We have been 2gether for the past 2months and he even broke up with his childs mother 4 me we luv each other and do not care wat anyone thinks we even moving in 2gether, even tho we know our family will not except it.He is 19 and i am 25 with no kids and i dont want to lose him coz i luv him very much.
2006-10-06 03:02:21 · 33 answers · asked by lovey24 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
hey . why worry about other people as long as you really feel like you really love each other that much go for it!! F**K what other people think!! it's your life not theirs!! good luck!!
2006-10-06 03:07:38 · answer #1 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That isn't really a very big age difference, so I wouldnt be too concerned about that.
In some places there are laws about relationships between closely related people. Is your cousin so closely related that it
might cause a legal problem or a genetic problem if you had
children together?
This relationship is not starting off in the most desirable of ways,
and you need to be careful that you dont get into something that will cause the both of you grief in the longer term.
Having said that, lots of people have married distant cousins and done just fine
2006-10-06 03:09:41 · answer #2 · answered by hls 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there is a thing called kissing cousins! My grandmother and grandfather were cousins and they had 4 kids together! None of them are deformed or disfigured by any means. As long as it is not your own brother I don't see what the problem is! Many people fall in love with their cousins. I did once too and we ended up going our separate ways. To each their own as I always say!
2006-10-06 03:22:16 · answer #3 · answered by kolowski4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two kinds of love. Those that you have for your partner or lover and those that you have for your friends and family. It seems to me that you may have the two of them mixed up. Sure you love your cousin, but its more of the love between family members. I love my cousins! But sleeping with him, it isn't right! You might be attracted to him, but this is more hormonal than anything else and is it worth the rejection of your family when they find out about what is happening? Think about that! It feels right because you do love him, but you obviously don't feel right about sleeping with him otherwise you would not have bothered asking this question here. You want someone to tell you its right, but it isn't. You love him as family and nothing more I think, and you just need to realise this and end the "relationship".
2006-10-06 03:09:18 · answer #4 · answered by laislinns 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Consider your motives-Are you with him for the reason that you depend upon him to make you feel good about yourself?
2) Can you discern his motives-Is he using you to a) avoid responsibilities to the mother of his children, b) make his life easier in some way, or c) because he found you to be compliant to his whims?
3) Consider the importance of familial ties(in regards to their acceptance of the circumstances both you and he share). You do know that in most cultures this sort of behavior is neither promoted nor encouraged. You should expect vehement polar opposition to your lifestyle, how would you and he respond to this?
4) I would strongly advise you to educate yourself about the consequences regarding children. Factually, what are the risks of your conceiving child with your cousin? Birth defects? Knowledge is power, it is preferable that you know what to anticipate rather than it befall you unexpectedly.
5) My own opinion is that I am not in the position to pass judgement over those who neither regard themselves nor their own behaviors without relying on the estimations from the public at large for justification.
2006-10-06 04:00:07 · answer #5 · answered by D_Lucky1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A love in secret and also the cause of a breakup is not healthy.
Although in many states, believe it or not, cousins can marry this is still unhealthy. If this is a true love then you should be out in th open about it.
It sounds like lust has overtaken the meaning of love and respect in this relationship.
2006-10-06 03:09:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're supposed to love your cousin. But there are different kinds of love. I think you chose the wrong one.
And you say you don't care what anyone thinks, If you really didn't care I don't think you would have put the question on here, asking for our opions.
Is it that you can't find another man , besides your family ?
2006-10-06 03:10:18 · answer #7 · answered by eviechatter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love (or in this case lust I think) or not, this relationship is doomed and you know why..... (I won't even bring up the "I" word)Do what you want, but be prepared for the consequences - I guarentee you that they will be ugly. For your sakes break it off now and keep your mouth shut about it to the family.
2006-10-06 03:08:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the only problem would be if you wanted to have your own children with him. Too bad it had to break up something else, but other than that, if you love each other, you love each other. Maybe you're both hot.
2006-10-06 03:06:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sleeping with cousins isn't breaking any laws in the US. So good luck. Have fun. Be good to each other.
2006-10-06 03:06:08 · answer #10 · answered by David T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its wonderful. I wish you two the best. And I want to thank you both for not spreading that bloodline around. Every little bit helps ya know?
2006-10-06 06:30:52 · answer #11 · answered by Annabelle418 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋