About 6 months ago one of my girlfriends (she is the type of girl that thrives on manly attention), but anyway she met my boyfriend for the first time....we were out drinking, having fun. About a month later I broke up with my boyfriend(becuase of his drinking habits) My friend made it quite clear that he is a loser and just said she didnt like the way he looked at her..as if he was making googly eyes at her...Well 6 months passes and last night my girfriend tells me that the night she and my ex met he actually said to her that he wished I wasnt around so he could get to know her better... Why wouldnt she have told me that right away? It could have saved me alot of heartache because then I would have known ..not only he is a drunk he is also trying to pick up my friends. Wouldnt you tell your friend?
2006-10-06 02:57:43 · 15 answers · asked by karaoke742000 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I dunno, I am in kind of the same situation with one of my friends... We found out her husband was cheating with another one of our married friends... we have no idea when, or how to tell her, plus we think he should, so we haven't. Sorry about the crappy people that surround you. Good luck!
2006-10-06 03:00:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've found myself in that situation a few times and have seen the outcome of both decisions. I had a friend who's boyfriend hit on me. I told her, he denied it, she stopped being my friend and ended up all by herself with two kids when he left her. Had another friend who's husband actually offered me money to sleep with him and I didn't tell her. I just stopped going to her house when he was around. They are now divorced because she found out he was sleeping around. I felt bad for not telling her but didn't want to be the reason her marriage ended. She's still mad at me for not telling her. It's like you're damned if you do and damned if you don't. My sister's boyfriend hit on me but I told my mom instead of her. She stayed with him anyway and for a long time resented me. We all get along now but I know my sister still feels resentment towards me. It's just a hard situation.
2006-10-06 10:12:54 · answer #2 · answered by lovelee1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may have not told you because she thought that you and him were really into each other. Plus as you all were drinking she may have thought it was the booze talking and did not take him seriously. forgive her, sometimes people don't say anything because they are not sure how you will react.
What would you have said/done if she told you 6 months ago? Would she still be your friend?
2006-10-06 10:03:12 · answer #3 · answered by wingedgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe not, I have had a lot of things said to me by people that were drunk and I wrote it off as them being drunk and stupid. Things these people would not normally say sober and if I had told their husband, boyfriend or friends what was said, it would have created a lot of heart ache, not saved any...I think it would have to be on a case by case basis.
2006-10-06 10:04:08 · answer #4 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Difficult thing... for everyone has their own responsibility and you can easily destroy things without knowing all the details...
I guess I wouldn't have done it immediately... probably would have even tried to talk to the man... but as soon as I would have known that my friend thinks about seperation I might have let her know... (Not in a sense of making him bad, but with the intention to help her find the strengh to leave him)
2006-10-06 10:02:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hard question, what a creep trying to pick up on your friend while he is with you... some men!! But, I think it depends on what you want to happen with the info... if I was your freind i would consider the facts, you are broken up anyways, so why hurt you, it doesnt matter because me being your friend nothing would have happened anyway.... maybe he would have walked a little funny right there and then after i had kned him in his jewels......... and then you would have known right there and then, but to tell you now... why bother??
2006-10-06 10:03:57 · answer #6 · answered by Debbie H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I truly believe Honesty is the best Policy. If she was a true friend I believe she should have mentioned it to you when she said he was a looser. Would you have told her if it was reversed? Always remember The Truth will set you free. Take Care.
2006-10-06 10:05:35 · answer #7 · answered by sam04m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not right way you think about your friend.You can't judge him for this.He might feel uneasy to tell you that he misses you,but you should take a step ahead of him.You should talk with him and patch up again.pass time with him and then he will openly tell you waht he thinks about you
2006-10-06 10:01:47 · answer #8 · answered by Harsh Vora 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend & I was almost in the same situation, and we sorted things out, from that day, there were no secrets between us again! But no shouldn't of keeped it from you! I was mad as well, when my friend kept it from me!
2006-10-06 10:23:18 · answer #9 · answered by SUNSHINE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe ur fren is in a dilemmaa condition.. how can u expect someone to be too straight forward.. it might ur frenship... give each other some time and get calm... then find a solution for that...
2006-10-06 10:01:02 · answer #10 · answered by yang 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋