what's the most difficult thing you've ever done?

Question

and how has it affected you?

Answer 1

give birth to my still born son at 7 months.
Ten years ago and i still think about him very single day even though I have had children since then.

Answer 2

On the physical side...?

Learn to walk again, for the third time.

I obviously don't recall the 1st time, as a infant, but I don't remember the 2nd time either after being struck down by a disease at the age of almost 2.

The 3rd time ...it came as a suprise on trying to get out of my hospital bed three years ago and discovering that my legs wouldn't work ...well, not 'properly,' not as they used to when I had thigh muscles like tree trunks from a pretty active lifestyle with swimming and cycling.

As to 'how it has affected me'? When you are hold up in a hospital bed for 4 weeks, your muscles start to go, tendons start to shrink (without therapy) and you lose elasticity.

I've not really recoverd any of the list strength in my legs I used to have, my balance is 'bad' and my walking is 'nor good' and even three years after the even, i can get really tired really quickly.

Sometinmes this is depressing, at others plain bloody wearysome and aggrovating when my wife just doesn't help with some form of 'caring' physical therapy I need.

It clouds my life, colours my day(s and limits me in all kinds of ways as to what I can not do ...especially in relation to what I used to be able to do.

Then again...! Maybe thee most difficult thing I ever did was to 'tell my wife I wanted a divorce.' Or, in some respects, plunging into a canal to save my dog from drowning, then after someone else pulls it out, my wife turns to me and asks me, "Why are you all wet?"


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Answer 3

Going through my third pregnancy. Both my parents died within 6 weeks of each other and I could not attend their funerals because they lived abroad.

Then giving birth to a 10lbs 1oz baby naturally with no pain relief. Suffered from psd afterwards and could barely walk. I was told by a doctor friend that I had to be more mobile or I will end up in a wheelchair. The thought of not being able to care for my baby made be very upset, but was also the strength for me to seek medical help quickly.

I thought that I would have hard feelings for my third child but I love her to bits.

Answer 4

Reported my best friend to social services for neglect. She is an alcoholic and it got to the point that her child was in danger so I reported her and her son was taken into care.

It felt like a total betrayal of her trust, but to leave things as they were was a betrayal of her child and so it was the most difficult decision i've ever made. We are no longer friends and it also caused other problems, amoung our group of friends, our parents etc etc. but I know I did the right thing and several people have told me since that they wished they had had the courage to do it.

The sad thing is that she is still an alcoholic 10 years on, she is sick and isolated she went on to have 2 more children who were taken into care, her parents are raising all 3 of children now and she lives like a wino!!

Answer 5

Finally facing and confronting issues I had buried, of which I carried around as excess baggage. Since then, albeit it took awhile the realisation was tremendous. I'm a much better person for having done so. Drama's occur occasionally, however they are easily addressed and not dismissed. I no longer have an outlook of abject anger.

Answer 6

Giving birth to my first child only to discover she would be severely disabled for the rest of her life and having to come to terms with it. So many emotions guilt sadness, emptiness, denial and swinging back and forth between all of those emotions until one day I accepted what had happened it was not my fault and began to love her for who she was my daughter.
How as it affected me it has made me a much stronger person than I ever thought possible, learnt to live life to the full and that no matter what happens life does not end life is what you make it.

Answer 7

My mother woke me up at 3:30 AM to tell me that my father was dead. I went down stairs from my room and there he was. The house was cold and I did not touch him. He wasn't moving. I didn't know what to do. That was the hardest day of my life. He was my friend. It has affected me in the pass really heavily. I blamed myself for what happened. It is true....time does heal wounds, but I will never forget him.

Answer 8

getting up this morning with a raging hangover was very very difficult and it has a serioius affect on my work day since i have spent most of my time answering questions like these. i am glad it is almost time to crawl home.

Answer 9

Admit I can't be a cop. I don't have the personality for it, and I'm no good at handling confrontations. Had my chance and lasted less than a month. Took me 20 years to finally accept it.

Answer 10

playing call of accountability 4 cutting-edge war and phone of accountability international at war on Veteran and getting each and all of the achievements... i succeeded... there replace into this one time the place i rented Starsky and Hutch the video interest, and that i had to force around city rapid adequate to my holiday spot till now my female chum gets shredded up in a meat grinder...i could no longer beat it!!! i additionally replace into by no potential waiting to beat between the movie star Fox video games!!!

Answer 11

Having to tell a friend that a mutual friend was dead, killed in a car accident. I miss my friend very much. I still pick up the phone to call her without thinking then I realize she's dead and break down and cry for a moment.