how do some couples make it last a lifetime?
2006-10-06 02:06:41 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Attempt to be as judgemental as possible, ensure the ground rules are clear where money, social, personal goals and personal space are concerned. Always attempt to get along as best as possible, with the others relatives...never talk badly of them, you can dislike their actions, attitude etc...but never ridicule them...they have little to do with the couples personal relationship and therefore don't belong as part of a problem in it because they are disliked. Couples who argue about either's social activities outside the relationship, attempt to control the other person or their finances etc are in for a rough ride together, that's if they remain together.
Accept some of the quirks, habits, shortcomings that do not put either partner in uncomfortable situations, these can be lived with and eventually may even go unnoticed most of the time. Ensure family unit goals are similar and that everyone is on the same page. Never cause the other to feel guilty about certain things...ie. those things that are beyond control. When difficulties arrive, and they do, ensure that the relationship stays strong, undivided it crumbles pretty quickly. Discipline when children are involved must be a joint responsibility, undermining the other causes friction that of course ends up being felt by the children, the innocent parties.
Praise...whenever the otter does something out of the ordinary that is special, they achieve an honor, recognition or some other important milestone, they even fix something :), praiise, recognition, thanks.
Always thank the other for their generosity, caring, giving etc Small things like this go a very long way in encouraging the other to continue to enjoy being in the union and vice versa.
Arguing never solves a thing, discussions, rationally and in normal tones is what helps the couple get through a situation or problem. Always ensure that the partner is being treated as they would want to be. Want to fool around? Act irresponsible? Be controlling, abusive...then the right of the other partner to treat them with any level of respect diminishes and disappears and soon they have no one.
Work, long and hard...it takes work and dedication. If a couple do get married, they have to be prepared to work together as a team...that's the only way a relationship can last. Share in responsibilities...no one partner should be delegated to do much while the other does little. Helping each other out is another way of showing respect and consideration, love for the other.
Finally....and this is just as important as everything else....don't assume that because marriage is involved, that it's okay to let yourself go. Keep yourself well groomed, don't wear crappy sweats every day, personal hygiene a must.
Eventually, everything becomes like second nature...the home is serene, happy and the envy of friends, neighbours, relatives who don't have things quite as together.
2006-10-06 02:38:17 · answer #1 · answered by dustiiart 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A willingness to bend, comprimise. Laughter and lightheartedness when things get to serious. Learning to let the little things go and just savor the little nice things. Love fully its the only way to love, but do it with joy in your heart. When things get tough to be able to walk away for an hour and work it out with a hug and a kiss!
2006-10-06 02:12:02 · answer #2 · answered by fancy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honesty and openness. That's how my parents do it. The minute you try to hide stuff, suspicion starts, and that leads to distrust which causes a lot of difficulty in a relationship. If you stay true to who you are, and stay honest and open with your partner, you should be fine.
2006-10-06 02:09:31 · answer #3 · answered by Beck 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Communication, honesty, and a sense of humor. All good relationships start out at great friendships.
2006-10-06 02:13:01 · answer #4 · answered by BeezKneez 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Trust, commitment and the ability to get away from each other every now and then. Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
2006-10-06 02:10:14 · answer #5 · answered by Phoenix Rising 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unconditional love and lots and lots of hard work every single day you are together. Some days are easier than others but every day you must put the time into keeping it together.
2006-10-06 02:10:50 · answer #6 · answered by N0_white_flag 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust, honesty, respect and accepting a persons faults.
2006-10-06 02:09:23 · answer #7 · answered by MCS 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love, truth, sincerity, understanding,compassion,sharing,.... there are loads of characteristics for a great life.
2006-10-06 02:11:26 · answer #8 · answered by Achiever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They share core values, they are committed to staying together and they are genuinely concerned for each other's well being.
2006-10-06 02:11:12 · answer #9 · answered by IWasWondering 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Communication communication communication!!!
2006-10-06 02:09:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋