2006-10-06 05:18:45 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're about to break his heart...
He needs to know as honesty counts, but why now?
2006-10-06 05:28:54 · answer #1 · answered by mary_not_cathy 7 · 8⤊ 0⤋
It depends on who you ask.
Some say that if there is no ring, then there is promise of faithfulness.
Others say that cheating is cheating and is all the same, whether you are married or dating.
If you are currently married and you are thinking about fessing up to something you did prior to the marriage...don't do it. Really, don't do it. Nothing good can come out of that confession. You will only hurt him and ruin the trust he has in you, even though it occurred before you exchanged vows.
During your marriage you have done nothing to destroy the trust you have worked so hard to build (hopefully), so why have it destroyed for something that didn't even happen during the marriage?
2006-10-06 12:30:35 · answer #2 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say no. Unless you got pregnant and he thinks it's his. Or you caught something and gave it to him. You were not married alto in a committed relationship. What good will it do now to tell him. It will only make him wonder about you and your morals. Plus telling him now you will have it thrown up with every argument thru out your marriage. Keep your mouth shut.and stay faithful now that you are married. Some time the truth will Set you Free and I'm sure that is not what you want. Is it ?
2006-10-06 12:25:03 · answer #3 · answered by sassykat944@yahoo.com 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think they needed to be told before you got married. That way everything is out in the open and they can make a decision on whether or not they trust you in marriage.
2006-10-06 12:20:57 · answer #4 · answered by james44_20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose you'd have to ask yourself what the benefit would be to coming clean at this point. Will it do more harm than good? Did you learn from your infidelity and now you are willing to be faithful? If so, I'm thinking its best left unsaid. Sometimes the pain you will cause someone outweighs your need to be honest about something in the past.
2006-10-06 12:20:59 · answer #5 · answered by WiserAngel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no absolutely not!! why purposely hurt him by telling him you cheated. The best thing to do is never do it again.. What he does not know will not hurt him..
I know this from experience. and have been married for 10 yrs now.. personally if my man cheated before we got married i would be devastated if he told me. Do not tell him all that would do is cause pain and mistrust. start your new marriage fresh..
good luck
2006-10-06 12:22:50 · answer #6 · answered by sissybombay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you cheated before your spouse. Think about what will happen if you told him you had cheated before. Will it effect him the way he thinks about you. He may think if you can cheated on ur ex(s) before you can cheat on him too. It really depends if he is thinking negativly or positive. Good luck! But marriage is about honesty.
2006-10-06 13:19:39 · answer #7 · answered by ceci 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cheated on your current spouse, then yes. Marriage is about trust and honesty. You should tell him.
2006-10-06 12:20:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, leave the past to the past; the spouse does not need to know.
2006-10-06 12:36:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, if they did not see it you did not do it, you are just going to open a can of worms for no damn reason, the trust and insecurity issues and resentments will help breed contempt ,the destroyer of marriages, but if your spouse ever cheats you may forgive their transgression and confess your and ask for and expect to recieve the same forgiveness you give
2006-10-06 12:22:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say if your already asking the question, its on your mind and driving you crazy, you have a guilty conscious and marriage is about honesty and trust. Be accountable and live without regret...things will feel alot better when the truth is out.
2006-10-06 13:29:23 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋