Would u get married again?

Question

I sometimes think, if my hubby dies, I wont eveer get married again. We are newlyweds and marraige is rough

My husband is a firefighter, so the thought of him dying has always been an open topic, especially before we got married. So thats why I say that IF he were to die, but I dont want him to

Answer 1

I am a firm believer of not getting remarried...
its such as a waste and selfish-just because you are left alone, you have to go find someone else...
thats not love and No I would never get remarried.

Answer 2

I don't mean to avoid answering your question, but I can't help reading between the lines and wondering what you really mean. You are a newlywed and the marriage has been rough so far. So by asking, "Would you get married again?" you seem to be implying, "If I had it to do all over again, I would never have married." Your "if my hubby dies" comment seems to be saying, "I feel trapped in this marriage, like I've made a huge mistake and now I can't get out of it." If my interpretations are correct, things are overwhelming for you right now. Get support from female friends, talk to your mother, maybe even see a counselor. Try to be positive and optimistic, and remind yourself of the things you love about your husband.

Answer 3

What are you saying, that men who do not engage in hazardous occupations such as firefighter or cop don't step in front of buses during a moment of inattetion and get snuffed? Hon, we're ALL just as mortal. My hat is off to your husband; he's a warrior as surely as I was when I wore sergeant's stripes. Not every warrior carries a gun; some carry fire hoses and ladders, and the enemy they face is just as malign as those I faced in Southeast Asia those many years ago.
You cannot spend your time worrying about his dying; that's the way to madness. Concentrate on living your lives together as well as can be done, setting an example for your children and others who look up to you both. You are blessed; don't fail to take advantage of it.
If you should lose him, it will take a minimum of a year to get through the grieving process. It is a dreadful thing to have to endure. But when you have endured it, and the edge has worn down, there will still be a place in your heart for love. You cannot replace him, but you can resume a full live once again. I told my wife that if I am taken, she should not deny herself the comfort of a man's arms about her once she's recovered from the shock. Life is for the living, dear girl. You won't hop into the sack a week after he's gone, sure. But to reject all future opportunities for love is simply foolish. Besides - your hubby's gonna live long and well, and become chief of his department and retire to spend many happy, lazy years with you! Take care of *yourself* so that he can!

Answer 4

I don't understand what makes marriage so rough? You love the person, they love you, the both of you have agreed to be together until death do you part. What is the big Deal? Keep in mind I've never been married. Being newlyweds and already you are saying that it is rough. If it is so rough, why would you want to get married again anyway? If marriage is a jail sentence, seems to me that you would be glad to have been granted clemency.

Answer 5

I was married once and got divorced. I said that I would never marry again ever. Two years later I met an amazing man that I never want to let go and he feels the same for me. We have been together for 2 years now and I would marry him in a heartbeat. This is love, not what I married. I can't imagine being without him.

Answer 6

I don't think that I would ever get married again. I only wanted to get married once but you never know. Marriage is rough at time but it is the smooth times that make it worth it.

Answer 7

you knew what he did before you two got hitched but we dont see everything because we are so twidder padded that we dont think. Give it some time because the one thing that is going to be on his mind and will keep him stronger is you. and then when you leave then maybe he wouldnt care if anything happens to him so you really need to think about it.

Answer 8

It is not a sign of disloyalty to remarry if (God forbid) anything should happen to your spouse. You can still love your hubby and honor his memory without staying single for the rest of your life.

Answer 9

I thought that myself. But to go through life alone is not an option unless you are a nun, monk, or a priest......There is someone for everyone. When you are not looking it will be right in front of you.

Answer 10

Dont focus the what if.Think the what is now injoy every day you send together alive or dont worry about death every one dies so injoy youre minutes together now