My husband says he loves me, but I'm not sure he does. He's done some things in our marriage and now I question staying with him. What do y'all think he could/should do to prove he loves me?
2006-10-06 00:50:26 · 21 answers · asked by vitamin D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He doesn't act like he wants to be married to me. So when I tell him that I get the feeling he wants a divorce, he tells me that he doesn't. He says he loves me, but he cheated on me twice. So, maybe he shouldn't have to prove he loves me, but he could at least show he wants to be with me. Right? Come on guys, I'm gonna show this to him. What can he do to make me believe he wants to stay married to me?
2006-10-06 01:08:06 · update #1
He shouldn't HAVE to PROVE to you that he loves you. If yo udon't feel the same way about him in your heart, yo uguys need to seek professional marriage counseling. Otherwise, you will be doomed.
2006-10-06 00:53:09 · answer #1 · answered by bradnmich2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man will rarely show the immense love he has for his wife. Men are not as expressive as women when it comes to showing their love. Some women may just not be looking hard enough to find that love. Here are a few ways listed below:
* He will usually surprise you by taking you out to dinner or shopping.
* He holds you close at nite and kisses you, which may rather surprise you.
* He calls you during a busy day, just to say hello and how much he loves you.
* His priority and prime responsibility is the family - You and the kids!!
* He makes plans with you and tells you about his dreams and plans of a better future for the family.
* He spends more time with you and the kids and never brings his work home.
* He will take you out no matter how late he may get back from work - just to keep his promise.
* He will try to find a solution to most problems by compromising in any way (which may not necessarily involve saying sorry) just so that you don't feel hurt
* He shows concern by asking how you feeling when you're unwell?
* He kisses you goodbye even if you're asleep while he leaves for work.
* He understands and acknowledges when there is a problem, eventho' he may not say anything. He will just be silent - coz he's thinking of a solution perhaps or rather what went wrong.
* He will never raise his hand to hit!
2006-10-06 08:17:48 · answer #2 · answered by Wiseguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By putting her above all. By telling her that you find her attractive. By being there to help out . Doing anything that you can physically do to help out if its cooking doing dishes cleaning house taking care of the child or children. Doing the laundry. You know what needs done . Just do it .. Show her that she is appreciated. Thank her for the meal tell her how good it was....Going out of your way because you feel her in your heart. Even when you are mad at her. You still feel the love for that person...Walk in hand her a hand full of wild flowers and just smile and say you love her. Hold her reach out open the door for her in Public.........Guess ultimately you want her happy. Even if you know you cannot always make her happy or not depressed...Even just say to her. how much she is appreciated. Above all never just walk out to go to work or anywhere without saying you love them .Because that may be your last words she may here from you...Can go on and on......
2006-10-06 08:25:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He lost trust , He should be accountable for his actions or lack of, he does love you , he just has not shown you that he does in the way you need him to, Ask him if he loves you and if he wants to make it work ( even if you know the answer), ask him in a non threatening place like at a little lunch date. Then you think about what you need, not what you think society thinks you need. Tell him flat out. for example ( I need you to tell me I am pretty, I need you to tell me where you are, I need you to help with the dishes, I need you to not get defensive, I know all these things may not apply to you but the point is to be blunt, specific and fair,. Despite what they want to believe men really are not mind readers or fortune tellers. They mostly thrive on simplicity, want to know what you whant..etc..hope it helps
2006-10-06 08:04:27 · answer #4 · answered by sweet pea 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The question is what would he have to do to make you feel like he loves you? Sometimes talking to a marriage counselor can help bring a new set of eyes to everything and help fix the problem.
2006-10-06 08:10:30 · answer #5 · answered by sscott12414 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey if a person loves you they shouldn't have to prove anything, you would just know without them giving you anything or saying anything to you. And right now you are not feeling it. It may be over and hell no! he's not gonna admit it.
2006-10-06 07:56:38 · answer #6 · answered by Bootilicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever read men are from mars women are from Venus? The only thing I really got from the book is that women and men show their love differently. Men feel loved when they are trusted. Women feel loved when they are appreciated. You should reanalyze what it is your husband does/does not do to make you feel loved. Then talk it out with him. As for him doing things you question- Men do dumb things. I think it is inherent in being a man.
2006-10-06 07:56:16 · answer #7 · answered by gizbit76 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He is probably expressing his love for you in a way you do not realize. One of the worst things you can do is expect him to express his in a way that is beyond his personality. If yo really want him to express his love then I suggest that you start by loving him more, by loving him more you will cause him to realize that he is loved in spite of what he did to you. This will in time cause him to release in his own creative ways that he loves you. Please do not expect him to follow a specific route in showing that he loves you that will only cause you to be blind to the fact that he is probably expressing his love for you. If you have access to a Bible read 1Corinthians 13, its about Love, for every part in that chapter that you see the words "love" or "charity" in some versions put your name in that slot. Example, if a verse say 'love is patient' then say 'Vitamin D is Patient' and then make a conscious decision to be patient.
2006-10-06 08:35:52 · answer #8 · answered by Jesus Loves Me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say but if he cheated on you twice and you feel he doesn't love you... he probably doesn't. You may want to think about sending him packing. If my wife cheated on me once she'd be out no ifs ands or buts.
2006-10-06 08:20:10 · answer #9 · answered by St.Anger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get him to court u again! if he does it then he really loves u and that he might just be going through some prob that he doesnt want to share.. for men, sharing prob is like a sign of weakness.. if he really wants to be with u, then he will court u again.. u make the first move.. it will takes him ages to make the first move.. all the best!
2006-10-06 08:22:29 · answer #10 · answered by I need a vacation! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋