Hi i was just having fun and i got pregnant , i decided to have my baby but i don't like the father of my baby but he actually is so happy and excited to have the baby and he wants to make a nice family, but i don't want to get married now????? what should i do?
2006-10-06 01:25:38 · 26 answers · asked by alfa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
getting married because a child is involved is a bad idea!
2006-10-06 01:41:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't! If you are asking then you shouldn't. Marriages do not work out, just because the guy is a good father, if you are not happy with him, then the family thing won't work. I would just let him know, you are not ready for marriage and are not really sure if you will ever be, with him. Let him be a good dad and be there for your baby. It would be selfish to you and your baby to marry for the wrong reasons, it would only lead to disaster. Who knows, maybe after awhile, he will grow on you, and could possibly start having the same feelings for him, but until then, don't get married now. Good luck and take care.
2006-10-06 08:31:35 · answer #2 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him that you do not want to get married, there is no need to marry him just because you are pregnant and you two can still be a happy family even though you are not married. You should be more careful about what you do and how you do it and you would not have to worry about this type of thing. I think that you should be honest with him and do what you need to do to take care of you and your child.
2006-10-06 08:50:19 · answer #3 · answered by Nicole C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont now then you will not love him later,,, even if he is the father of the baby but I know that you are going to married with someone that you dont love,, and if he is so happy like he say's then even if you dont get married with him he is still going to be in your childs life,,, he say's he wants to have a nice family but think about it,, if you get married with him and you dont like him then thats not a happy family.....
2006-10-06 08:47:17 · answer #4 · answered by Airforcepink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's wonderful that he wants to be part of yours and the babies life, however this is not a good enough reason to marry him. You may change your mind in the future, but for now focus on the new life you are about to bring in the world. It would not be fair to you, him, or the child to marry out of obligation. How happy would any of you really be?
Let him down gently and tell him you want to be friends and co-parents for now, and you'll both see where it leads to.
Congratulations and best of luck to you.
2006-10-06 08:42:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get married only when you are right and ready to do so. Not anytime sooner or later.
When you decide to get married, it must be for keeps. Look around you. How many married couples have decided to divorce or separate? How many are in the process of doing the same? Do you want to add yourself to the statistics.
Its good, you decided to have the baby. Now include your baby in planning for the future also. choice of father image in the house is critical in securing baby's growth path.
Remember, don't get married when you are not yet right and ready!
2006-10-06 08:33:48 · answer #6 · answered by Bong-Jeweller of San Francisco 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't! wate to get married for when you are ready! The father of the baby can still be a wonderful father without you being married. if you reach that point in your life where you would want to marry him then go for it, but don't be like me and get married for all the wrong reasons.
2006-10-06 08:46:35 · answer #7 · answered by Icara4ewu 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't marry him because there's going to be a child, but don't tell him you don't want to marry him ever. Tell him you're not ready yet and when you are you'll let him know. You never know after you have the baby how you'll feel. You might want to. So if you don't want to, don't be mean about it. Tell him you need time to think and you'll tell him later. Its no rush. You have plenty of time.
2006-10-06 09:14:02 · answer #8 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't ready to get married. Don't get married. You and your baby's daddy can still raise children living seperate blissful lives. Who says in order to have a nice family you HAVE to get married? If both parents stay in a relationship and they aren't happy, the children will sense it.
2006-10-06 09:04:55 · answer #9 · answered by choosinghappiness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get married! He can have a relationship with the child and not with you! It will be worse on the child later when everyone is unhappy! I say "no relationship with you" but, there will always be a relationship when you have two involved parents. Please remember this in the future! The child and the father are yours the rest of your life even when you are married to someone else!
2006-10-06 08:43:19 · answer #10 · answered by kelley1031 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't marry him. No baby wants to be raised by an unhappy mother. Make sure the dad does his share in raising the kid though.
2006-10-06 08:32:20 · answer #11 · answered by St.Anger 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋