2006-10-06 04:40:11 · 23 answers · asked by Vincent D 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
There are going to be time when she just can't stand you--but don't take it personally. Just be there for her, do things for her, and help her out as much as possible. When she seems tense--stay out of the way. When she needs you, be there.
2006-10-06 04:43:03 · answer #1 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww, good husband. Just be there for whatever she needs and do small acts of kindness around the house to boost her spirits. Cook or order her dinner, pick up some of her chores occasionally, massage her back, give her one sided intimacy(her side), bring her home a gift out of the blue, be involved in the planning for the baby and don't try to understand her. She doesn't understand herself. These things should get you through the pregnancy but don't let it end there. Suprise her like that after she has the baby every once on a while sometimes for no reason at all. Whatever you do WARNING>>>>>Do not make her feel like her feelings are stupid. They are her feelings and she has the right to them no matter how much you think it is ridiculous. She may get upset because her hair won't do what she wants it to and you may think it looks fine. DON'T SAY THAT, say "Honey I am sorry you are having a bad time" and kiss her and pour her a glass of juice, ask her if she needs your help ironing something. So simple yet so effective. She'll work her hair issue out but it helps to have someone to empathize and respond. She may treat you wretched but it will pass. If you remain kind through her hormonal outbursts, she will feel like a heel and make it up to you somehow because she loves you. Congratulations on your little one.
2006-10-06 12:11:30 · answer #2 · answered by aouija 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women can be quite emotional when pregnant. It is because her hormone levels are all out of normal. Be thoughtful. Help her around the house, but ask her first if there is anything you can do to help. Make her feel as though you still find her attractive. If she feels like having intimate relations, be gentle, but don't be upset if she isn't receptive. Pregnancy can be very fatiguing, and she may be tired, or having the various aches and pains that go along with it. Encourage her to eat healthy foods, but satisfy her cravings, as long as they are not unhealthy. Encourage her to seek prenatal care. It is vitally important to her health and that of your baby. Tell her you love her. Be sure you let her know in nonverbal ways that you care. A caress, a hug, a rose on your way home from work. All will make her feel loved and wanted. Don't make jokes about her changing body. Kiss her belly now and then. Be sure she takes some tiem to put her feet up for a while during the day. Go with her to lamaze classes and participate. It feels silly, but it is important. She will love you for it. Ask her what she wants. Pay attention. Give her a backrub if she wants one. Lightly massage her belly with your fingertips. Take her out to eat so she won't have to cook. Pick up after yourself, so she won'ot have to do it.
2006-10-06 11:50:15 · answer #3 · answered by dbarnes3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just asking this question makes you a great guy. Let me give you a list of Do's and Don'ts. I've had a baby so I know all about it.
Do
1. Rub her belly, back, feet, legs
2. Have an intrest in the baby, ask questions
3. Buy the baby a special little gift
4. Surprise her with her favorite food that she craves
5. Help out with the dishes with out being asked, or any chores.
6. Go to her Dr. appointments with her.
7. Help suggest baby names.
8. Offer to go on walks with her.
9. Take her on a date, because she's pregnant she's not dead.
10. Plan a romantic evening with flowers.
11. TELL HER HOW SEXY SHE IS
DON'T!!!
1. Check out other women, you will make her feel insecure
2. Don't mention her weight gain, NO JOKES ABOUT HER. she already knows that she's getting bigger and it makes her feel bad.
3. Don't opt out of sex. She'll just feel like you're not interested in her.
4. When she's moody don't try to make her even more mad. Her hormones are all wack right now and she can't help it.
Thanks about all I have for you. Good luck.
2006-10-06 11:49:15 · answer #4 · answered by Wendy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having had three children, I can tell you chances are you'll upset her at some point but only because pregnant women are such a bundle of hormones. An example? With my second baby I freaked on my husband for not helping me with the laundry. I got up from a nap one day and found he had washed, dried, and folded three loads of laundry. My reaction? I got upset and hurt because I thought he was commenting on my innability to get the laundry done on my own. The best way to care for your wife is to be there for her when she needs you and to do what she wants; not what you think she wants. Be patient and kind. Don't assume that because she wants something today that she will tomorrow.
2006-10-06 11:49:54 · answer #5 · answered by kealey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ask what she needs done just help out around the house... If you see that the dishes need doing do them, if you see that a load of laundry needs doing do it...
If she asks you to stop, stop...
Talk to her tell her you want to help her but don't want to upset her by making her feel useless or unable... Tell her you think she is quite capable of doing it all but you want to help so she doesn't have to...
Listen to her when she gets upset.. It may be something that would normally not upset her at all.. I cryed for 2 hours about not being able to find the open container of salt to make dinner one night (there was an unopened container but I seemed to think I needed the open one) my husband listened and helped look for the container I NEEDED...
Your wife is pregnant not an invalid she will let you know what she needs help with if you let her know the lines of communication are open and she can ask for help when she needs/wants it...
Above all don't treat her like she can't do anything, she will resent it and life for you will get miserable... help don't take over...
2006-10-06 11:50:03 · answer #6 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her loving space. Be understanding when she seems upset. Be very patient. Do not get angry back. Remember, she needs you, even though she seems like she doesn't. Hormones are terrible things. The woman you love does not seem like the woman you fell in love with. Patience, love understanding, lots of tissues, flowers and ice cream, will get you to one of the happiest days of your life. Don't for get flowers. Did I mention flowers? Tell her she's beautiful. Oh and I'm serious about flowers. She'll be the happiest pregnant woman around. And because of that you'll be that happiest man. psst. flowers... don't forget them. oh and go to as many appointments as you possibly can and if possible read Your pregnancy week by week with her. Very supportive. First get flowers, if you don't have that book, get it.... and some flowers, while your out get some ice cream. Have a great day!
2006-10-06 12:00:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, CONGRADULATIONS, second, HURRAH you are asking for help.
Not all men will try and help out and do more knowing the wife has more strain on her body and mind.
WAY TO GO HUSBAND OF THE YEAR!!!
Do the little things, like helping with laundry, dinner, vaccuming, dusting... Don't take her for granted. Don't baby her and tell her what she can and can't do. NEVER tell her she looks fat, EVER.
Tell her how beautiful she looks DAILY.
When she gets all emotional or cries for no reason, Just hug and comfort her.
Don't take jobs away from her that she normally does, unless she asks, but HELP out. Like empty the dishwasher, put away the laundry. put up groceries, things like that...
I already give you a TON of credit for asking...
2006-10-06 11:45:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make everything as easy as you can for her do things without her having to ask you to if she is into learning about her pregnancy take an interest in it too read with her and bring home books she doesn't have cook for her give her massages give her baths make her feel sexy and when she goes nuts stay calm and remember that its just her hormones make her the center of the universe spend as much time with her as you can. Now here is the hard part do it all without patronizing her. Best of luck to you!!
2006-10-06 12:14:24 · answer #9 · answered by Trekfuel80 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient and understanding! She is going thru alot of changes now. Do little things for her. When she has a craving at 3am go to the store without question..(<--oops, this was a personal one for me)... Oh yeah and as she gets farther along, massage her feet and rub her back and tummy, it will make her feel relaxed.... And no matter what, be with her every minute of her labor... hold her hand run her tummy and legs during labor to help her relax and breathe with her.... HELP her all the way.....
2006-10-06 11:48:47 · answer #10 · answered by your_mija_69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be understanding. When women are pregnant, even we don't understand the effects all our hormones are having on us. Give her some space, do little things, such as picking up the house and running the vacuum. Allow her a lot of time to rest.
2006-10-06 11:43:11 · answer #11 · answered by missportal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋