I need to know why people are against gay marraige if they aren't gay?

Question

I'm not saying anyone is right or wrong, I just wonder what it matters who marrys whom?? I personally don't care if a girl marrys a girl, or a boy marrys a boy. I am married to a man, so if a lesbian couple marrys, it does NOT effect me as far as I'm concerned. I know that most people feel that a marraige is between a man and a woman, but how would it effect you if your gay neighbor married his gay lover? Would it effect you differently if your streight neighbor married his streight lover?? And while we're on the institute of marraige, why isn't infidelity flat out illegal???

People keep saying that it is "wrong". It is deemed wrong in the bible, therefore, if you don't believe in God, you shouldn't be allowed to get married either!! That is just going by that logic.

Answer 1

Tell me about it... I agree with you completely. I don't know how is it "immoral" or offensive to the "family values" if a faithful gay couple says their wedding vows, yet divorce and adultery amongst heterosexuals is an accepted practice. A bit hypocritical, I'd say. But then, anything that has a basis in religion has a good chance of being hypocritical.

Answer 2

I may have a different point of view than other people. My mother is a lesbian. She and I have had this conversation many times. I do not believe that anyone has a right to tell another person that who they love and want to marry is wrong. Why shouldn't homosexuals be aloud to share their happiness with each other in a ceremony?

I understand that people would have a HUGE problem with gay or lesbian couples getting "married" in a catholic church, but not give them the same rights that any other "normal" couple has? In my experience with the gay and lesbian communities, most just want the opportunities that every couple has. They want to make sure that if something should happen to either of them, that the other is taken of.

Why does anyone get married? What is so important about that piece paper that every couple seems to need one? And what gives this government the right to say that just because you have a different lifestyle or belief that you shouldn't be considered worthy enough to have one? I guess if you don't believe in God than you shouldn't have any rights either, right?

Answer 3

I believe that when you can answer "...why isn't infidelity flat out illegal???" you will have your answer about gay marriage.
But, to help you out, every individual develops a set of moral standards.
When individuals group together it is usually with people of similar standard. If enough get together the group becomes a culture or society all having the same basic ethical standard.
Right or wrong, because of religion or based on the need for the race to survive, most of our society has chosen 'homosexuality is not unacceptable behavior'. If the act is not approved then it follows that a union of 2 proscribed people would also be on the not approved list.
By the way, just a side point. If the rationale for you first question is legitimate, why not for the second? How does your significant other's infidelity impact my life. Isn't that your problem.

Not really, what happens to the least one of us happens to all of us. The other idea allows the atrocities to occur.

Answer 4

Generally the opposition to gay marriage lies mostly on two points. For many people homosexuality is wrong morally so you cannot sanction it giving it social & legal validity. For example, people feel sex between an adult and a minor is morally wrong so adults are not allowed to marry minors. It's a similar argument.

Then there are those who feel that the institution of marriage (as established in western society) is the mainstay of the society and is based on culturally validated norms and so if you change that then you will eventually be forced to change other culture norms which will result in chaos. Generally, those are people who believe in the "slippery slope" of social change. They feel that if we change the definition of marriage, then we will have to change the meaning of family, and the meaning of religion, and the role of the law in the family, etc, etc, etc. Change is scary for people and the idea of that much change is downright frightening for some.

Infidelity is not illegal because it would cost a ridiculous amount of money to enforce and people are not yet willing to give up that much personal privacy in this country. Also our culture is generally patriarchal and so will protect the sexual freedom of men so you won't see infidelity being illegal for men anytime soon (at different points in history it has been a civil offense for adulterous women... for instance a women who had an affair could be divorced and lose custody of her children although not vice versa).

I have no opposition to homosexual marriage because I believe marriage is a social contract that is used as a way to create stable family units and manage sexual behavior. Anyone who is willing to enter that contract should be allowed to do so with the understanding that they should abide by the rules of said contract. So if my gay neighbors want to be married and have children, fine as long as they are monogamous and conscientious parents who provide stable, financially secure homes that put additional individuals into our society that are more or less adjusted enough to continue our culture. Which is the same standard that I apply to heterosexual couples who wish to marry.

Answer 5

A lot of ppl don't go for gay marriage, because they are not gay and don't care as long as it doesn't effect them.
They rather hang all gays up to dry. Because they are stuck in the middle ages where if the big man (government) says it we do it without question. Its truely pathetic actually if you think about it.
A lot does also come with religion, but your taking away from individual rights. That's why you don't mix religion with politics. Its either freedom or religion. Which will you choose, because you can't have both, its impossible.
Also ppl complain about homosexuals going to pride parades and wanting more freedom. Well if you make it taboo, your gonna get it shoved in your face, just like marijuana. If you think homos do have rights. Go sign up for the military and say your gay and see what happens. Actually you'd be surprised on how many gays are in the military.

Answer 6

(These are not necessarily my personal opinions, but I do understand them and concede that people have a right to be against gay marriage.)

1. Marriage is a legal and financial institution that has a big impact on society overall. Insurance policies, company pension plans, social security, and many more programs are based mathematically on a certain % of the population being married. (and receiving "joint and survivorship" benefits) Before changing the definition of "marriage" overnight, the financial solvency of these programs must be considered.

2. Many people see gay marriage as a stepping stone to de-stigmatizing other sexual behaviors such as pedophelia, incest, polygamy, prostitution, etc.

3. Many people believe that the purpose of marriage is to create a healthy 1-man/1-woman environment to raise kids other things.

4. Many gay parades - such as the big one each year in San Francisco - are obscene and ensure that many heterosexual people will continue to oppose gay rights.

5. Many people believe homosexuality is immoral.

6. Many people (it is a fact) believe that homosexual intercourse is responsible for the spread of AIDS.

7. The word "marriage" has strong religious connotations to may people. The gay community's unwillingness to use a different phrase - such as "civil union" - is see as a deliberate attempt to offend other people.

8. For thousands of years, "marriage" has been defined as a union between a man and a woman. It is not reasonable to change the definition just because there is a 10-year movement to do it.

9. Many people believe that for such a small part of the population (5%) gay people wield too much political power. Gays come across as very "in your face" and demanding, politically.


In summary, a decision to allow gays to marry would have a HUGE impact on the fabric of our society, and perhaps it makes sense to get used to the idea and understand the long-term impacts before moving foward.

Answer 7

i'm against it i'm against all marriage, gay or on the instant. I evaluate it an old business enterprise that truly is out of date in cutting-part society. And as for gay marriage, my quite unconventional view is: ok, so which you prefer to get married. Why? Why do you prefer to conform with what on the instant human beings do, or get to do? I recommend, are not 'we' meant to be diverse from 'them'? attractiveness is super, tolerance is super, ending the violence is super. showing those that being gay is super is super. Mainstreaming being gay, nevertheless, isn't the respond. I recommend, there heavily isn't something vivid or different approximately being gay in any respect! it is going to finally end up as basically one enormous homogenized lifestyle. Whoop-dee-f**relatives individuals'-doo. i'm enthusiastic approximately springing up with some thank you to amplify the tax/legal advantages that married on the instant couples savour to gays, yet permit's do it in a fashion that doesn't in basic terms parrot the practices of the hordes of on the instant human beings accessible. Love is love. whether gay or on the instant, i do no longer think of you decide on a bite of paper from an out of date non secular-based social business enterprise to illustrate that.

Answer 8

People love to stick their noses into everybody else's business just because they can. Your rights end at the point of my nose. I am not gay but I do not judge nor do I attempt to tell others how to live if it does not affect my safety or well being. I am married and have been for years; and if gay people want to marry then why shouldn't they be given the chance to be as miserable as the rest of us married folks?

Answer 9

I agree with you 100%. I don't care if my neighbors, friends, or anyone else for that matter is straight or gay, as long as they are descent individuals. My motto is "If you like it, I love it!" A persons sexual orientation does not make them any different than anyone else. What about those who have strange sexual fetishes? Should they be judged because they have different ideas about sex? I say live and let live. If it is hurting you then why worry about it. Besides who are we to judge anyone?

Answer 10

I'm tired of homosexuals stealing the language. Gay used to mean HAPPY. So why are they so angry all the time? And marriage has a specific meaning. Why should it be changed just to satisfy one small group out of many who use this language daily? I wouldn't care if they called it a legal union, but they won't accept that compromise. So f*ck 'em!

BTW JP, The State legislates morality all the time. That's why there are laws against murder, pedophilia, rape, and theft. Let's not be quite so hypocritical.