after they tie the not!!!!!! they absolutely forget how to treat a lady.......whats the deal????? they feel so confident and dont think their wifes will be desapointed?????
2006-10-06 02:13:05 · 22 answers · asked by haki 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The reason that usually happens is that he is now acting like himself. Us guys will sometimes do anything to get and keep the girl that we want. That's why you see plenty of break ups throughout life, because people act one way to get someone they want, and once they get them they change.
This is also not exclusive to men. Both sexes are guilty of becoming lazy, unromantic, and selfish after settling into a marriage.
If this has happened to you, let your husband know that you ARE disappointed.
2006-10-06 02:18:17 · answer #1 · answered by Kren777 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This does not happen with all guys. My husband still treats me the way he always treated me, wonderfully! There are ways to tell if someone would be a good husband before you get married, but a person can still be mislead.
At times, for some couples, a person (wives included) do not show their true personalities until after they know they are bound by law. Once that paper is signed some people have the idea they can "change the other person". Also people feel that individual is their personal property.
Also many people ignore the red flags they have noticed in their dating life. Some people feel that they can change the person or that behavior will go away after they get married. Many people are so clouded by love they do not listen to their heads. Often times the signs are there long before the couple decides to get married.
My mother had a few relationships where the man's true personality didn't show until after the marriage. There were things I've learned from my mother's relationships that help me pick someone I thought would be great for me. Listening to her "motherly advice", had helped in many areas. I didn't have to make all the same mistakes she made. Although many of them were not apparent until after the marriage took place.
2006-10-06 09:28:11 · answer #2 · answered by Erica, AKA Stretch 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The change is percieved both ways. Even women change after marriage. In my case, the percieved change is a result of spending a lot of time together. The excitement I used to feel of meeting my girl friend on a date is no longer there now that she is my wife. Then you start seeing the details in character that where not apparent when dating. I think the greatest change in spouse is noticeable where the courtship period is shortest.
2006-10-06 09:30:16 · answer #3 · answered by Dereck KC 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not just after they get married. Once you have been with someone for a while they tend to get that way too. Guys tend to take women for granted, and feel confident I guess to the point of forgetting what actually got them to be with their woman. But they are in for a rude awakening, usually when it is too late, and they wake up and wonder what happened. Nobody likes to be taken for granted. So do what you must to remind him, either how to treat a lady, or how he should not take you for granted.
2006-10-06 09:17:35 · answer #4 · answered by Mx2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all guys change. It takes work from both sides of the relationship to keep it alive too. A lot of women moan about their husbands changing, but they are not prepared to put a little work into the relationship as well to keep it alive. I have been married for 12 years after living with my husband for 8 years. The only way he has changed is by becoming more loving! You have to keep putting a little spontaneity and zing into it. It is not always a honeymoon
2006-10-06 09:18:22 · answer #5 · answered by pixie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My asked my husband this (actually, I asked him why he wanted me so bad) and he said it was the thrill of the chase. So, every once in a while, I get myself dolled up to the nines and make him remember the chase. Today I did even though I was going to work just so he knows I am still worth that chase and if he doesn't want to chase, Lord knows there are plenty of men out there that still do. So, don't forget who you were when you were courting, and he won't either.
2006-10-06 09:34:50 · answer #6 · answered by VNCGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And vice versa, women just dont feel they have to put in the effort anymore and all of a sudden, they turn you into slaves and try to change everything about you, including the those characteristics they "claimed" they liked about you when you first started dating
2006-10-06 09:32:55 · answer #7 · answered by Blk Angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hear you there. I use to get flowers and gifts and takenout on the spur of the moment, now it's flowers only on my anniversary. Maybe a dinner on payday.
I get to eat dinner mostly with the kids, he comes in plobs done on the sofa and watches tv until he falls asleep.
damn, hello am i here, did you not see me when you walked through the door.
he never opens the door for me any more. etc etc etc.
It sucks!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-06 09:17:39 · answer #8 · answered by mother of 7! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing can be said about women.
Routine kills a relationship. I believe that if you let your relationship fall into a rut then there is bound to be a change in one or the other partner.
2006-10-06 09:23:38 · answer #9 · answered by St.Anger 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my man hasnt changed much. He still buys me flowers for no reason, and he still opens the car doors for me! He helps clean around the house and does laundry! Im consider myself very lucky!
Im only 38 married for 20 yrs.
2006-10-06 09:16:21 · answer #10 · answered by yournotalone 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋