i just graduated from college with degree in finance and found this awesome job ......but no one in the office takes me seriously, even my boss , he says he likes me around because i am cute and funny female thats all, but he would never trust me with money,,,,,,ppl in the office tease me, make fun of me, stare at me, laugh at me .......first i tried to smile back and laugh also, tell them a joke on how dumb i am so that they would like me even more, but now , since 3 mounths pasted, i realized i havent' done much ! i've never had a client! i've never had a case to handle of an excisting client!! its not funny anymore, what should i do?????
2006-10-06 04:24:09 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
carry yourself with confidence and people will take you seriously
2006-10-06 04:25:51 · answer #1 · answered by Mendi8a 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell your boss that you're not comfortable with being called a "cute and funny female" - that is bordering on sexual harrassment. Maybe you can even put a note into your human resources file to document this. No one should be treating you this way, especially your boss. He should no better than that.
Also, you should ask to speak to your these individuals and your boss in private and address these concerns. Of course, the "new guy" will always be subject to a little teasing and stuff in the beginning, but it has been over 3 months. In the meantime, you should try to dress a bit older, wear glasses, etc. If I were you, I'd also start looking for a new job - this may be a great job, but if you're not getting any work, what's the point.
2006-10-06 14:27:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take yourself and career very seriously right now. You put out alot of energy and time not to say money to get your degree. Talk with your boss and ask for an assignment, any will do right now. Do not whine that no one will give you respect, you have to earn respect. If you can suggest an assignment that is really showing interest in the department/company. Get that assignment and work it. Do it fast and complete, turn it in before the time limit. You need to show your competency, forget about your humor and looks. You won't last there very long if you don't start to make a contribution. Your boss does not seem like the brightest bulb either, he/she is not making an impression with their coaching/management skills either. Do both of you a favor and FIND something to do, do it well, and then ask for another assignment. If you want a career you need to start showing your competency, never, never, ever make a joke at work that pokes fun at yourself. That is not the way to get along. Read some books on self esteem, getting along with others, etc. Also, if you have a friend or relative that is doing well in business ask them to help you figure out how to gain respect with your coworkers.
2006-10-06 11:35:17 · answer #3 · answered by Catherine N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry its that first job syndrome where u are having a hard time in your job cause your new in there that's every office worker feel on their new job cause u still doesn't know anything about your job i mean u still lack experience in your job but u should let other office worker help u in your job. kind of apprentice where a trainor is teaching a trainee how to do the job. that's how it work's in the office where ur still learning from others until u master to do your work better. actually it will take to 1 year to 2 years before u gain experience in your work cause ur still young, fresh graduate from college like a freshman in school so just be yourself and learn from others how to handle a job better okay. sooner or later when u gain experience u will have many clients and even promoted okay just be yourself like i said learn from others okay
2006-10-06 11:55:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously helped to cause this to happen. I actually find it hard to believe what you wrote. Anyone with a brain wouldn't say those things with the fear of sexual harassment. If they did you shouldn't have helped to perpetuate it more by making jokes. Making jokes probably made them feel like they COULD say things like that.
As far as the client stuff goes, you just started 3 months ago. You are a grunt and in the finance world you must accept that. Do your time, respect yourself and you will be given more authority.
2006-10-06 11:55:07 · answer #5 · answered by SoothSayer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your chin up and be professional. You got the job based on your qualifications so you do belong there. My guess would be that they are threatened by you or envious in some way because of your education. They would not be acting so immature and unprofessional otherwise. I would bide your time and learn what you can there, develop contacts etc. and be actively pursuing another company. The culture at this one does not sound like a place that I would want to be at any longer than necessary.
2006-10-06 11:29:07 · answer #6 · answered by Jordan A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being cute and funny. Have a little respect for yourself, never state how dumb you are or let other people do it. Find clients on your own. Do you dress professionally or like you are still in college? Carry yourself with a little dignity & pride. It isn't anybody elses fault but your own for this prediciment. Change your persona now.
2006-10-06 11:34:24 · answer #7 · answered by MVAC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Making comments on your looks and that the only reason they keep you around is because you're "cute and funny" is harassment. If he doesn't trust you with money, find another job. Tell your coworkers you would appreciate it if they would stop staring. If you make jokes that you're dumb, people will think you're dumb. Dress more modestly. If your ti.ts are hanging out of your shirt, people are going to stare. If you're wearing skirts that are more like belts, people are going to stare. Educate yourself on at least somewhat proper grammar and spelling, too.... It's not brain surgery.
2006-10-06 11:29:44 · answer #8 · answered by sovereign_carrie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop letting them treat you like a cute little toy. You have to take yourself a lot more seriously to get others to. Start asking others what you can do to help, volunteer for projects, let your boss know you are ready for a project. A professional attitude will yield professional results.
2006-10-06 11:27:18 · answer #9 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Change your style for the workplace. Dress simple and businesslike, get a haircut that isn't cutesy, use clear nail polish, apply simple makeup, and don't be giggly. Lose the self deprecating style of humor as well.
2006-10-06 11:36:58 · answer #10 · answered by DeborahDel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your boss that you want to talk with him seriously and if he doesn't take you seriously then you need to go over his head or find another job.
2006-10-06 11:34:28 · answer #11 · answered by im2cute4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋