Do you think that it is better if I stand up and take action by telling my classmate (a 14-yr-old girl, we're of the same age) that I like and love her? Or should i just spend the rest of my teenage years waiting?
2006-10-06 03:13:50 · 8 answers · asked by unquenchablethirst 2 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
be brave and just do it!!! good luck. and trust me in the long run rejection is better than not knowing at all. the longer u wait to kno the more ur hopes build up and the harder they will fall if she rejects u. (hopefully not though) good luck
2006-10-06 03:19:09 · answer #1 · answered by Belosnezhka (aka Gex) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't come on too strong. But ask her to the next school dance. If the dance goes well call her the next night and ask her to the movies. Make sure you plan the movie on a friday or saturday since it is not a school night and ask a few days in advance. If the theater is not in walking distance get your Dad to drive if he is readily available as Dads tend to be less embarassing ( ask Dad first). Pick a comedy or if she likes horror DON'T PICk a love story unless she suggests it, it is not appropriate until further in the relationship and not all girls like love stories. If she allowes a kiss good night a simple peck on the cheek is all ya'll are ready for and shows her that you are respectful to her. Let me know if this works, it did for my brother.
2006-10-06 10:24:43 · answer #2 · answered by i_love_superheroes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey dude, I'd say that if you did that, you'd freak her out. Instead, ask her out sometime...maybe to a movie or something. If she doens't feel comfortable w/ that, then maybe try a get together with her and a bunch of friends. That way, you can also get to know her around others...see how she behaves among friends. And as you're hanging out, talk with her...ask her questions about herself, have discussions, share things about yourself, etc...but I wouldn't suggest you jump in and tell her that you like & love her until she gets a chance to know you some...doing so may turn her away.
If you've already done all this, you're already friends, you hang out w/ friends together, etc...then I'd say ask her out...ask her if she'd like to go on a date or somewhere just the 2 of you. But man, take it slow. She'll figure out from the date that you like her, and as the relationship grows, she'll begin to see your love for her. But if you really love her, then you'll take it slow...sudden emotions need to be questioned...real feelings & emotions form & grow together.
I'll pray for you on this, ok?
2006-10-06 10:25:05 · answer #3 · answered by Turmoyl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she your friend already? If she is it just might be easier to tell her you like her. Don't tell her you LOVE her just yet. Try to start a dating mode then go from there.
I say , if you like her, tell her. Maybe she likes you too but hasn't or doesn't want to tell you because she is afraid of rejection. You might be rejected too, but remember.... If you don't do or say things for fear of rejection, then you'll never find out what could have happened.
Peace.
2006-10-06 10:58:53 · answer #4 · answered by wonderwoman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it. Years from now you don't want to be wondering what might have been. The worst that is going to happen is she won't feel the same way. Then again she might. The only way you will know is to talk to her. Good luck.....
2006-10-06 10:22:54 · answer #5 · answered by parrothead2371 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, at 14, I think you should start as friends myself...save the love for later, you do have plenty of time!
2006-10-06 10:22:57 · answer #6 · answered by fairly smart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't say the L word just ask her out on a date...you don't want to scare her off!!
2006-10-06 10:21:34 · answer #7 · answered by chimpy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't hesitate.....
Start living TODAY
Go and ask her out
Then, in time, tell her You love her...
2006-10-06 15:11:14 · answer #8 · answered by spyblitz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋