my daughters best friend' mother and i have an occassionally drink after work and get together occassionally on the weekends. i found out her mother passed away 3 days late!!! as you can see, we dont chat that often and i'm not too close to her family. at this point it seems senseless to take them food, the family has already come and gone. her nephew works at a flower shop so i imagine they had plenty of those. i called her the day i found out to give my condolences, i was actually on my way to visit with her and she just wanted some rest, so i told her, then i would visit her another day. question is - now what? should i visit empty handed?
2006-10-06 03:28:49 · 6 answers · asked by M S 3 5 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Thank you all for your input. It is very much appreciated!!!
2006-10-06 03:48:02 · update #1
Visit and, by all means, do not go empty handed. It's not too late to make a casserole and bring it...or a homemade cake or something. Then, stay and have a piece with her. Offer to make a pot of coffee, too, while you're at it then sit down with her.
In the days surrounding the death of a loved one, it's hard to remember who showed up and who didn't, there's such a flurry of activity and thoughtful gestures. Then the funeral is over, the casseroles served and everyone goes back to their daily life...except for the ones who grieve the most. By all means, visit her....apologize for not hearing of her mother's passing...and then stay with her. Don't be afraid to mention her mother...most of us want to talk about our dearly departed...and we want to know that they made an impact on others besides ourselves.
2006-10-06 03:39:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont need a gift but it would help in ur state so if i was u i would go and get like a teddy bear or something... still if that guy works in a flower shop go ahead and get like 3 or so of roses and send them thith the teddy
2006-10-06 03:33:03 · answer #2 · answered by bill 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't show up empty handed. Show them you care even if it's a card or flowers.
2006-10-06 03:31:45 · answer #3 · answered by ladyrose31474 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BRING SOMETHING! ANYTHING YOU THING THEY WILL LIKE THATS APPROPRIATE FOR THE OCCASION AND SAY YOUR CONDOLENCES AND BE VERY SINCERE!!!
2006-10-06 03:34:10 · answer #4 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just offer your sympathy and then offer a shoulder to your daughters friend,let her know that you and her mom shared a little time together and she is welcome at your home.
2006-10-06 03:32:38 · answer #5 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
2006-10-06 03:31:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋