I'm 15 and me and my boyfriend have been together since i was 14 now we have split up because of his best mate, he always used to ask me 'Will you dye your hair blonde for me?' & sometimes he would say 'you need to lose a few pounds'. Now he has a girlfriend that is 17 (he's only 15) who is blonde & anorexic & he plays mind games to make me feel bad about my self....because im 7 stone 6 pounds & i have black hair. What should i do i want 2 be with him, but i know i should move on. HELP!
2006-10-06 05:11:44 · 25 answers · asked by xxxStarxxx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
die your hair blond and lose a stone or two....or three
2006-10-06 05:53:55 · answer #1 · answered by HORNY4SOME SOME ASS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know EXACTLY how you feel!!! I was with a guy who's like that. Except, he left me for a married chick who's like 15 pounds heavier than me. YUCK YUCK YUCK! I wish I could say just get over him, even though that's the best idea. I know how hard it is. I'm still around my guy way more than I should be. What's best is to understand that there are guys out there who will love you for who you are. You just need to find one. I know that I have found a guy who is nice recently, and it has made it easier to break away from the "mean" guy. Really, try hard to move on, but I do know how near impossible that must seem. Good luck!!
2006-10-06 12:29:13 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa, That's me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over him, He is an idiot! No one has the right to change your hair colour or your weight. if he is so superficial he isnt worth it, at 7stone 6 you weigh hardly anything!! I have a boyfriend and if he ever asked me to loose weight or die my hair I would give him a slap. There are so many people who will apreciate you for who you are and would not change you for the world! You are 15 and you should be going out and having fun!. I know you really like him but you will get over him and wou WILL find someone else! It doesnt sound like he deserves you. and you definatly deserve someone better. p.s, The new girlfriend will leave him soon I bet! the age difference wont work for long!
2006-10-06 12:19:56 · answer #3 · answered by Rox 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
seriously, you're in such doubt over this guy, but at the end of the day, if he's making you feel like this, and he made you feel like that when you were going out with him (doubting/willing to change yourself for him) then he canNOT be right for you.
A DECENT relationship involves both parties loving each other UNCONDITIONALLY, that means loving everything about each other, from their personalities and their looks, to even little things like for example the way the boy kisses the girl's forehead when she's feeling down or his cheeky smile. What you had was NOT a decent relationship.
Save yourself the hassle, stop worrying about him, accept that he's not right for you, and move on! Block/delete him off your MSN, don't answer his calls, ignore him if you see him, and cut him out of your life!
2006-10-06 13:42:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your 15...yeah...everyone says 'oh ur young move on blahblahblah'. To be straight up with you....you were with him a year i'm guessing? Yet the whole time he kept asking you to change who you really are? Why would you really want to change who you are for someone? If he loved you back, he wouldn't have been asking you to change who you are (even if its the outside). He obvisously didn't care about who you are inside. He wants a fake skinny barbie doll.
If you don't mind changing what you look like to impress him...then go for it...but even if you change ur appearance...it doesn't mean he's going to come back. Then you'll be hurt worse.
Its just my opinion, but he's not worth your love. You need to find someone who cares and loves you for you inside and out. And...you do have plenty of time : ) Hope things work out the way you want
2006-10-06 12:49:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Highschool puppy love? If your boyfriend dump you because your hair is not blonde than it proves how immature he is. This is not true love. I notice how people usually will say how much they love their bf/gf. But do you really know what true love really is? Is hard to explain is the feelings deep inside. Willing to scarfice for that speical somene. Please get this straight...are you really in love or really like him a lot. That's really different. Back than I thought I love this guy so much. But after I broke up with him.. I found out I really don't. It might hurt to see him go but you can find a better one which you deserve better. Show him how mature you are and how immature he is. That is a dumb reason for him to dump you!
2006-10-06 12:21:16 · answer #6 · answered by ceci 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is really messed up. blondes suck, do you know that? i mean natural ones are okay. i have black hair too and trust me, lots of people like black hair so just be who you are and dont worry about that d**che bag. I agree with that person tho, you are too young, so wait it out a little bit, and you prolly dont need to lose a few pounds. anyways, that he will have a hard time doing that anorexic chick because she will snap if he lays on her too hard.
2006-10-06 12:14:42 · answer #7 · answered by Justina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey listen! You should not have to change yourself for anyone, either they accept you as you are or you move on. Make a clean break of it and cut off totally, you will get over him eventually if you are determined, go out have fun, the best way to forget him is to find someone else better, you know yourself you should I think, wink.
2006-10-06 12:46:23 · answer #8 · answered by Sam k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How amazing.Men that do this ARE ABUSIVE STAY AWAY!!! I also have dark hair and smaller breasts and I have had 3 men in my life who did nothing but rub,blondes with fake boobs in my face.As you see I am not with any of them.They made me hate my own self.and my own gender.I am now in counseling .I never changed my hair color or had implants as a matter of fact I just dyed my hair darker yesterday.Gee it would cost me 3.550.00 to be blonde with big boobs.Men who do this are emotionally insecure with themselves and in turn make you feel like crap.Stay the way you are,let him stay with her and please ignore him and whatever he says.He will do this again to another.Find a boy who likes you just as you are and doesnt make unbelievably rude comments about you.Why should you change anything?Be strong you will get over him its abusive girl.
2006-10-06 12:24:06 · answer #9 · answered by maryann c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this dude doesn't love you for who you are then he's NOT the guy for you. Find a guy that loves you for who you are!!! I'm from America and I'm not sure what 7 stone 6 pounds means, but I'm sure it's not fat. Just keep searching, and you'll find the right guy for you.
2006-10-06 12:14:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on to some one who is willing to treat you well and appreciate you for who you are. Don't worry about him... he will end up finding someone just perfect for him. And what i mean by that is that if he is treating you this way some day some one will treat him this way as well. If will hurt a while but when it stops you'll find some one worthy of you. Your too good for him.
2006-10-06 12:28:06 · answer #11 · answered by Virginia1228 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋