did she sin?

Question

I know a woman named Patricia, she was married to a man, he cheated on her 7 years before their divorce.Recently she requested a divorce, but before even having her divorce she had sex with another man before the divorce. Now people say it was her fault for letting him go, because before he cheated on her she wouldnt pay much attention to him she was too busy with college and other stuff, so his family says he did wrong but she did too. Now he has new children with his mistress, but he still loves his children from his ex-wife. He loves his new woman but he doesnt know what to do. As for Patricia she hates him to death and hates everybody in his family and hates his new woman and her little kids. I think she still wants him because she doesnt stop bothering his family, she gets jealous when they tell her about him and his new woman. She has told his oldest sister that she was gonna go sleep with him so the other woman can feel the pain. I just think that is too late, dont you?

Answer 1

they both sinned. and she is too annoying, damn all his family must really hate that Bi@tch

Answer 2

HELL HAS NO FURY LIKE A WOMAN SCORNED! I would bet that she doesnt love him anymore...she cares for him though. She has been hurt by his actions of cheating and she is miserable in that memory (misery love company)...she doesnt know how to do anything positive with it yet, so she lashes out at him every chance she gets...the others are just in the line of fire i.e his other children and his fluzzy mistress. The sad part is, there are kids involved in this and it will most likely be an ugly situation for a long time. Counseling would do everyone involved a world of good...kids included. If she could get counseling, she would find that healing is possible and necessary to move on. Until they get help, mostly likely nothing will change and the children will be worse for the wear and tear that they will go through from it...I will pray for them all. As far as who has sinned..they are both sinners in this, the bible says adultery is a sin period....both did it, both are sinners...it doesnt matter who did it first or last...but what does it matter at all who is a sinner? The major concern here should be the welfare of the kids involved dont you think?

Answer 3

Cheating is the number cause of divorce. She only cheated on him to let him know how it feels. So she had to fill that void that she was not getting from her husband at the time. It both their faults to begin with and they should live with the consequences. They both did wrong. The family should not say anything about that situation, they might done wrong too. You can't judge them for what they did for their mistakes.
He has moved on with this "other woman" and is still in contact with his other children shows that he cares for that part of his life.For Patricia she has this hate that will only eat her up inside and the is going to be her downfall. She should be concertrating on her children and bringing them joy and stablility and love. She should move on with her life. The kids are not to blame for all the misdeeds. She was not paying attention to him before cause she was going to school. So what's stopping her now from moving on. She can't have what is not hers anymore. She never had to begin with. He has moved on with his life. Just tell her that being jealous over his new family is not going to make him come back to her. So sleeping with him is not the option to go because he is too in love with his wife now. What difference is that going to make. It's simple just leave him alone and think about what's best for the children. She is their role model and they need her to be a mom who is showing them strength and to overcome trails in their lives. Not a mom of hate and resentfulness. It is too late for that relationship to thrive on something God probably was trying to tear apart for his and her own good. She'll find someone soon. Just tell her to hang on and focus on her life.

Answer 4

I see the grudge, I don't see love in the whole story. If she can't afford to love him, and she thinks that he can't make her happy, then probably, they just have to let each other go. The guy may be a good guy, but just not suitable for her. She may be a good person as well.. Things just don't work out sometimes. If you wanna evaluate every single details happened in their relationships with mistress, families...That's gonna be very messy and confusing. Doubt much explaination is needed. If things don't work for them, go their own way then. No point making life hard for everyone just because of the grudge, the jealousy, the feeling for that moment which doesn't last? We all got better things to do.. So if it's an unworthy one, let it go..

Answer 5

I think the only thing Patricia has done wrong is holding on to the hate. He might have hurt her; she left him; now it's time to forget about him and work on her own happiness. The hate is counter-productive, and is only destroying her own life. Who cares if he has kids with his mistress? He was unfaithful to his wife - chances are, he WILL be unfaithful to his mistress; she'll get what's coming to her. There's no need to get too worked up over it. I think, the "so what" attitude is definitely in order.

Answer 6

Did she sin? Let me count the ways. She denied her husband, [1]giving him an excuse to commit sins of his own. [2] She harbors hate in her heart for him [3] and his kids [4,5,?], and exhibits jealousy [6]. And now she's planning to commit adultery [7] with a divorced man.

First she needs to come to terms with God over all of this. Then HE would need to do the same for his own sins. But now that children are involved, I see no clean way to put this omlette back in the egg.

Answer 7

Yeah...it's long too late - as for sinning that just depends on a persons particular beliefs...they certainly BOTH did wrong by each other...and let each other down, as well as their wedding vows. So now they are just another statistic.
Only good to come from it all is if they have both learned from it and don't make the same mistakes again...but doubtful..sometimes folks never learn.

Answer 8

Actually they both sinned, seems like a revenge story on her part. Anyway, she should move on nothing good is going to come from this. There is someone out there that will think highly enough of her to keep their marriage vows. She will be all the better for it. Love is hard, nobody deserves mistreatment. Best of luck to her.

Answer 9

I'm not sure you stated the situation precisely as it is. Did you leave out a few details too? Would you consider rewriting the question and adding a bunch of stuff that needs to be mentioned okay? And by the way, take her to get herself checked...

Answer 10

He cheated on her for seven years, has children with his whore, and she's the one who is a sinner for finally getting layed? U think cause she went out and got her freak on, that will take away all the pain?Yeah..she's a big freakin sinner, and she should stay married, love the whore and the whores kids too....selfish *****! maybe it aint too late, maybe she can get atleast a grudge **** in there!

Answer 11

She needs to grow up. She chose to get the divorce and now she needs to move on.