Can him fingering me make me too loose?

Question

Please don't post negative comments, I need this question answered...I plan on staying abstinent until marriage and this is what he does to me every now and then...I feel it's wrong in a way though...but back 2 my question, answer please...someone

And actually, to all of you who are just mad or jealous that I'm doing right, don't try to tell me what abstinence is. Abstinence is not having ACTUAL SEX until marriage IDIOTS!

Answer 1

just keep it at one or two fingers and you will be fine, by getting up to 4 that will start to stretch you out too much

Answer 2

Well you being "fingered" means that you are not abstinent. You are still a virgin but you are not abstinent. Of course it can make you loose, how old are you, no offense that was a matter of common sense. It more than likely more uncomfortable the first time it was done than any other time, well figure it out from there honey. Oh, and by the way that is very unsanitary there are a lot of germs and bacterial under the nails. So be careful.

Answer 3

well, this is not negative but is informative. first, no, it will not make you loose. just dont do more than two fingers and you should be fine.but. you probly already know this, but what makes you a virgin is this thin peice of skin inside your vagina. and putting anything bigger then a tampon will mostlikley break that peice of skin. since he is fingering you that skin is probly broke.
therefore even though you have not had sexual intercorse. you have had some how should you say "form" of intercourse. so basicly if that skin is broke. there really is no point in abstinent. i think the best thing is to stop all together. plus the pressure of the sensation may make you actually want to have sex eventually anyhow.

Answer 4

Okay, if it makes you feel wrong... Then you shouldnt be doing it. You have made a very very good choice to stay abstinent. Good head on your shoulders. But I dont think him fingering you will make you loose though. Unless his fingers are the size of a penis... lol =)

Answer 5

How big are his fingers? It can make you looser than a virgin, espeically if you're getting stuffed but unless you're getting fisted it's not going to have much effect.
Maybe the better question is, why are you waiting?? Penis or fingers you've lost your virginity to this guy. You're still sinning if that's what this is about. However, you don't really know anything about him as a lover other than he's good with her fingers. Don't you think you ought to sample his wares to make sure he's the lover you want for the rest of all time?

Answer 6

depends on your physical make-up and the way it is done.

It's more like female masturbation and i really dont know what fun the guy gets out of it unless you reciprocate or he thinks he'll be able to 'get' you soon if he can get this far.

Just make sure it's not done very hard or rash if you have to do it. Get to a good physiotherapist who'll teach you vaginal exercises.

Have had my strings of fingering gals till they agreed to the real thing. Some did go loose, though not all.

Answer 7

WELL... TO BE HONEST IT WON'T MAKE U TOO LOOSE, BUT THAT'S NOT ABSTINENCE EITHER. ANYWAY, START DOING THE FAMOUS KEGEL EXERCISES FOR UR VAGINA MUSCLES AND THEY WILL HELP IT STAY TONED AND TIGHT . START BY TRYING TO STOP THE URINE WHILE UR PISSING. IT'S THE SAME MUSCLE. THEN DO IT WHENEVR U CAN, TRY TO KEEP THE MUSCLE TIGHT FOR AS LONG AS POSSIBLE AND THEN RELAX IT. DO THAT FOR 5-10 MINUTES EVERY DAY! IT NOT ONLY WILL KEEP UR VAGINA TIGHT AND TONED, BUT DOING IT WHILE INTERCOURSE CAN GIVE BOTH PARTNERS A DREATER PLEASURE!

Answer 8

are you sure he is using his finger? if you are loose from that how are you going to be when he'll be inserting his willy? If you are too loose though, you can practice daily the Kegal exercises and you will get tighter. In the long run you'll even enjoy sex more.

Read this article: http://www.gunncenter.com/article_Kegal.htm to learn how to do these exercises.

Answer 9

Just relax, dont worry, one or two fingers make no difference.
Fingering is a normal part of growing up and almost everyone goes through it.
Enjoy it and stop worrying. It has never harmed anyone and it cannot harm you.

Answer 10

NO not really it cant do nuttin but im in the same perdicument i let certain boys fingers me and go down on me but its no harm its not like hes ******* you if you cant get pregnant from doin it it aint sex straight up

Answer 11

why are you doing things that make you feel uncomfortable ???this is your life and your body and you should only do what pleases you as well. you had better start now doing what pleases you or saving yourself for marriage will be for nothing. get some strength girl and stop doing shi* that doesn't please you. no fingering won't make you loose,but it can cause scratching and infections. the vaginal canal is made for a penis,not a finger .