My son's father basically keeps asking me out when he just had a baby by his current live in girlfriend last week. I have a boyfriend that I live with and love very much. My son's fathr and I have not been together since my son was 1 and he is now 6. I talk to him in regards to our son because my sons goes to his house 2 weekends out of the month or sometimes one week plus the two weekends. One minute he is being nice and then the next minute he will flip out on me cussing me out and telling me everything I did wrong in our relationship many moons ago. I basically talk to him for the sake of our son, but I honestly can't stand him. Thank goodness I have a boyfriend that understands and stress over his ways. How can I get him to stop asking me out? To let you know I don't go out with him or lead him to believe I may want to go out with him.
2006-10-06 04:29:29 · 4 answers · asked by Kenya 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He sound like he's 12 year old.
OK He still in love with you even if he has a girl friend. You "in his mind" is his property. And this fail marriage is creating 2 thing
A) There is a failure in his life he regret deeply, but he fail to come to term with it and you are very easy to place the blame.
B) Love has nothing to do with sex. And he is still in love with you in some twisted part of him and he is using your son to get to you is an easy answer. By picturing you sleeping with another man drive him nuts will explain the burst of outrage. Sex of him is about sex, not love. Sex with female is about love.
OK now to the answer;
Don't allow the excuse of you son to have him run your life. don't have him come over. on even on birthday or holiday. If at all possible take legal action now to withhold his behavior. it only get worst.
2006-10-06 04:57:18 · answer #1 · answered by Kenshin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time he asks you out just say no. Then tell him that this type of conversation is innapropriate. Don't say it's wrong because you have a girlfriend and I ahve a boyfriend, don't even go into detail. Leave it at that and don't fuel the conversation by getting into a debate with him. After you're don'e speaking end the conversation, don't talk about anything but your child. If it still presists tell him you are going to have to start going through the court system to arrange visitation because he is making you extremely uncomfortable.
2006-10-06 11:33:40 · answer #2 · answered by OohLaLa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing you can do is sit him down and tell him that you're not interested in him in that way and that just because you two have a child together dosen't mean that you have to be romantically involved. You need to tell him to back off and grow up, he has two children so he should'nt be running around acting like a teenager. If you need moral support why not take your boyfriend along? Good luck any way xo
2006-10-06 11:37:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time he asks you out, tell him , that it looks like he has a nice life ,with a nice girl, and he should not give that up, and then tell him you are happy with your life, and you would not do anything to change that.
2006-10-06 11:43:49 · answer #4 · answered by rae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋