Discipline in the Home?

Question

I was watching supernanny on tv the other evening (never seen it before) and i had to wander to myself what the world was coming to, if you felt that you needed a stranger to come into your home to tell you how to deal with your children!!!!
Madness or what??
Your views please, would like to know what the public think on this issue.
Genuine replies only thank you.

Answer 1

I agree with you, I just cannot imagine why any parent would need to bring that woman into their life to sort their children out, if they spent more time sorting their own kids out and stopped giving in to them too much the 'super' nanny wouldn't be needed would she, I don't believe any child should be smacked at all, they should have their privileges taken away from them instead and if you teach your child from day one then you will never need the uses of some 'super' nanny.

Answer 2

Well, since children don't come with an instruction manual...
Just kiddin'

Sometimes an unbiased outside view is helpful. I saw the show once- and the kids were out of control!! Believe me- that family needed HELP- in any shape or form they could get. Moms and Dads are emotionally attached to children- so it is hard sometimes for them to see what really needs to be done. They are too afraid of being mean or making the children not like them.

So, in short- I think the show illustrates some of the more dramatic cases, but I imagine that some families deal with this type of thing every day- and if this is what it takes so be it. It's better than beating the tar out of the kids because of sheer frustration or sending mom and dad over the edge.

Answer 3

As a parent, when you need a stranger in your house to take control of your kids, you may as well fly the white flag of surrender outside your front door and admit that you are a failure.

It is shameful that these people let their children get so out of control. Any time I have seen the show, I am always appalled at the children's behaviour, but more often I am horrified at the parent's behaviour. I'm certain that a child who thinks nothing of physically attacking their parent did not start to act out in this way. This is obviously something that has escalated over time and the parent has not addressed it effectively. In many cases, the parents contribute to the problem by screaming at the top of their lungs, not challenging the child or simply ignoring it. Unfortunately they think nothing of the kind of menace they are unleashing on society. I would hate to see how some of these children behave in school.

It is a good example of why ill equipped, clueless people should not procreate.

Answer 4

I know that (as a mother), sometimes I feel a little lost. Watching something like super nanny can make me feel great about my parenting. I'm doing ok. My children eat well adn play well, they're not spoiled or selfish, and their little episodes are just a way of letting me know that they haven't had enough sleep, or I haven't spent enough time playing, or I've been working too much.

I'm really lucky though, I have a great network of family and friends around and I can utilise their knowledge and time when I need it.

Some people don't have the advantages I have. Our world is so fast and full of dangers at the moment, junk food and food additives being the silent destroyer of so many families happiness. If it takes a show like super nanny to point this out to some people I can only applaud it!

Answer 5

Part of my teacher training involved a course in child psychology. My second child was born in Switzerland in 1971 and yes, I bought Dr. Spock's book on Child Care because of the useful information about recognising chidlhood illnesses and I read it and discounted most of the advice on discipline. When she was 2 1/2 we went on site to Australia and, since her sister was in school, I started taking her to a play-group. Most of the other mothers had also read Dr. Spock, and swallowed it hook, line and sinker. I remember when a child threw his toy car at my daughter, giving her a nasty bruise on her head. Did the mother apologise? No, she smiled at me and said, 'He's feeling a little agressive today.' At a Christmas party for the play group, the mothers were asked to bring contibutions for the snack. One child sat at the table with his arms round what his mother had brought. Mum said, 'He's feeling a little possessive.'
As a surrogate Grandmother (my step-son's child) I try to avoid comment, but sometimes it's really difficult. My Grandchild is really educating her mother. If she doesn't get her own way she screams. The last time this happened when I was present, her mother, and her two aunts smothered her with kisses and bribes.
I said to my son, 'Can you see any tears?' There weren't any. Although she's not quite 2 years old, she's potty trained, but if she doesn't like the clothes she's wearing she'll wet herself.
And it doesn't stop there. My son's biological mother, a Kurdish Turk, told her son, on the telephone, that he should 'spoil' his daughter. (Give her what she wants). He replied that his daughter was growing up in Switzerland and that she had to learn how to behave. He then embarassed me by adding that I agreed with him.
I had to contend with my mother-in-law when my first child was a baby. If we visited for a weekend, it would take me till Wednesday to convince her that I wasn't going to come running everytime she squeaked.
There are people who haven't got a clue about how to bring up their kids. My problem with the programme Super Nanny is that the parents don't seem to be intellectually challenged, or whatever the PC term is these days.

Answer 6

It is madness in a sense but these people really have no clue. I watched one where a two year old and six year old were calling their mother wh*re and b*tch,punch and kick their mother too and the parents would not repremand them. I think that the show can only do good as it can help those who really had no business having the kids in the first place!!!

Answer 7

I'm no fan of Supernanny, and I agree with you its a sad statement on society. But to me it simply reflects that our society does not value the family.

And I think its pretty obvious that clueless parents would've had clueless parents themselves. Good parenting is not taught anywhere - hence Supernanny steps in to fill the gap.

Answer 8

I would have one of them come into my home. That's for sure. It's not a bad thing to need help sometimes. My 3 kids drive me up the wall!! GRRR! The way they fight all the time. They don't listen to me about cleaning up and stuff. Sometimes kids listen to other people before they listen to the parents. I admit I don't like people telling me what to do and it may turn out to be a power struggle but in the end it would help I'm sure.

Answer 9

I would have 2 agree with you! I cant see myself letting a stranger come in my house and follow me around then telling me what i do wrong and what it is i need 2 do!! But some of them kids on that show are horribly BAD!! But i do believe in timeout and spanking ( not beating) But she thinks its a good idea 2 keep doing the same **** over and over and that gets old i think a good firm hand on a** then timeout is good hell it works with my boys!!

Answer 10

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