my friend gets married to her live in boyfriend tomorrow,i wrote his name first on the card and envelope coss it looked right somehow,when my partner saw it he told me id made a total **** up and that her name shoould be first as shes my friend,not him.i said "oh well its done now".i told him it dosent matter its not worth getting angry over and he told me im a cocky *****.he makes me feel second rate and second class.he says im an idiot.he gets very angry if i answer him back but he just says whatever he likes to me.i am so sick of it and dont know what to do.
2006-10-06 01:24:50 · 16 answers · asked by NICHOLA 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I thought you always put the man first, even if its the bride that you know.
As for him, dump his ***!
2006-10-06 01:27:27 · answer #1 · answered by OriginalBubble 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to control you but before that kicks in fully, where you dont go out anymore or you lose touch with your friends and family or you look in a mirror and feel nothing but self loathing for yourself he first has to crush you. Anyone who makes you feel bad about yourself should be cut loose from your life because no-one needs that in their lives. Dont let him treat you like that and talk to someone close to you if you feel in the least bit threatened by this f*ckwit and get yourself back in control.
Really the best of luck to you. Take Care
2006-10-06 08:38:15 · answer #2 · answered by kookiboo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I always thought the mans name was put first but it doesn't really matter which way round you put it as it's the thought of the card that counts. Your partner has no reason to get angry with you over a silly thing like that, you don't need someone who shouts at you everytime you something, get rid of him and find someone who respects you and appreciates the things you do.
2006-10-06 08:32:40 · answer #3 · answered by emmalp75 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Doesnt sound like a relationship that's very loving or happy, and you might want to reconsider it. Your partner is supposed to support you, not belittle you.
As for the letter, it's traditionally acceptable if you're writing a formal letter to write the male's name first when writing to a married couple. It wouldn't be a faux pas to write her name first either, but the point was that you weren't wrong. And if it was a letter that was supposed to be addressed to your friend, then you'd put your friend's name only.
2006-10-06 08:30:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave him NOW!!! I don't think that you are all that and hes just an @ss. If hes saying things like that to you now don't you think it could get worse? Like he might start hitting you?? If and when you leave him DO NOT go back to him... You can find the man of your dreams if you just leave him. And after you leave him if he stalks you or anything I think you should get a restraining order against him. Good Luck and if your going to leave him do it quickly!
2006-10-06 08:42:03 · answer #5 · answered by Skylar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he feels that way about you why is he with you, either he adores you and is frightened that if you know how much you could take advantage and he might get hurt or he is a control freak, if he is the later get rid of him asap as the only person he will ever love is himself
2006-10-06 08:30:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will tell you what nobody told me..... leave. right now, and dont look back. You will never win, you will never be happy because he will treat you like crap every day. These people get worse not better. Nobody told me, and I probably would not have listened if they had, but hindsight is 20/20.
Good luck.
2006-10-06 08:29:58 · answer #7 · answered by tigweldkat 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The truth is he feels totally threatened by you! so every chance he gets he will belittle you and your confidence will get lower and lower until you feel you are really lucky that he will put up with you!
Dump him now, because you are far too good for him!
2006-10-06 08:56:32 · answer #8 · answered by libbyft 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
letters and cards are addressed mr and mrs usually - so the names on the inside would be in the same order - regardless of who you know better. your man sounds like a fool - Id dump him and find yourself someone much better! You deserve it! xx
2006-10-06 10:34:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all does it matter.. r u getting married?? were the invites for u and ur on and off partner??? u write it the way u want to and thats that.. tell him to go and **** off.. u need to make him a permenant off partner and move on.. what is w/these girls these days.. u act like u can't stand up to guys like u need them... girl get some self-esteem and drop that zero.....
2006-10-06 08:28:42 · answer #10 · answered by Queen D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would get rid of him if I were you. No-one deserves to be spoken to like that. He will just get worse as time goes on and your confidence fades.
2006-10-06 08:33:56 · answer #11 · answered by lucyt20 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋