yesterday my boyfrieng got a message on his cell (that i checked)and it was a girl saying to call her back.then there was another message from a different number but same voice saying hi baby it me call me on my cell..i called both numbers back and they dont know who called.i told them my boyfriends name and they said they dont know him.well i dont know what to do when i asked him about it he just said someone is probably playing a joke on his phone and didnt say anything else ...weve been together for 2 years and have a baby together and i dont know if i should end it or no
2006-10-06 05:10:20 · 14 answers · asked by ailene 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Don't buy into the playing a joke stuff. That's his easy way out. Keep your eyes and ears open. Something will develop or he'll slip up and get caught. Has he called her number from his cell? Just watch for unusual behavior. Don't call her anymore. I wouldn't end it until I knew for sure and then I would definitely seek counseling to find out why he strayed.
2006-10-06 05:21:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are, they are both lying. Because when she called his phone she would have listened to his voicemail, and recognized or not recognized the person. For the message was definietly meant for him, not someone else. As for it being a joke, nah what's the point ? The question is, is he cheating on you? Do you know where is most of the time? Is he acting suspicious? Could be that they are just talking, and that's it. This happened to me once. My bf was talking to a chick and lying about it and I found out she had a huge crush on him and told him she loved him. He wanted nothing than friends because she was married with a kid. She denied all of it as did he. I called her a few times, but it wasn't of any help. He ended up telling me later that the reason why he would talk to her is because whenever we got into a fight over whatever he would call her..I don't know why, but maybe he thought it made him feel better because she wanted him. Anyway, I would investigate further until you know for sure what is going on.
2006-10-06 05:17:57 · answer #2 · answered by Katie G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have him call those numbers when your right there and see what they say when he is talking on the phone. Also try the text messages like the ones he wrote back, if he's out getting some strange, then I would be definetly kicking him to the curb. Baby or no baby that child does not need to be seeing you two fight and argue all the time about this b/c they will think thats how you have a relationship and it's not. Good Luck with this. I hope everything works out for you.
2006-10-06 05:14:36 · answer #3 · answered by jaide1108 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't jump to conclusions. It might nothing at all. Keep your eye out for signs that might show that somethings up. It could have been a wrong number. When you asked him about it...did his face show some guilt or was his answer that someone was probably playing a joke a true look that he wasn't lieing. When you've been with someone that long, you should be able to tell by the sound of their voice and the look on their face if they are really telling you the truth. Don't just end it because of that message. Find out more before jumping ahead. Hope things work out.
2006-10-06 05:15:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One ! Why are you checking his Cell Phone ? If you need to check up on him you are insecure. Why lower your self to snooping. He is a man and will do what he wants. The women got his number from some where. If you go searching for something to find you will Find it and may not be happy. If he treats you and the child with Respect and takes care of you in the proper way leave it alone.Just watch and wait. Men show there true selves in the End. What that will be depends on HIM.
2006-10-06 05:19:08 · answer #5 · answered by sassykat944@yahoo.com 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't end it based on one phone call, but I would start investigating. Get a keystroke recorder to see what he is doing online and ceck his cell phone bill for numbers you do not recognize and frequency.
But I say give him the benifit of the doubt until you have something concrete. Innocent until prove guilty and all that crap.
2006-10-06 05:14:28 · answer #6 · answered by Liz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know he's lying and that he's up to something. You just have to decide what you're willing to put up with. Give him an ultimatum. Let him know you're not stupid and he needs to decide if what he has outside of the house is worth losing what he's got at home. He'll do one of two things: He'll either see what he's losing and get his stuff together, or he'll keep acting the way he is now and you'll need to decide if you want that crap or deserve better. Don't settle for less than you deserve. You and your child deserve the best! Remember that!
2006-10-06 05:20:05 · answer #7 · answered by dct1218 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could of been a wrong number too. My b/f had a message on his phone from another girl and didn't know who she was. I believed him and didn't look back. Things like that happen. Are you willing to lose what you have with him for a wrong number?
2006-10-06 05:22:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't jump the gun and end it, but I would be on alert. Just pay attention to what's going on. Tell him that you're concerned, and you want him to be honest with you. Just watch out, and if you feel like you and the baby will be better off leaving for a while, then that's your choice. Hope it all works out for you.
2006-10-06 05:23:52 · answer #9 · answered by Melissa, That's me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check him out... sounds kinda fishy to me. But I wouldn't dump him just for a phone call. Has his behavior been different lately.. usually that is the "big" sign.
2006-10-06 05:21:40 · answer #10 · answered by Virginia1228 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋