Justin and i been together for 10 years ? there been fight some time and yell matches. he always think i'm cheating on him . when i'm not , but i still love him. I use to do everything for him. almost all the jobs in the pass years that he receive was done to me. when my car was the only transporation for us and his family,. about and 3 month ago i strat up there where he work at and some guy told him that i been seen him behind just back. justine believe the guy instead of me. he was mad and try to put me out of that house that we share with hos mother. but i thought we got pass all that , but i deicde to move out , because his mother would just run competely over me , think that would help ours relationship . but it made it worset now he want talk to me, don't want to see me . he's tell me thatg he love me but , his mind would let him be with me, he he is to much have had in 10 years? but we break upmany time before , it's just never felt like this those, it hurts.
2006-10-06 02:56:35 · 17 answers · asked by martha h 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I will try my best with your question as it is all confusing and i dare say the last 10 years with Justin have also been.
You say that you have broken up lots of times and always got back together but this feels diffrent and you are more hurt.
People can olnly take so much hurt and you have no come to the end of it and are upset and hurt as you do not know which way to go if that makes sense.
Many people will have an off on relationship and wonder why and one of the reasons is because they do love one another very much and miss one another when apart so they get back together WITHOUT really talking about what casued the split in the first place. It is like creating a honeymoon period of reconsiliation and then one day may be next day next month next year the problems that were ther come back to haunt you and you split again. If you have this type of relationship it is very damaging and each time a split it is worse than before.
In answer to your question Yes you can get Justin back however this time do it properly do not run or chase after him. Let him go and move on very often this works if it does not then he is not worth it but if you give huge space for a while if he loves you he will come to you. This is then the time to talk to one another as to why you keep splitting up, what is the trigger, is it living with his mom, is it lack of trust with one another? The list is one you will know as you have been with him for 10 years.
I hope you can resolve this but remember you are a person and you deserve to be treated as one. Do not let anyone walk over you him or his family walk away, let go and see what happens hard I know but if you want respect from any of them show then you are no door mat.
2006-10-07 03:49:02 · answer #1 · answered by momof3 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow i don't hardly know how to answer but if ya'll have broke up over and over again before and he doesn't trust you over somthing like that well then i know you love him but trust is a big part of relatinships and if you don't have trust what do you have really all it does is bring you down and make you worry i know it's been ten years and it's gonna be hard to find someone else but if you think that he's going to continue to not trust you don't get back w/ him
*if it's meant to be let it go and it will come back to you*
2006-10-06 10:02:59 · answer #2 · answered by myrissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT sounds like he did not trust you and used you in the past. You are better off without him. I know it hurts but you deserve someone better and time will take care of the pain. Just one moment at a time.
2006-10-06 10:00:14 · answer #3 · answered by wingedgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were in your situation Id be down my knees thanking God that this Justin was finally gone from me!!!
Hun - hes using you!!! You're best rid of him - start enjoying your life as of now! xx
2006-10-06 10:04:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl use spell check. I can not undestand a word you typed... No wonder he is rejecting you... Learn to spell and talk, maybe then you will get some respect.
2006-10-06 10:21:37 · answer #5 · answered by Joesmoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you try to say?. Kannot unnerstand anythin u write. Speek English pleeze.
2006-10-06 10:05:27 · answer #6 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that this person doesn't deserve you and probably never trusted you enough and if he doesn't want to talk then just forget about as he obviously doesn't even want to try to resolve this. it may be hard but he doesn't deserve you. hope i helped.
2006-10-06 11:07:51 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should move on he will realized what he had when it's gone untill then m,ove on life is to short to be miserble obviously he have some trust issues he need to deal with on his own.
2006-10-06 10:02:13 · answer #8 · answered by mszone62003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He ain't coming back.... get over him and take some typing lessons!
2006-10-06 10:02:36 · answer #9 · answered by Dan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont think so that he wll be coming home anytime soon....
honey maybe thats the right thing to do just be apart....maybe that would be better. think about it
2006-10-07 00:53:33 · answer #10 · answered by Ashlee_Hbiba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋