My X-wife will Not leave me alone what's the problem: see datails?

Question

We have divorced 2 years ago, she is remarried building a home with the guy she was having an affair with and still want leave me alone. I am getting remarried soon and i am wondering when will this childish stuff stop. ???

We have a son together so there has to be contact to some extent and communication, My fiance' knows of the problems, i am not sure about her husband, but believe he does not know everything that is going on.

Answer 1

Maybe you should tell her current husband what she is doing.

Answer 2

First of all know that you are not alone. My husband's ex-wife is still after him. They have been divorced five years and she is still seeing the man she was having an affair with for five years before my husband found out and moved on.
She always wants him to loan her money, come back home, be with her for the boys sake.
She even had a house built to try to entice him to return to her. For her it is all about the money and if she can't get him to do what she wants, she takes him to court for childish things and continually trying to get more support.
We have done everything we could to get her to leave us alone and short of moving out of state we have just decided to ignore her. He refuses her calls, cards, letters, and gifts. It has taken some time but she is finally getting the message. For now at least.
Good Luck...it can be a trying situation. Just make sure your new wife understands the situation and never fail to show her how much you love her. It will strengthen your new marriage.

Answer 3

sorry to tell you but chances are the ex probably won't ever leave you alone. My husband has been divorced from his first wife for 14 years now and the pathetic cow still won't leave him alone. She uses the kids as an excuse to contact him and then has to insert her own personal feelings into the contact. I hope your new wife-to-be is patient and understanding, because believe me your ex will most definetly try to push her out of the way. We only have 3 years to go on the child support thing and then hopefully she'll crawl back under the rock she came from and leave us alone. I wish you the best, and remember you can't control how others behave , you can only control your own actions.

Answer 4

She's jealous and probably regrets cheating on you. And she's obviously miserable, but that's not your problem. You're happy. Save all her crazy messages, voicemails, anything she sends you (if she sends you anything). Tell her that if she doesn't leave you alone, you will tell her husband how she continues to bother you. I'm pretty sure her husband would not like to hear that his wife is still big on her ex husband. Does your fiance know she's bothering you? If she doesn't then you need to tell her everything. In an event, that your ex wife goes ballistic and does something crazy, at least your fiance knows and nothing will get ruined. Have you tried to change your phone number?

Answer 5

She apparently isn't over you. She wanted the excitement of the affair and now that she has married him, she probably realizes that the grass wasn't greener on the other side. I would call up her new man and inform him of what's going on. Then you need to clarify for her what level of communication and involvement that you are willing to tolerate. Lay down ground rules regarding when she can call and make it clear that it will be ONLY if it concerns your child. Then stick to it like glue. If you need to hang up on her if she violates the new rules, do so. If you need to contact an attorney or police regarding her harrassment, do it. The sooner you make it clear that you aren't going to put up with this foolishness, the better.
I went through the exact same scenario with my husbands ex wife. She called at all hours, and usually just to complain. She was a complete jerk to me as well. I was the one who told my husband that there were going to be some rules regarding her and at first, he wouldn't cooperate. He was afraid that he would miss something important regarding their daughter. He realized that it needed to be done though when I started talking about leaving. I made it clear that in my house, I won't be treated like a second class person so I informed her of the rules. NO phone calls after 8pm unless their child was in the hospital. If she was more than 15 minutes late dropping off their daughter and we had something to do, we left. If she called my house and acted like an idiot, I hung up and called both the phone company and the police to file a complaint. (happened once only! :):):) If she called just to whine and complain, we hung up the phone. We invested in "Caller I.D." and never answered the phone when she called after that. Any phone call that wasn't accompanied by a message stating why she called wasn't returned. It took a while for her to adjust to the fact that we were not playing games with her anymore, but that we had our own life and she wasn't a part of it. Perseverence will prevail.

Answer 6

it will stop as soon as u decide to stop being a push over and put a stop to it..if u put up boundries and keep her from coming acrossed those boundries she'll eventually stop trying..when she see's u wont put up with it any longer.. if u want specifics then u have to give specifics.. but on this general of a question, all i can tell u , is to lay down the law and uphold the law of Your land, (your home) and dont waiver.. and she'll eventually stop if she see's she keeps running into a brick wall..

Answer 7

Unfortunately, your ex-wife will not change and will continue to bother you until YOU do something about it. If you really want her out of your life, move to another location, change your name (if you have to), change your phone number. This is the only way this is going to work. We cannot change people but we can change ourselves! And when you do "change" your life, tell other trustworthy friends and family NOT to tell your ex-wife in case your ex-wife contacts them.

Answer 8

i mean she def still have feelings for you and im sure she relizes she made that horrible mistake by cheeting on you but i mean shes trying to come back to you when its to late because obviously you love someone else..i mean eventually after you get married she will relize that she needs to move on and learn from her mistakes and hopfully meet someone new and wont make the same mistakes as she did with you

Answer 9

You sured tell her that you can't go on like this, Because it will destory everything in hers and your relationships. And she sured be thinking of wot it will do everyone involved. Don't give it to her or she has got you and can do and say wot she like. Trust me!

Answer 10

Leave you alone in what way?
Just embarass her, she will stop.