Having divorced my ex husband over 10 years ago, my 4 children have been subjected to verbal and emotional abuse for continuing to love me. They have been torn apart emotionally, to the extent where they need councilling at the ages of 12 and 14, and continue to have to take this from their father, whom they love also. Social Services will not do anything about it, as it is a "grey area" and neither will the cattle markets that are the familly courts. No one is interested in what some people are doing to their children and what effects it may have in their adult lives. Innocent children are being used as pawns in parents grudges. We all know right from wrong, so why is it still allowed to go on? Any views?
2006-10-06 04:14:39 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i have the same problem with my ex. i watched my children on an emotional rollercoaster for two years. thankfully he has moved away, and his family no longer sees my children. but the impact that his lies and insults have made may not be realized until the children are much older. will they ever be able to trust their partners? will they ever experience an open loving relationship? or will they be abusers themselves? as long as the court systems allow this type of abuse to continue children will have no respect for their parents. but who could really blame them when parents act like children themselves. you need to let your children know you love them, as i'm sure you already do. you need to support them in knowing that loving someone that someone else doesn't approve of is not a bad thing. and you also need to let them know that you would never not love them because they love their father. children realize sooner or later who is trying to hurt them, and in the end it will be you that they are able to experience a strong, open, loving relationship with. let their father dig his hole.
2006-10-06 05:02:53 · answer #1 · answered by sickofmakinthemgo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are people who care very much, my husband and I have nearly divorced recently following his affair and the schools have said that if we do divorce there are counsellors and support for the children through the schools. We are also part of a church group who are supporting us and praying for us. It's not easy on the children because it's not part of God's plan but if it has to happen then prayer is still the first place I go. Do you have a good church nearby that can help? Here's a link to the group I belong to, you have tried everything else to help your kids, why not try God, you certainly have nothing to lose.
2006-10-06 07:23:04 · answer #2 · answered by good tree 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is such thing as verbal abuse. Get counceling for your children and show that this abuse DOES affect them negatively. Then file to have your ex's visitations monitored so he isnt alone with the kids. Hopefully, the courts will then step up and do the right thing.
2006-10-06 04:19:15 · answer #3 · answered by JC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What Pippin suggested. staggering one. i anticipate you consequently evaluate which you have been broken because of the fact your mothers and dads have been impolite and ignorant? And which you have raised the two impolite and ignorant babies? Sorry, i think of i could somewhat spank. stunning the type you comprehend all of it...and yet your fount of information questions are all private, with all their solutions to all of us's self-discipline subjects. Why does not you desire people to have the means to work out them? "How do you think of I have been given to be a expert instructor of babies with behaviour problems without doing study on the subject rely?" i do no longer think of you're something of the type. i think of you invent your skills and historic past to healthful the question you ask each and every time. If no longer, make your account public so we are in a position to all see that your statements have been consistent over the weeks. rather undemanding, no?
2016-10-18 22:21:35 · answer #4 · answered by grewe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex needs to grow up!!!!!! Be patient, my ex was a real dope too!! His children saw what he was doing, and now at ages, 16,19,20&29 they have very little to do with him!! They love him, he is their Dad, but they can't stand him!!!! He will loose in the end, just stand back and watch him ruin the best relationships he COULD have had!! Wait until he calls you and asks if your saying things about him to the kids, cuz they don't call like they used to, they don't want to spend time with him, like they used to, they don't talk to him like they used to...............You can sit back and simply say, they have all grown up now, their busy with their own lives, it is sad isn't it?? And your four kids are with you at your home loving and laughing!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-06 04:48:08 · answer #5 · answered by mamaexfour 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please take an injunction out on your husband, Stop them seeing the kids, he doesnt love them at all, hes using them to hurt you and its wrong. The children already know how much you love them so keep them away from your tormentor.
2006-10-06 08:11:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a shame kids are always the pawn ,maybe they should just stop seeing dad for a while and have them explaine why they dont want to see him good luck
2006-10-06 04:29:51 · answer #7 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
BECAUSE OUR COURT AND JUSTICE SYSTEM IS FU**ED UP.
2006-10-06 04:32:24 · answer #8 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋