I have a one year old an dim not sure whens a good time to have another?

Answer 1

You really got to think about the little things..... like how would you go grocery shopping if both kids are still very young. Do you really want to buy another changing table, I mean, you don't want to put a newborn on your toddler's table. And if you did, will you really have the time to deeply sanitize it after every diaper change? Is your older child "ready" to not be the baby and center of attention? Do you have the time and other realtives to give your firstborn more attention when the time comes? Some kids get a little jealous. Has your firstborn transferred to a toddler bed and not attatched to his/her crib? Are you ready for being up all night again? Having a new baby may impede potty-training progress also. You also need to think about if/when you want to work, etc.

These are some of the little things I found out when my daughter was born. My son was/is 2 years old. He has been a great help, throwing diapers away and bringing me new ones, etc. He plays with the baby sometimes when I have things to do and keeps her happy. He really loves his sister, and we're glad that they're close in age so that they will also have a close bond while growing up. But, having to take care of a young child and being pregnant for the second time was not easy for me. Second pregnancies are much different than firsts. Your body already knows all the dance moves, so it's bustin' them out in overdrive- generally, anyways.

So, you really need to figure out what works for you, your family and your daily routine.

Answer 2

I have 2 girls, one is 15 months and the second is 4 months. I found being pregnant with the 2nd one the hardest part, my first was crawling and starting to get into things and i was so tired and sore and had to carry her around while being pregnant.

BUT, now that the baby is here its a lot easier and I am definately glad I have 2 so close, of course I don't leave them in the same room together, not because I think my eldest would intentionally hurt her sister but she may love her a little too hard!

As for the diaper issue, it can be expensive and I don't know how much diapers cost where you live but I pay like 15 for a case that lasts about a month so that really isn't a problem!

Answer 3

This is truly a personal question.
However, medical fields reccomend a two year spacing so your body has a chance to heal and regain vitamin and mineral stores.

Some Moms can handle a whole handfull of little ones at once, and as they age they will be developping very close to one another as far as mile stones go. As one's in junior kindergarten the older one is in senior kindergarten or grade one and the need for daycare diminishes quite dramatically at that point. However can you handle two toddlers at the same time. Toilet training the older one and still nursing the younger one can be a handfull.

Personally, my kids are three and half years, and four years apart, I have three. This allowed me time to nurse, nurture, and toilet train each one separately, and no two were ever in diapers at the same time. This had the older child just starting school when I became pregnant with the next. This worked great for me because I don't think I could have handled them very close together.

Imagine two cribs, and two highchairs and double strollers, and two carseats. Then when the time comes two new beds, two bikes, two cars, and two college tuitions. In my case the equiptment for the most part was just ready in time. As for college, that's yet to come. I've got some saving to do yet.

Talk it over with your partner too. How much help do you get, that may or maynot change.

Answer 4

Well if you can afford it you can have another one now, but i personally would wait until your first is out of diapers to help cut down the cost of diapers. I would also wait because you may have a Jealous sibling as well being jealous of the new baby. If your first is about 3-4 years old, they are a little bit older and can "Help" you with the baby things, And they really want to help.

Answer 5

The Journal of pediatrics has recently found that the best time to become pregnant again is 18 months after the birth of the preivious baby. This allows your body to comepletely recover (assuming you stop breastfeeding by the age of 1). and give it 6 months to get back to it's natural rest state. This will help with many things, it will help your stomache muscles heal. and provide an easier second pregnancy.

Answer 6

before each little thing, congrats on the recent toddler. Now have you ever tried to boost his bedtime? if you're putting him to be too early which will be an difficulty, or naps will be too lengthy. i'd recommend proper earlier bedtime you're taking him out and play with him extremely difficult till eventually he's so drained he is going on to mattress. After some weeks of that he will be too drained to awaken contained in the course of the evening. supply this stuff a attempt. If no longer, a spanking or probability of a spanking is not in any respect a foul component. human beings have worry disciplining their toddlers those days, yet when it worked contained in the previous with our technology and generations earlier us why gained't it artwork now? i'm no longer one for profitable (and that i have 3 youthful ones; a million,2, and 5) undesirable habit or giving rewards for them doing what they ought to do evidently. good success and that i wish I helped.

Answer 7

Let your body rest and recover. I waited 8 years after my first because it was so horribly painful, but I waited 2 years between the second and third (and final) child. So maybe 2 years.

Answer 8

myself i would wait till the first one is out of diapers...i know it is hard having more than one in diapers and all the formula...i had two of mine to close and it was a real job...i know you do not have another child until the first one goes through the terrible two stage in his or her life,,,,,they are into everything

Answer 9

there is no perfect answer(not even me).you are the ONLY person who knows better.just like getting married,when time comes,you just know it.am positive when you are ready and prepared the 2nd will be on the way.