hi 'im really stuck up here. A long time family friend of mine proposed to me and we're going steady. The catch is my parents, even though they like her, have told me indirectly that its not a wise choice since her dad has acquired money illegally and that her mom is a very tough person to handle and that they want nothin to do with their family.
I really like her but the point my parents are making is also absolutely right. And my parents are still more afraid coz she had blood cancer from which she had a divine healing. They might have a felling that that might affect me in the long run if we get married. Help me out please...?
2006-10-06 03:34:32 · 10 answers · asked by rocker 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
GOD YOU ARE SUCH A WEENY! GO GROW SOME BA**S LITTLE MAMA"S BOY!
Here is your answer to your question:
If one day all your parents are dead and so is hers and you can rise your family any way you want, Would you still want her as mother and wife. does she love and trust you? do you love and trust her?
There are more than one person for every other person in life and that is the fact. However with that being said, Do you feel you were meant to be with her in this life time?
Your family and her family care about you, they raise you and her to able to make important decision on your own and they can only can give you advice and not run your life........unless your a mama's boy.
so do what you feel is right. nothing has change in life but other people's opinion. you heart will take you were you should be going in this life time.
2006-10-06 03:48:30 · answer #1 · answered by Kenshin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her, then the blood cancer shouldn't effect your decision at all. You can't stop loving someone because they are sick. That's not right. If you did, then you didn't love her in the first place. The only thing that the blood cancer can effect is your children. If having children is more important than being with her, then I suggest you find someone else. It doesn't matter what her parents do. What matters is what she does. Don't judge a person by their family. If her mother doesn't want anything to do with your family, so what. When have a couples parent's spend time with each other. On the holidays, you go to one parent's house and then to the other. The parent's never see one another. It all comes down to what you want. It sounds like your parents are making a lot of dumb excuses. Why don't you stay engaged for three or four years. By then you should know excatly how your marriage will turn out. You will know all of her true colors and she will know all of yours and if you two still want to be with each other, then get married. Make your own decisons and don't let your parents make them for you. It's your life, not theres. They chose who they wanted to be with. Good luck.
2006-10-06 03:47:19 · answer #2 · answered by Xena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey rocker...
Remember, you're not marrying her parents. That's what your parents seem more concerned about. Who cares what her Dad does, and who cares if her Mom is so tough. It's the girl you want, right? And about this divine healing.....I think that's a wonderful thing to happen. Why would that influence your decision.? If anything I would think you'd want to be around someone with such healing power.
Focus on what you and your girl want...not what your parents want. Yeah, it's good to have their blessing, but if you miss out on your soul mate because of choices your parents make for you....................well, you figure that one out..
Good luck...! ! !
2006-10-06 03:42:48 · answer #3 · answered by Sweetea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will her family be a large part of your lives? Do they have control over their daughter where as you will have to constantly listen to their "advice" and go along with all they say? Will you and her have any part of the funds that were obtained illegally? You are marrying her, not her parents. I know they will be a huge part of your lives, but they should not be in positions to control and manipulate your marriage. If you really love her, marry her. Set boundaries with the parents. you and her sit down and seriously discuss your concerns. I have great in laws who never meddle in our lives but are ALWAYS there for us. That is how it should be. My mom on the other hand is diff, so good luck.
2006-10-06 03:42:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her, you love her, it's that simple. Look in your heart, you will know if she's your one or not. Also, accepting or denying strictly because of the blood cancer ordeal is very wrong. I have thyroid cancer now and I know that if someone were to do something for me out of a sort of pitty or to decline something out of fear, it would make me feel pretty horrible about myself. Her parents are not her; remember that regardless of what they have done or continue to do, it doesn't necessarily reflect what she will do in her life. Life doesn't hand you cake, so to speak; only the ingredients. Work and effort is required for all relationships to work. And most certainly, do not enter this engagement with doubt. Talk to her about this, I'm sure she will appreciate it. Best of luck.
2006-10-06 03:42:38 · answer #5 · answered by karissa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is: What do you Want???? What do YOU think?
Parents can give good advices but it's not their life...they already had theirs......You should consider their point of you but must look at what you would want to do instead.
From your reading, I don't see love....I see friendship...When you like somebody doens't mean, You love them and you are ready to settle. Think about what you want out of life: happiness, security, kids in good health, passion.....and You'll be able to determine what to do.....
Good luck
2006-10-06 03:38:26 · answer #6 · answered by Valerie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be a grown up about it and talk to her about her family and how its troubles would affect your union. You should also have a frank discussion about her health and what it will mean to the relationship.
This has nothing to do with your parents this is about you and her.
2006-10-06 03:40:28 · answer #7 · answered by NolaD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do what you feel is right. Don't base it on her family base your thought on what she's like. It's not up to your parents to decide your future that's your choice. But in my opinion go for it!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-06 03:40:59 · answer #8 · answered by Baby girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would have to say that if you are having thoughts like that then you dont really love her although you may think you do if you let anyone or anything get in the way of you marrying her then you cant love her...
2006-10-06 03:38:58 · answer #9 · answered by KaKes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope
2006-10-06 03:36:49 · answer #10 · answered by ryanconnarton 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋