My husband has said he would walk away if I cheated. But I think, honestly if he did, I would try to work it out. It will never happen, but I think it says something about the marriage.
2006-10-06 02:22:43 · 31 answers · asked by Sweet Belly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is insecure about you.....You are his foundation..... Dont play his mind with your games..... He loves you and you love him.. Drop it......Love to you but your feeling a bit like him.....Trust him and all will work out
2006-10-06 02:26:32 · answer #1 · answered by jillrodenlee 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that it says something about the people in the marriage. I know if I caught my hubby cheating I'd leave and with that there's be hell to pay. I'm old fashioned when it comes to a few things and marriage is one of them. Its for a man and a woman and only those two beings, no one else to interfere. Once you've cheated the trust is gone. I wouldn't stick around to play a fool a second time. I don't understand WHY you would stay, if said person TRULY LOVED you, they wouldn't have done it in the first place.
2006-10-06 09:26:31 · answer #2 · answered by All I have to do is dream... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's often the difference between men and women. Men still tend to think of a wife as property and a dependent creature needing to be told what to do, etc. Women tend to accept a more independant, aloof attitude on the part of men, to be more understanding and forgiving. To many men, forgiveness appears a weakness that suggests they're vulnerable and men don't like to feel vulnerable. Men want to solve problems right now. Fix it and forget it or screw it and leave it. Women tend to analyze, reflect and redirect and not to give up on a problem without repeated attempts at resolution. Men tend to take infidelity solely as a personal affront. Women tend not to see things in such stark black-and-white, but in many shades of grey.
To the question: If my wife were to have an intimate experience with another man, I'd wonder why I had not noticed her restlessness and discontent and whether or not I could restore her faith and confidence in me..or whether the marriage is irrevocably broken. If the latter, I would welcome her to find her bliss wherever the search might take her and I'd go off to a bar full of punks and show 'em what a mad Irishman can do!
2006-10-06 09:46:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's telling you that if you ever cheat, that he will leave you. It's his preference. You wouldn't leave him, that's not his problem. It's yours. If you know that he will leave you, then don't cheat on him. What it says about your marriage is....as long as you don't cheat you will remain married. You could tell him the same. It doesn't mean that he doesn't love you, it just means that once you cheat, he'll lose all trust in you and there won't be anyway possible he'll be able to forget, forgive, or trust you ever again. If you look at it like I do, what's the purpose of getting married, if you are going to cheat?
2006-10-06 09:31:15 · answer #4 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone cheats in a marriage, it is best to find out exactly why it happened. It is hardly ever 100% one party's fault. Understanding why is important in a forgiving process and if the parties get divorced understanding the cheating may help them not to make the same mistake in another relationship.
2006-10-06 09:58:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your thinking about cheating then you shouldn't be married in the first place if your married then don't cheat and if you are thinking about cheating that means that you are not happy in the marriage so what I think is that you need to get a divorce and don't get married again unless you are 100% positive that you love the guy that you are getting married to. You are making a comitment when you get married. To answer your quistion cheating yes would make me leave my marriage.
2006-10-06 09:29:20 · answer #6 · answered by babygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your man satisfied and he won't have to cheat!! BUT if my husband did I know I would do my very best to get over it and work it out.... And actuall some men that DO love you DO still cheat on you becuase... come on now.. they are MEN!! They have raging hormones!! and especialy if their woman alwayz has a "headach" getting some attention would be nice!! That don't mean they don't love you, they don't love her!!! They are just using her to get what you no doubt won't give him.
The ONLY time I sure I wouldn't go back is if the cheated with a MAN!!! OMG!!!
OK yes... I'm homophobic!
2006-10-06 10:06:58 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Blondie♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing to be worked out once someone steps out of a marriage/relationship and sleeps with someone else. I have no tolerance for that kind of behavior cause I'll never be able to recover from it. For one I'm never going to be able to really trust him again even if I wanted to. Once that ugly picture has been painted in my mind their is no erasing it. I tell my man this all the time and I mean what I say every time I tell him this. But everybody deals with things differently therefore I'm not knocking your method in a situation like this one.
2006-10-06 09:33:25 · answer #8 · answered by liliw24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me clue you ~ we all believe that, theoretically, if our partner cheated on us we would immediately leave.
In reality, however, I do not believe that is what actually happens.
Relationships are a lot more complicated than that.
Don't be put off by your husband's response to the point where you believe his comment "says something about the marriage".
What it says it that your husband would be devastated by your cheating. That says a lot about his love for you.
2006-10-06 09:30:37 · answer #9 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something that u just dont know how u would handle it unless it happened to u..
I use to say till i was blue in the face if my (now x) husband cheated on me id leave him faster then he could explain that he cheated.. but when it happened.. my heart fell to the floor.. and at first all i could think about was how to make it work.. unfortunately it couldnt..
So no one really knows how they'd handle it untill it happens to them and their heart, and their life as they know it is on the line.. its easy to say u'd leave and not look back before it actually happens to u.. but infedility is really hard to get over.. even if u choose to forgive, its really hard to forget.. and usually the forgetting part is where u find ur most troubles..
2006-10-06 09:27:20 · answer #10 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most definitely.
After giving repeated chances, he still goes back to his cheating and I cant keep going on the way he wants.
Didnt firmly believe the old saying, " Once a cheater is always a cheater," However, I am a firm believer now.
So, I am leaving him now on the grounds of cheating.
2006-10-06 09:36:10 · answer #11 · answered by DiL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋