We have known each other for 2 years and have been together for one year..saw each other everday..he has some family issues..his parents got a divorce and his mom wants to bring her new lover to do some construction at the house..well last week he just blew up and said that we're going to fast..we're really serious and he said that we're not compatiable in the long run but then he said that he is sorry and doesnt know what he's saying. So we finally came to a conclusion to take a break.but he still wants to know how i am..where i am..and if im ok..but at the same time i'm really worried about him..and he has said that he loves me and doesnt want to lose me..and i feel the same..i dont know what to do
2006-10-06 03:59:47 · 11 answers · asked by luckystar 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
oh btw..he said he wants to soul search..and that we're not breakin up..just a break and he's lost his mind ..he wants to find it and stuff..just clear his head
2006-10-06 04:02:05 · update #1
sorry i keep forgettin to put stuff..but should i text him to see how is he..just like he does..??
2006-10-06 04:14:09 · update #2
Thats understandable its hard on some people when the parents get divorced. I would tell him That you understand about all of it and If he needs someone to talk to or a shoulder to cry on that you will be there for him like you have for that past year. Dont give up. Just give it time.
2006-10-06 04:06:48 · answer #1 · answered by bt30711 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-06 05:21:32 · answer #2 · answered by Jorge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your bf saw his parents divorce,and,since he loves you so much,he probably freaked out at the thought of ever having to divorce you,so,in an erratic momment,he most likely thought that the best way to prvent this,is to slow down,and separate for a while.You should get back together, you've heard the saying,"abscence makes the heart grow fonder" true down to the last letter. I know exactly what youre going thru. My br and i were together for almost 2 years when my parents divorced,and he reacted just like yours did,we ended up breaking up anyway,about a month ago for different reasons,but,trust me,he wants to be with you as well,so,go,and be with your man!!!!!!
2006-10-06 04:10:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Previously, someone mentioned a break. Giving him a break is good idea. He need time to miss you and know what he has in front of him. Sometimes men need that. When ask you where you are, be brief, and tell him you will call him back. Don't answer his questions, as though you are still together. Sometimes take advantage of the space. Do something for yourself, like shopping. Occupy your time well. And don't answer the phone all the time when he call. Good Luck.
2006-10-06 04:25:24 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. Jacksonville, FL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the divorce of his parents has shaken his faith in long lasting relationships. It almost appears that he is afraid that the two of you could end up like his parents. Give him some space, support him, see if maybe he will see a divorce counselor. I think he will be okay, his world has just been rocked and things he thought were permanent and forever have been wrecked and his faith is shaken...
2006-10-06 04:07:14 · answer #5 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he loves you very much, but he is scared. Since his parents have just divorced, maybe (unknowingly) he is testing you to see if you are going to stick things out with him through thick and thin. With the recent divorce, he sounds like he needs more reasurrance from you that you will be there. I'm not saying that you have done anything wrong, sometimes there is no blame. But it honestly sounds like he simply needs to know that you will be there.
2006-10-06 04:05:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't know what he wants, so let him go and try to enjoy your life. If he decides he really does love you , then he'll show you and if you were "meant to be" you will be. Just let him go and figure out his "soul" - it's such a cop-out! Live your life girl, for you, not for a man who can't figure out who he is, he probably never will and you'll find yourself 45 and him having a mid-life crisis while you are raising the family!
2006-10-06 04:05:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is such a COWARD!!!!
Here Let me translate for ya:
I want to see other girl but I want you wait for me till I find the right girl or girls to bang. Only when I can't find any one I will be back for you. can you wait for me? thanks babe.
Know what you got to do now? Soul searching that's a good one. I use that one before.
2006-10-06 04:06:47 · answer #8 · answered by Kenshin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like hes blowing hot air out of his a** break loose while you can and move on hes probably interested in someone else and doesn't have the balls to say it
2006-10-06 04:10:02 · answer #9 · answered by mzrobsn414 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably need to give him time. He has family problems that need time to heal. Never stop talking to him if you want this relationship to prosper. It will go no where if you stop talking.
2006-10-06 04:05:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋