i am 39yr he is 19yr been with each other for 2years..
2006-10-06 05:20:16 · 22 answers · asked by tannface 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I've been in relationships with people up to 13 years younger. I find that the opportunities for having things in common are greater when there is less of an age gap. My question to you is simply what is his deal? You've been dating for 2 years? That means he was 37 and you were only 17. That's a bit scary, but on the other hand, love will conquer all!
2006-10-06 05:25:44 · answer #1 · answered by pocket68rocket 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An age difference is a fact of life. It will not go away and you cannot do anything about it. In some ways an age difference may be make a relationship more difficult while in others it may make it easier. The fact that you've been together for two years is indication that you have made the relationship work. I suspect that you perhaps are feeling insecure now that you are on the verge of 40, while he's only 20. You will need to work at the relationship during the next 10 yrs. You can offer life experience and insight into situations that he will probably not have. He on the other hand still has immense energy and vitality. You will have to compromise on certain issues probably and being honest about your feelings and fears will be very important.
Good luck.
2006-10-06 13:09:31 · answer #2 · answered by Augusta B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My partner and I have 11 years difference between us. I think it's how you make it. We have learned so much from each other. Our interests are pretty much the same, but we still have something different that keeps us excited about being with each other. You must be careful however, he is only 19. He may feel as if you are a "stepping stone" if you will. He is still young and hasn't had much of a chance to experience all there is with becoming his own person. He may feel the urge to sow some wild oats. Just be prepared if that does happen. But, if you feel you both truly connect ... then go with it and enjoy each others company. Hugs & Kisses !!!
2006-10-06 12:26:58 · answer #3 · answered by spartexcites 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know....if you guys are committed, in love, and want to spend the rest of your lives together then who cares how old either of you are? I'm 6 yrs older than my girlfriend and we've been together 2 yrs. Age is truely not an issue! Now if you were 80 and he was 19 that might be a bit odd but hey...to each his own! LOL!! Either way....don't worry about. Just love him!
2006-10-06 14:32:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age does not matter to the parties involved, but unfortunately it matters socially. I find that other people have a problem with it more then the people involved. People don't think sometimes and say stupid things like "oh...is that your dad...?" If your love is strong enuff, you will get through the stupid comments. Afterall, no one else has to deal with the relationship except for you.
2006-10-06 12:52:09 · answer #5 · answered by Love_cat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally speaking YES. You may have a loving relationship but I bet you wouldn't advocate allowing your 17 year old to date 37 year olds as a rule. I would be wary of you if you came to pick up my son and grill your *** like you were being questioned for murder. 2 years though, unless you have my baby strung out on drugs or something, I'd be over it.
2006-10-06 12:24:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No not really.As long as you have'nt conned him in some way, as long as he's happy and your happy, what's it any of anyone else business. Maybe he's deleriously happy the way thing are, maybe you are too,what's wrong with 2 deleiously happy people in love to be together. And who says that an age difference is a hazard in any relationship?, who sets themselves up as critics? well I'll tell you, bloody hipocrits that's who.
2006-10-06 14:51:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does sometimes. You will probably/all ready know that what he is going through now, is what you went through a while ago. I am 19 years younger than my bf. I asked him yesterday if he would ever date someone my age and he said no! Too much drama and what not. It is all a learning experience. If he is mature and set-up in life, it's probably worth it.
2006-10-06 12:25:31 · answer #8 · answered by justincausejustintime 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a relationship age gap always matter because if there is a big age differences then the relationship might not sustain........due to the simple reason........that the understanding of both of u and preciving the world will differ..........for eg. u might be interested in watching films, roming around and other things.......but she might be not because she had already experienced these things earlier and might not be intrested......
2006-10-06 13:19:54 · answer #9 · answered by rhl_goyal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been together 2 years now. You just answered your own question. Age does not matter to those in love. You alone have proved it. I am 14 years my lover senior and have dated guys 15+ years my junior. Enjoy him and you life together.
2006-10-06 12:22:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋