now we live over the road from each other she totally blanks me.her husband even shouted abuse at me a few weeks ago.i feel really upset because they look at me like i am something off their shoe but nothings happened for me to diserve this.what should i do?i dont want to be her friend again because she has treated me so badly.i just want her to know she is out of order
2006-10-06 01:31:37 · 12 answers · asked by NICHOLA 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Keep the Moral High Ground. Don't let it annoy you. When she see's people are happy to talk to you etc. She'll probably realise it really is her!!
2006-10-06 01:37:16 · answer #1 · answered by madbrew2000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but I just have to say that I had a good laugh, EMA's answer was just so excellent, EMA made my day- she has my attitude, but try the following, it worked for me: Phsycological warfare is the best in such a situation:
Write a letter, short, sweet and real nice where you ask if someone told them something or what? Because you need closure to this friendship. Tell her in the letter that if she does not get back to you within 3 days from receipt of your letter (you must give a time limit or she can keep you hanging & unsure forever), whether by letter, phone or personal visit you will except this as her way of letting you know that there has been no rumours and nothing has happened to make her decide to end your friendship, that she just tired of the friendship.Tell her that then you can carry on with no guilt feelings because you did nothing to damage the friendship and will respect that she tired of the friendship. Also tel her that u have no bad vibes towards her & her hubby and if she is not interested in telling you what changed her attitude towards you or in rekindling your friendship that you will except such, but do not want fights and arguments as you honestly have no hard feelings from your side. If she does not adhere to this (If she does not make contact)- you go and get a "Peace Order" against her and her husband.
Do not add stuff to the letter- anything can upset her if she thinks you are being rude- you want her to think about what she is doing. Drive her into a corner, this way what ever the outcome, you walk away the winner. Good luck.
2006-10-06 09:53:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid I would not take abuse like this from anyone.....if you really don't know why she has changed I would have to go over there and ask her what her problem is....and say to her husband he is a fooking Nancy for shouting at a woman in the street too!!!
Regardless of her answer tell her to fook off and grow up!
2006-10-06 08:44:57 · answer #3 · answered by EMA 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Write to her - just a note through the letterbox telling her how you feel about things will hopefully make her (and her husband) realise that their behavious is totally unacceptable.
Does your daughter still see her daughter? You could always use that as a channel of communication although it might be a bit unfair on the girls.
2006-10-06 10:03:24 · answer #4 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her what you are supposed to have done and if she still ignores you then walk away from the friendship. As for the abuse if it gets worse then complain you have rights but make sure you find out what she is saying about you as some numpties out there may believe her.
2006-10-08 05:44:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her why she has changed towards you may be some one has been saying things to her about you. maybe your daughter as falling out with her. tell your ex friend that you don't take to kindly to her husband shouting abuse at her. don't argue or shout at her remain carm and see if you can at least be on nice talking terms it doesn`t take much to say hello.
2006-10-06 08:36:31 · answer #6 · answered by shayney boy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Something has obviously happened, you might not be aware of it but they sure as hell are. Maybe they have been told you have done something which they obviously dont approve of.
Why dont you purposely bump into the wife and ask her what her problem is.
2006-10-06 08:49:22 · answer #7 · answered by kookiboo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if the problem is coming from your daughter and her ex-best friend (this woman's daughter). Ask your daughter if she has any idea why this has happened. Maybe one of them has said something?
2006-10-06 09:15:39 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i totally agree with EMA.. a person like this will not change to be better.. a good human being and moreover a good friend will always confront you with respect
2006-10-06 08:51:05 · answer #9 · answered by I need a vacation! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont do anything,your showing your the bigger person in all this by not retaliating in this situation. Hope it all works out for you x
2006-10-06 08:39:28 · answer #10 · answered by fairyb04 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋