We used to get along fine until two weeks ago because I took the company car home because I had to wake up at a godly hour to attend a hearing for work. I had to drive two hours across the state for this hearing to represent my office. Our boss told me it was okay for me to take the car home the night before. The problem arose, when I got back from the meeting late afternoon. My coworker, who is our agency's fleet coordinator got upset with me because I took the car home. I have found out later that he complained to my boss. My coworker feels that since I live in an apartment I should not be allowed to take the company car home. I told him that is very snotty and discriminatory view on Renters. He said people who live in apartments are not responsible like homeowners. Then he yelled at me told me to "Shut Up for a change. I am tired from chopping down the tree over the weekend" I said that is no excuse . He said if it was his decision he wouldn't let me use the car.
2006-10-06
01:30:32
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Since then we don't really communicate very well. We talk but it is not the same. My coworker apologize to our second boss who caught our argument. I told my second boss that he needs to apogize to me. Then our bosses said that we both need to bury the hachet in order to work together. My coworker is a good person but sometimes he gets very jealous when I go out of the office. Well, he needs to apologize, I didn't do anything wrong he did? I am right that he needs to apologize. He was suppose to give me a better car that day but I found out he purposely gave me orginal car to someone else. To be honest, I think he did it on purpose. I am very disappointed about his actions. It is hard for me to communicate with him now. Maybe he is jealous and resentful towards me who knows? What do ya think?
2006-10-06
01:35:35 ·
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Before I start my sermon-be positive & let your co-worker know that you will not be run over-kinda John Wayne style-I harm nor bother any man, nor will any one harm or bother me.("Do unto others as you would have them do unto you!").then proceed with this --I think there are some underlying problems that has created the jealous feelings. Could some of the feelings possibly be on your part also? Do some soul searching on your knees & if you already have accepted Christ, then ask Him to forgive you for your angry feelings - then go to your co-worker and ask forgivness for the angry feelings you have had..at this time hopefully the co-worker's heart will have opened up. Schedule a lunch time together so that the 2 of you can talk and come to an agreement. Now all this sounds mushy I know, but it is the way! If your former friend does not accept this, then you turn the other cheek and go about your day in a friendly way to everyone, even this person. You will be surprized how unhappy this person will become until he too ends up on his knees! Jesus Christ makes all the difference! After all one on the simplest bible scriptures is "A Friend Loveth At All Times!" & "God is Love!" & "Be Ye Slow To Anger!" Try it! I sure have had to do all the above...and "HE'S STILL WORKING ON ME TO MAKE ME WHAT I OUGHT TO BE!!!"
2006-10-06 02:15:05
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answered by moonpie912004 1
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your coworker needs to grow up. its not his decision to say who can and can't drive the company vehicles all he has to do is keep up with who drove what. if your boss says go you have to do what your boss says not what your green faced buddy wants you to do. i think your coworker is under a lot of stress as a "homeowner" which isn't your fault. he chose to live where he lives the same as you did.
as for is comment on renters and homeowners, you should have told him "since you are a renter, you don't have the extra responsibility of 'chopping down the tree over the weekend' so its not your problem.
try not to let his obvious envy interfere with your work performance. your boss thinks a lot of you or else you wouldn't be sent out to represent your office. keep up the good work and don't let this guy get to you.
2006-10-06 01:48:35
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answered by Quociana L 3
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He may be jealous. All that matters is that your boss gave you permission to use the car and who is he to judge you because you live in an apartment. Maybe you are not ready to have the responsibility of a house but that is non of his business what or where or how you live. All that's matters is that your work is done and done right!!! So you tell him in a nice why he doesn't have to ever say anything to you and you will never say anything to him.
2006-10-06 01:36:41
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answered by oneluv804 2
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He sounds bothe jealous and resentful. Good thing it wasn't his choice of what car you could take home, you may have taken home a bike if it had been left up to him. I think that you should continue to be you, even if he never apologizes to you. You feel that you were right, just be careful not to wear the "I'm right" attitude, that's usually when men label us as b-----s. Be yourself, and eventually he'll get over it, if he doesn't, then shame on him for representing the brotherhood of men that way.
2006-10-06 01:45:54
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answered by Special K 5
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You were given permission by a boss. The boss should just tell the guy when I give permission to employees to use the company car you do not have the right to question that employee or my decisions.
2006-10-06 01:35:01
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answered by Eyes of Green 6
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extra of ways does your HUSBAND take care of it? the two he stands as much as him and tells him ingredient clean he's not involved in any respect, or you will finally end up with extra issues. Has your husband made it clean to this guy? 2d your husband needs to locate different transportation - not extra carpooling era. i could additionally be finding for yet another activity - your husband has a good case of sexual harassment and no rely who the boss is, this guy is crossing the line in lots of tactics and can be suggested. in the experience that your husband is in basic terms too chicken to stand up to him, then you certainly've plenty extra issues then we are able to make it easier to with. feels like your husband is telling you this, yet isn't telling you whether or no longer he's involved too. and that's the bigger concern.
2016-10-02 00:15:08
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answered by lavinia 4
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sounds like a jerk i would stay far away from him its only going to end up causing you problems in the long run so if you want to keep your job stay far away i had the same problem and my boss ended up siding with my co worker and i was out of a job
2006-10-06 01:34:23
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answered by lisaisfunn1 3
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Who is this Idiot who does not like contessa . probably he wouldn't have travelled in it give him ride everything will be fine.
2006-10-06 01:35:06
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answered by sunny 2
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Your last sentence has your answer. It wasn't his choice therefore don't worry about it.
2006-10-06 01:34:57
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answered by ? 5
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jus rolll
2006-10-06 01:33:35
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answered by Anonymous
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