He gets very upset and really beats himself up like he is dumb or not deserving to be in 3rd grade. They also do not get credit for their work. Am I overreacting?
2006-10-06 00:54:48 · 31 answers · asked by sssssssssssssssssssssss 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Teaching
Your comments, are you talking about the teacher or the student?
A teacher that is that theatrical or in such poor control of himself doesn't belong in a classroom with children. If I had a ranch I don't think I'd want that person to work with my animals either!!!
2006-10-06 05:10:06 · answer #1 · answered by OldGringo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had teachers that were @ssholes when I was younger and it really hurt me. Rather than turn in some assignments that I thought may be not good enough or made fun of by the teacher I would take an F and say I didnt do it at all.
I was poor growing up so when it came to projects that I had to do I couldnt always buy the things I needed for them. I had projects ridiculed by many a teacher and if I ever found out that (or what you said) happened to MY child I would immediately have a serious discussion with the principal and try to get my kid moved to another class. If the teacher is nasty enough to tear up homework then he/she is nasty enough to hold a grudge against your son for getting them in trouble. Also, if the principal doesnt want to work with you and seems to think this is not a serious problem simply tell them you will just take this to the school board. No matter who you deal with in situations like this there is ALWAYS a higher authority.
Dont make your son suffer with this teacher. Take it from someone who has been there. It still bothers me today what those teachers did and I am 27 now.
2006-10-06 01:08:20 · answer #2 · answered by Amy >'.'< 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think I would have to ask myself a few questions before overreacting.
1. Was the child's work following the directions the teacher set forth or sloppy? What was wrong with the work your child did?
2. Did your child display some sort of misbehavior or disrespect towards the teacher?
3. Did the teacher truly do this not realizing the impact it would have on your son? (I have thrown out drawings or work my son has done just in cleaning up that I didn't think he would miss...then he would show that he was dissapointed that I didn't keep it for ever and ever amen).
If this teacher simply did it to manifest their anger and frustration...then it is emotionally and mentally abusive and you should schedule a meeting with the principal and the teacher immediately. Do not allow them to "sweet talk" you and lay down the law expecting results in the misconduct of the teacher. Make certain that the principal and the teacher understand you beyond a shadow of a doubt what is unacceptable. Do not make "threats" give warnings as to what will happen if drastic improvement is not made! Don't accept ANY Crap in otherwords!
If however... the child did not do what they should have done. Was disrespectful etc... Sit your son down in front of that teacher commending them for trashing their work! Don't raise a brat! Make certain your son knows that you and the teacher are on the same side. HIS! Truly loving your son means sometimes being hard-nosed for his own good and explain to him that you wouldn't be a good parent nor love him very much if you just let him do whatever he wanted and didn't correct him. Ground him and make him do the assignment over again too. Next time he won't try to get away with sloppy work or disrespect. Don't baby him above all! We mothers have to work hard on extending the rope for failure a bit. He must learn from his mistakes...if that is not taught to him, he will continue to fall.
2006-10-06 04:01:14 · answer #3 · answered by peacemaker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What 's worse than that!?! You are trusting your child for eight hours a day with someone whom has no self control. What's next? What else has this teacher done?
Most eight year olds are still very compliant and really don't question too much. Let your child know how you feel about this situation. Do not let this teacher in any way- get away with this.
This should be a face to face confrontation. The fact that your child has lost points should also be a reason to question his/her actions. Zero credit stands for work not completed or not turned in on time. Partial credit should be given if the work was not done according to requirements. But, his/her actions were reprehensible!!!!!!! Take action immediately.
2006-10-06 01:39:55 · answer #4 · answered by Hi D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A teacher with a poor self esteem I guess. Go and speak to adminstrative. You are not over-reacting. In fact I am going to see the principal at my daughters school on Monday. The kids here in South Africa went back to school on Monday the 2nd October for the final term. My daughter got a new teacher this term and I was told this afternoon when I picked her up, that this teacher has been using the "F" word in class. If you ask her anything she replies "leave me alone and "F -Off". My daughter was very upset cos she was told yesterday to bring an article on "Child Labour" my daughter got the info of the internet and was penalised today because it was not cut out of a newspaper. She was not given her credits and name has been put down in the disciplinary file for the first time in 6 years. She is in Grade 6. Stand up for your child. Go to school and complain. You owe it to your son Give him a voice!!!
I don't know which part of the world you are in but if your child has just been back to school (beginning of the new term) ask the principal to change his class. Put him in another grade three school. As a parent you have the rights to ask the principal. Your son's well being is of utmost importance here.
2006-10-06 01:07:07 · answer #5 · answered by zaazzy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's pretty harsh. If you're in secondary school, and your homework is awful, i think your teacher shouldn't yell or be angry; that means that the pupil really doesn't understand the material, and needs extra attention. (Otherwise it's just lazyness). But an 8 year old is just a kid. Kids don't care about homework, they want to play and have a good time with their friends. They still have to learn the importance of school, homework, studying,.... and it's the teachers job to guide them at that age. That 8 year old, even if the homework was lousy, needs to be treated with more respect, .... After all he's just a kid.
2006-10-06 03:36:14 · answer #6 · answered by Art Girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's slightly a lot, uless your newborn is contained in the Mensa college for ordinary scholars! i have by no skill heard of a first grad newborn studying to spell pleasant, and so on. And the quantity of homework is extreme. regardless of if that's previous due contained in the three hundred and sixty 5 days, you'll talk this with the instructor, when I time it for some evenings. It sounds like it takes an hour or better. you may want to courteously enable her understand you sense that's too a lot homework. for my section, i imagine first grade babies would have slightly homework for the weekend, and that i do not see some thing incorrect with holding song of the books you examine with them a pair cases a week. yet your damaging daughter's homework is ridiculous.
2016-10-16 03:46:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel. this is really not good nor it is right. i know teacher's should mold students to be educated people but tearing a homework and throwing it away infront of the kid is nothing more than telling the kid that he cant make it, he shouldn't be in third grade and that his homework is rubbish and he's stupid. that is something that will tear the boy's heart and will discourage him to do better in school. you have to confront the teacher and dont let this slip away. this may not only happen to your kid. talk to the principal so the teacher will be sanctioned and dealt with accordingly. teachers are role models but this one is not even close to setting a good example. fight for your kid. let him know that you're there and that you believe in him.
2006-10-06 01:03:54 · answer #8 · answered by deedee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call up the principal of that school at your earliest opportunity!
Remind your son that teachers are people too, and some are better than others. Tell him not to give up on school just because his current teacher is making him feel bad. There are better ones that he will have in the future.
2006-10-06 01:04:41 · answer #9 · answered by Elaura 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, i see how they coddle the kids in school now, basically letting them play in the sandbox all day till they go home to their parents, like free babysitting that my tax money is paying for. 3rd grade isnt too young to learn to do things correctly, and that no credit will be given for work that isnt worthy of credit. We are doing no favors to them by letting them slide through the way schools are doing. That said, for kids that age treatment like that may be a little rough, this teacher is probably thinking the ends justify the means, and although it may work, it wont work if the parents and the school dont follow up and support.. the teacher, instead of firing him and coddlling the kids.
2006-10-06 01:01:04 · answer #10 · answered by rand a 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋