I need ur advice?

Question

My boyfrined got put in jail for something his boy did. So if he gets convicted he will be in there for up to ten years. Im only 16 and he is 17 about to be 18. WE were thinkling that if I was to have a baby he could stay out a little longer because I think there is a law that says if ur wife or girlfriend is expected u dont go in that long or ur time is shorten. So wat shoul I do. Sacrafice my teenage years to have a baby or just not got through with the plan?????

Answer 1

NO!
what are you.......CRAZY?
Is this guy worth it?
If you have to ask this question then you already have your answer!
DON'T DO IT!

Having a baby is NOT a game!
and if your bf is going to jail for something he did then he deserves to do his time!!

And why are you going to gamble on your own life as well as an innocent baby's life!??
AND for a BOY??????

Answer 2

Are you for real, think hard before you decide to have a baby at your age for that reason, OMG you maybe 16 and in your mind mature and capable of raising a child in a safe, loving, home, but sorry Hun, you have alot of growing up to do.
First if you boyfriend didn't play with the big boys your boyfriend wouldn't be in the situation he is in now. You play, you pay, sorry that is just how it is.
At 16, and a child yourself (sorry, disagree if you want to but the fact is you are a child), you do not need a child, live your life to the fullest, chances are the boyfriend you have now will now be the man you choose to spend the rest of you life with or whatever. Are you going to quit school to raise this baby or are you going to leave that for someone else to do. Accidents happen, all be it I would never call a child an accident, but are you will to spend the better part of you live struggling to make ends meet to made sure there is food on the table and a roof over this babies head. Are you willing to give up your freedom for the sake of the actions of your boyfriend, or "his boy". If he is in jail and convicted of whatever the offense is may be with any luck he will take the time to turn his life around and earn an honest living when he comes out, I can assure you he will not be worried about his babies momma in 5 years time nor the baby . No he will be off with his new babies momma.
Sacrafice your teen years get real with no education and as a single parent you will face the longest hardest hill you have ever climber in your short life, get your education, have a good career, then think about babies. Or you will be sacraficing your entire live stuck in a system that sucks and that does give a f**k if you live, die, eat, are cold, ...... I may seem harsh, but you will be throwing away your life for the sake of someone who will be 28 if convicted when he gets out and in 10 years, if you still want him as a partner you can have a career, a home, and a life, when he gets out.
A BABY IS A LIFE LONG COMMITMENT NOT JUST YOU TEEN YEARS, LIVE LONG.

Answer 3

I'm not going to tell you not to do it, but I don't think you should. I think that it is a very well thought out plan though. It took thought to think up such a smart plan. And yes, I think it is brilliant. But, you don't want to waste your teenage years with a baby, at least not yet. If he really loves you then maybe you can find another way to get him out. I don't know about the laws as far as pregnant girlfriend/wife is concerned, but I don't know if they would let him do that without you guys being married anyway.

Another option is that you could try to bail him out, if he can get out on bond. He would have restrictions, but it's better than jail. I don't think that I would go through with the plan, unless I knew in my heart that I wanted the baby, and that I would care and love for it forever. Is he ready to be a father? Are you ready to be a mother? If you are, then go for it. If not, then try to find another way. This is an interesting topic, I'm going to research that law that you were talking about, if you would like to know that information that I have/will have, then email at [e-mail]

Until then, good luck, hope you can get him out, be happy, and hope I helped.

peace out

By the way, I read the other responses and someone said that you were a child. Just let me put my two cents in and say that you're not a child.
Also, I just got to thinking, depending on what state you live in, he could be charged with raping you, because you are under 18. If that were the case, then he would spend even more time in jail. Check your state laws and confirm that statement, but I think that is about the same in every state.

Answer 4

Don't do it! If he is in jail, I don't think they are going to say, oh she's having a baby, you can go now, forget about the other nine years. If your boyfriend loves you, and knows who did it, why won't he tell? 10 years is a long time for a friend!!
And say he doesn't have to go to jail until after the birth, Do you really want to raise this baby by yourself, and all your baby would know of it's father was the jail. It's not a good idea. you will have to raise this kid by yourself.
Why would they be nice to your boyfriend, when he has done something wrong, and let him see his baby be born, when some of our troops don't even get to see their babies be born?

Answer 5

NO, NO, NO....You don' t need to be tied up with a guy in jail or who could potentially be in jail. Having a baby would be horrid for not only the poor baby but also your life would be a total mess. You can do better than being tied down to a guy with legal problems whose son is a mess. You kids are way to young to even be thinking of marriage even without these legal issues and to have a baby would be an absolute horrible thing to do. Move on. PLEASE for the sake of your own future. You KNOW what is right....Use your head, please!!!!

Answer 6

That is incorrect, not to mention wrong. If he is convicted (and he won't be if he can prove he's innocent) he will immediately go to jail. . . there is no delay particularly for a felony. Babies do not stop people from going to jail. They are considered a risk to the community's safety. Do NOT be stupid and get pregnant. You will not only regret it he will not come out of jail the same person and you DEFINITELY won't like that.

Answer 7

Are 17 year old people allowed to be convicted? At that age I think he's a minor so he could go to juvy or something... Check with the laws in your place as well as the miranda rights for that...

Answer 8

hes just using you to get less years....be smart get out of it now you'll find some1 better and with a clean record......how can you bring up a baby at 16 without a father, who will provide for the baby, also no father figure present can be bad for a child.......what good can come from a person that gets in that type of trouble and why would you want to give a baby to some1 with that type of behavior do whats best for you sweetie....you have a whole life ahead of you......dont get screwed up so early on.....i hope you are smart about it.....good luck to you, you are going to need it.....

Answer 9

you are too young to have a baby. and that wouldn`t work anyway lots of ppl in jail have kids and they still have to serve their time. you are only 16 so you are too young to be so caught up in one guy. let him go and move on to someone who won`t be in trouble with the law. have respect for yourself hun. i am 30 and when i was your age i tried to "wait" for my boyfriend in jail. then i realized he`s the one in jail not me and i let him go. he got out 2 years later for a week. i`d put money on it that he`s there again. remember not very many innocent ppl get convicted of a crime they usually are guilty no matter what they tell you. and nobody would serve ten years for a "boy". he`s guilty hun and you need to move on.

Answer 10

Are you financially stable?

Does your family agree?

Are you sure he would come back to you after that long?

Are you willing to let your child to go through the beginning of his/her life w/o a father?

Are you sure that the get out early thing is true?

Do you have the knowledge enough to teach your child?

If you answered YES to 5 of the six You could.