My friend has gone back with her BF who has cheated on her, who gotten married to another girl, and got another pregnant. And I'm afraid that he's not going to change. He tells her he's change and promise that he won't do it again. And yet he's still married but he doesn't live with his wife. I have a feeling that he still that he's still with his baby's mama and my friend.
My friend even pushed our friendship aside and push her family away...and all we want is for her to be safe and happy.
2006-10-06 04:32:50 · 10 answers · asked by ladyrose31474 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
prove it to her
2006-10-06 04:36:33 · answer #1 · answered by Maral 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are faced with a problem like this it's not easy. I understand completely how she feels, but at some point you have to love yourself more. This boy is playing everyone. He won't change, he already has a failed marriage. I feel so sorry for your friend and feel your desperation,it's so hard. There really isn't much you can say to her because it's obvious she is in such denial. Sometimes you just have to let them know that you are there when they need you, and let them fall. I know it is going to be hard to do, but it's like talking to your own children about certain matters. You can give advise, and guide but eventually, they do what they want any way. Just be there for her, because it won't be long, she is going to need you to be. GUARANTEED
2006-10-06 11:45:57 · answer #2 · answered by june clever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, love really is blind! I don't understand why women just will not give up on men like that and get on with their lives & find someone who will treat them with the respect they deserve. Does she have any emotional issues? Does she feel that she's not good enough to do better than that? Is there any way you could get her interested in another guy? Have a small party & invite men from church, work, down the street, anything to get her meeting other men.
2006-10-06 11:39:03 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recently dealt with something like this. My best friend of many many years decided her man was more important than our friendship (he is unemployed, has a drug problem, lives at her mother's house, cheats, sucks, everything). What I have learned is you have to do what's best for you and let her figure out what's best for her. Some people do not change (unfortunately). As her friend, just be there for her and advise her when she asks. Just because you like her doesn't mean you have to like him. :) But let her figure it all out on her own. Hopefully she will before he knocks some other broad up.
2006-10-06 11:38:20 · answer #4 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your friend is a naive idiot and a glutton for punishing herself. She is now fratinizing with a MARRIED man. He is a loser and she will probably end up pregnant and abandoned like the rest of his women. She is going to have to go through ALL the pain on her own. She did good when she dumped him but now has settled for his lies and her naivite. She needs to also prepare herself for some STD's as it is sooo obvious that the loser doesnt practice safe sex when he does screw around.
2006-10-06 11:36:42 · answer #5 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's no much you can say. If she loves this guys she's not going to listen to anyone but him about anything. Maybe you could find proof he's still with his baby's momma. Maybe that would help her understand that he's still a lier and a cheater. I know it's hard but you kinda have to stand on the sidelines and watch, when she does get hurt she'll come to you first.
2006-10-06 11:49:41 · answer #6 · answered by Amber S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who is almost in the same situation. When her finance called it off, she kept up the relationship and still talks, to him everyday and sees him too. It is just making it harder on her..
All we can do is PRAY and hope she does the right thing. I've tried emailing and talking until my face turned blue, but she still does her own thing...
2006-10-06 11:38:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could only keep trying....
If she shuts herself completely out...There's nothing you can do about it...
Just be there for her when her heart falls to pieces...
Then all you can do is to help pick them back up again...
Good luck...
2006-10-06 11:38:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her figure it out she will learn her lesson and come back to you in the end
2006-10-06 11:43:36 · answer #9 · answered by Courtney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can get merry with ur friend if you not do so becoz you can help her closely.
2006-10-06 11:39:01 · answer #10 · answered by lvthinker82 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋