance. Really talk to her about specific likes and dislikes of the class. For instance I quit playing flute only because I didn't like the teacher. Chances are she'll say "I don't know, I just don't like it" but really try to find the reasons behind it. Decide whats right for her by helping her decide whats right for herself.

Answer 6

What is important is what your daughter wants. Unless she is even remotely considering becoming a professional ballerina or dance instructor in the future, then you should let her quit. My eldest daughter also took dance lessons for 4 or 5 years and then lost interest when it starting getting competitive. We let her quit.

My daughter also took piano lessons for 7 years. When she turned 11, it started getting to be stressful for her, so we let her quit since she said she wanted to learn to play the flute and play in a band. She is now a senior in high school and was the first flute in the history of her high school ever to make it into the All Northern California Honor Band and she is the Main Drum Major for the High school marching band this year.

In short, it's okay for your daughter to quit. Just be sure that she is able to try something else that she would like to try in its place. She will always have the benefits of good posture and good balance from ballet even if she forgets all the steps and moves. It looks like she's ready to gain benefits from something else now

Good luck!

Answer 7

My son was a blue belt black stripe... He decided to stop going... I was so mad and angry... But its not about me. If she is bored do two things either find her a new place to do Ballet or let her quit. BUt when she gets in to middle School 6th grade, I would for sure find a outlet for her .. instead of boys drugs or internet games... If they are not bored they arnt doing bad stuff. But if you really want her to be in some kind of activity ... Ask her what she wants to do instead. or find a new studio . Mabey its the place she is going.( something happened or its boring) Ballet does help a child develop .. in many ways . Like Karate .

Answer 8

I can tell you by experience: I am 20 years old and I tap danced for about 7 years... one day I stopped wanting to go and my mom said that I could stop, it was fine. I still hold a grudge against her for not pushing me to keep on doing it. I would have been a top dancer now, I didnt wanna quit cause I didnt like it anymore so I know that if I had kept on going, whatever made me want to stop wouldve gone away..

Good luck!

Answer 9

Maybe try getting her into some other form of dance, maybe she is just tired of ballet, so try swing, or jazz dance. There are many different forms of dance, and with the ballet experience, she will pick up on it great.
Irish step dancing is really fun to, and challenging.

Answer 10

If she is getting bored with performances you should get her involved in some other type of dance class, sometimes all it takes is a change of scenery to spark her interest again. I think you should encourage your child to not quit, but don't push too hard.

Answer 11

Ok is she doing ballet for you or for her? She may want to try something else that she may have an interest in or maybe she is burned out from ballet but it should be her decision. You shouldn't force her to do something that she is not interested in anymore that is an elective.