we done it all the counselling,church,pray,cry,
it now a abusive relationship in all form
now what
2006-10-06 01:57:28 · 12 answers · asked by lines 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If the relationship is abusive -GET OUT of it. Do it now before things get any worse. Find some place safe to go. You need to protect yourself and find the help you need to move on. Take some time to create a new environment for yourself without all the stress and abuse. It is very important that you take care of yourself right now. Don't stop going to counseling, go church where you won't run into the other person, pray alot and the crying is a healing process that you will have to go through. You will find yourself dealing with a lot of emotions but just take one day at a time.
You will be amazed as to how you will come out on the otherside of this situation. No one has to suffer an abusive situation. Take care of yourself. I will be thinking of you.
Been there....done that.
2006-10-06 02:05:40 · answer #1 · answered by flutterbybug4me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you happy? Does he make you happy? your beliefs might be don't get a divorce, but if your not happy, you have to do what you have to do. You probably don't want to get a divorce, but if its abusive, you have to think about you and the best interest for YOU. Unfortunately a lot of married couples have to go through it, but you & your husband know there's a problem and have tried to work together to make it work. It didn't work. Obviously you two aren't happy. Abusive relationships could only get worst and you know what worst can be. Look out for the best interest for you, it might be hard, but do you want to live miserable forever?
2006-10-06 09:03:50 · answer #2 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you know what the right answer is. If you have done all of the things you say and sacrificed your sanity by being with this man, then what the hek you still doing there? If he does it once and you go back, he will see that you let it happen and do it again....
2006-10-06 09:16:03 · answer #3 · answered by Just Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HAS HE CONFRONTED HIS VIOLENCE AND ABUSE IN COUNSELLING? IF NOT,,GO AGAIN IF YOU REALLY WANT TO SAVE THIS RELATIONSHIP,,IF HE IS UNWILLING HE IS UNLIKELY TO EVEN ADMIT HE HAS A PROBLEM LET ALONE DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT,,YOU CANNOT AND SHOULD NOT BE ANYONES DOORMAT,,YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO BE LOVED,CARED FOR,PROTECTED,IF THIS ISNT THE CASE IT MAY BE TIME TO CALL IT A DAY AND KEEP WHAT IS LEFT OF YOUR SELF ESTEME.
2006-10-06 09:03:09 · answer #4 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave now surprised you still need to ask there are good men out there so why stay and spend your life with a bad one. good luck
2006-10-06 20:00:30 · answer #5 · answered by owen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out.....sometimes it's the best thing...
I spent 11 yrs in an ugly relationship..
I left over 5 yrs ago......I am so much happier now....and meeting a ton of great men....
there are others out there...
good luck...be well ...USE A CONDOM!!!
2006-10-06 09:00:55 · answer #6 · answered by Babsygirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If all else has failed, it might be time to end it. End it now, before anyone gets seriously hurt.
I'm sorry.
2006-10-06 09:00:44 · answer #7 · answered by MaknMeCrzy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i guess u know ur answer already.. it's just a matter of gathering the guts to do it!
2006-10-06 09:03:26 · answer #8 · answered by I need a vacation! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
live better more productive and loving lives
Good Luck and God Bless!!
2006-10-06 09:09:12 · answer #9 · answered by msqtech 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave.
2006-10-06 08:59:59 · answer #10 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋