What do you hold on to for fear of letting go?

Question

It could be anything. For eg. things, emotions, relationships, etc.

I tend to hold on to a good book, reading it slowly, savouring it until the end. It is sad when a good book ends.

Answer 1

I sooo, totally agree with you. Except for the reading it slowly part. Once I have a good book I cant let go of it and might even finish it in 2-3 days. Then the heartache starts.
Other than that, I think emotions are hard for every human being.
But, I try to look at the bright side of everything. It helps to ease the pain.

Peace.

Answer 2

Life

Answer 3

Ah! The FEAR of letting go! That is the key. There is nothing to fear when you let go. There is always something for you in the next move, or book, or relationship. Ask yourself if it will matter in the future. My bf always says "In a hundred years it won't matter!" Whatever it is you need to let go. It will serve you well in life to do that. I kept everything, as a pack rat will, and lost most of it in floods and earthquakes. What matters is that it is in my head. My memories. You cannot lose those. Unless you get Allsheimers and then what does it matter? You wouldn't miss it then either!

Answer 4

I mostly hold on to old things with which I've emotional attachment with, e.g. my 8-year old green-coloured t-shirt or the very first novel I read (Fountain Head).

These things are very repelling to people around me. They get very upset seeing me every weekend in that t-shirt, out of which many threads are hanging out.

They also ask me for buying new copy of this novel. But I can't let go of it.

I guess I am attached to some memories related to these things. But I can't really figure out as per why I am attached to that stupid t-shirt. If I let of these things, I feel I'll lose part of myself.

Answer 5

What you hold on to is yourself.... but, to do that, you must know who and what that self is.

The reason people focus on people, places, and things outside of themselves is that they fear going within themselves. What lies within is the "unknown", and within this unknown is the monster, at least that is what most fear.

The "monster" is ones (NS-I) or Negative Self-Image hidden within ones MIND realm. This is a body of intensely negative traumata taken-on at or near ones birth. Freud noticed this same body of negative energy and called it the "ID".

The level of (NS-I) is relative within each person. For some, they don't have any access to any emotionality due the the level of fear they have for the (NS-I).... this fear is usually non-conscious. Those people who are "thinkers" or thrive on intellectual activity and avoid emotional situations, are those with a greater fear of going "within".

Ones need for "control" of life stems from this same fear of "letting go". If one were to let go [some live their lives as though], one would be pulled into the den of the monster and die a horrible death. Again ones life is lived with this fear remaining just below the surface of their awareness.

The fact is.... this body of intensely negative traumata does exist, but each and Every trauma is a misperception by ones MIND. Ones MIND believes these to be actual indications of who and what one is, and this is entirely a misinterpretation of events at and near ones birth by ones MIND. Unfortunately, ones MIND, which directs ones brain [and never the reverse] believes these misperceptions to be true. This belief subtly colors ones life, causing one more grief than joy. This is so, until it changes... and this is up to ones Fate Karma. When one completes paying off a particular Karmic due bill, by reaping what one has previously sown, the bit of misperceived trauma is automatically released from the (NS-I) back to ones Apapsyche [Operational Energy of ones Soul] as Knowledge, and this elevates ones Apapsyche, and ones perspective of life is enhanced.

So, what one holds on to is the belief that who and what one is, is a Perfect Soul.... in the midst of exploring the Creation. And, that ones fears, although seemingly real, are in actuality part of the delusional nature of the play of life.

Peace

Answer 6

There are many relationships i should've let go of sooner, and also things, but ultimately, life moves and we will have to let go of everything except our faith which moves our soul to the next phase.

Answer 7

My girl's butt.

Seriously, my youth. I try to stay as young as possible, but as time goes by, it's harder to hold on to.

Answer 8

My anger. I'm afraid of being weak.

Answer 9

i dont know if this counts,but i HATE taking money out of my savings account.putting money in,makes me feel gr8,but its like sticking a fork in my eye to get me to spend it !!!!!!

Answer 10

my church, my sanity ,my job