I am living with a man whom I love very much and I believe that he loved me too. About two months ago we moved to a home together about 350 mile away. I got a new job, which I like, and he is retired. The problem is this - I'm not sure that he loves me anymore. He has started picking at small things that I apparently need to change. We have been together for five months and I do love him with all my heart, but recently he hasn't been as affectionate and spends a great deal of time alone in the garage fixing things, reading and just sort of minding his own business. Before I came along, he had been alone for some time and maybe he misses his own space?
I miss him terribly the way he was with me before. He used to spend every minute with me - even spending hours with me in the bathroom talking, etc. We used to make love at least once or twice a day, now it's more like every other day. He used to leave me the most loving notes, but no more.
Am I overreacting or is he gone?
2006-10-06 04:03:48 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
talk to him b4 you make any assumptions. he may not be used to living with someone and likes things done a certain way. talk first then make up your mind. my husband was the same way. i finally asked him about these things and he told me what was wrong and together we fixed them. now we are very happy and i couldnt ask for anything more
2006-10-06 04:09:53 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, no you not over reacting ,and i am sure that you love him very much, but for someone to change so much in so little of time something is really wrong,and i am sure that the feelings that he had for you at first isn't there any more, he is having second thoughts, and he's not happy.you need talk with him and ask him what is going on,what feelings that he has for you ,and from that conversation ,you need to think about , if you still want to be in a relationship with this man , is it worth it or not, also you don't want to be the one to end up getting hurt at the end,,
good luck
Leena
2006-10-06 11:49:25 · answer #2 · answered by leena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its called 'security". That is...for those of you who have never made any attempt to develop and work at a lasting relationship...what settles in if you love someone.
You should have to be jumping into bed every 30 seconds, cooing and kissing one another and doing stupid, juvenile things like sending little e-mails and text messages every day saying "how much I wuve you". Puh-leese.
He hasn't gone anywhere. You expect things to remain the same. They don't. That doesn't mean he loves you less. Plus...if you're getting laid every other day quit whining.
Hey!..Ladies! How many of you here would love to get some every other day? Plenty I'll bet. Besides...you have to take time to eat and sleep you know.
2006-10-06 11:45:03 · answer #3 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One question would be why you moved in with him within only 3 months of knowing him. Seems a bit hasty. He could still be adjusting to having you around... or maybe the novelty has worn off.
2006-10-06 11:20:50 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
possible that he is readjusting himself to a new environment and new home. if he is ignoring you completely then you gotto think about that.
or maybe he has taken you for granted in everything. cuz you show your love all the time.
try ignoring him the way he does to you for a week. dont do it all of a sudden. go slow on this, couple of days...then start ignoring him...start to do your own things. if he comes back banging on your head to talk to him, then dear he loves you but getting adjusted to new things is all.
2006-10-06 11:22:12 · answer #5 · answered by Romantic_N_Kool 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ease up on him. You say you still make love every other day?
Wait a bit and then approach him if he doesn't change and ask him if he's upset over something.
2006-10-06 11:18:22 · answer #6 · answered by wayouthere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he has too much time on his hands, perhaps he needs to get a part time job or do some voluntary work to fill in his spare time.
2006-10-06 11:06:33 · answer #7 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He still loves you, maybe some tiny space.
2006-10-06 11:53:19 · answer #8 · answered by Blk Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he must be in trouble.you must be contact with him and know the matter.when you try to do this he may feel better and also clear this problem.
2006-10-06 11:18:03 · answer #9 · answered by lvthinker82 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋